My bf (30M) keeps making comments about my weight. We got in a HUGE argument about it 6 months ago and it kinda stopped. Since then, I’ve lost over 50 pounds and I’ve been trying to be comfortable talking to him about all of the weight loss stuff (I started ozempic and it’s a whole process) and trying to be normal/open about it with him.
Today I was asking if I looked different than last year and he reassured me that I did. Then he was asking why I couldn’t tell, and I just said that I’ve always had a problem with body dysmorphia so I can never really tell if my mental image is accurate. I gave a kinda funny example to lighten the mood and said that my bff is 5’11 and for a long time I thought she and I were the same height (I’m 5’3). He said “you are much bigger than her”, which was not even a logical response to my comment and hurtful for no reason. I said that me and her share clothes, so we’re obviously pretty similar in size. He emphasized AGAIN that I’m MUCH bigger than her.
I don’t understand why that was necessary or relevant and idk if it’s even true, because we share clothes!!!! And I hate that he keeps being the absolute worst about this stuff. He’s autistic and I know that might play a part in this, but he’s never rude/mean about anything else so this feels intentional.
I’m so frustrated I don’t even know how to approach the topic without just saying “I hate you so much rn”.
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Can’t you just put on your old clothes and see that you look different? Yeah his comments was rude but why are you asking for reassurance about your weight? Only you will truly feel the difference because your clothes would either be too big or too tight?
Also it could be his wording. It could be saying they you have more curves than her. Like bigger chest, wider hips etc. If you’re uncomfortably about him commenting on your weight tel him to stop and if he won’t leave. He’s messing with your body image and it can cause more damage.