I (38f) have an almost 2 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend(48m). I’ve felt something off with him and asked him about it but he said he was still in love with me and telling me how great I am. A few days ago I told him I’m getting the feeling he’s planning on selling his house. He admitted yes he thinks it’s time due to his financial situation. He still owns this house with his ex wife. They were divorced 4 years ago. The next day he said he emailed his realtor (ex wife’s cousin) and she was letting ex wife know. Today I got him to admit he actually texted his ex wife almost 3 weeks ago and never told me.
This feels like such betrayal to me. I thought we were working toward a future together and he’s not even telling me he’s about to sell his house. He said he was scared to tell me and he was going to but just hadn’t.
We already live 1000 miles apart and he’s planning to sell his house and move farther away but swears he wants to be with me. Am I overreacting thinking 1. This is betrayal and 2. This is a move not just physically away from me but emotionally.
My life has been very stressful the last couple of months and he said he didn’t want to add to that.
Tl;dr my boyfriend decided to sell his house and text his ex wife 3 weeks ago and didn’t tell me until I dragged it out of him.