My boyfriend M(18) has lost interest in having sex with me F(18)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months now, he never seemed like the type to want to have sex as he stressed the importance of waiting for the right person to do everything with, I am his first kiss and first time.
Our sex used to be good, we waited 4 months into our relationship to start and after the first time he later admitted he had been thinking of doing it since a month into dating.
Recently he has been making excuses, commonly asking if I “could hear something” insinuating someone would hear or walk in on us..I live by myself. Just last night during sex he paused to put on a condom and immediately went soft, I said we didn’t have to do anything tonight and he explained that when he pauses, he loses interest. He regrets sex after we have it, he feels guilty, and to top it off he tells me we do it too often (we do it once a week, maybe twice) and that he doesn’t even enjoy it..He even said he wishes we waited longer to have sex and hinted that we never should have done it in the first place, leaving me so confused and hurt.
I felt pretty hurt because I was the one who wanted to take things slow in the beginning and he wanted to start having sex, so now for him to say he doesn’t even like it and wants to stop for a while makes me feel like he’s pulling away, but i’m not sure how he’s really feeling, I’m hoping this is a common occurrence for men because I know I ain’t that ugly lol
What should I do and how do I react in this situation? things have been rocky lately I hope he’s not hinting to an end in our relationship.
tdlr: my boyfriend has said he lost interest in sex, that he regrets it and thinks we do it too often. What do I do?
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Honestly you should break up with him. I’m your age too and if my boyfriend was doing that I’d dump him. It will just lead to more issues in the future. Him getting soft is his body literally saying it’s not attracted to you
You are on the beginning pages of your love life. You have so, SO much time to find the right person that meets your needs, especially intimate ones! Don’t waste your time with someone who isn’t going to meet them.
Sounds like maybe he wasn’t ready to be sexually active? He might be dealing with questioning his sexuality.
Saying “I don’t even like it” is hard to come back from. I would suggest breaking up to let him figure out his sexuality. What future is there if he doesn’t like sex with you?
If the problem persists, suggest visiting a sex therapist or relationship counselor, especially since his talk of “regret” indicates a deep internal conflict.