Sometimes I stay up late because I have difficulties sleeping so I scroll on Reddit or Instagram. I went upstairs to not bother him, but at some point he decided to come up. I felt some tension, so I admittedly was a little annoying and asked him if he’s okay.
He said that he’s bothered by me staying up late so I asked him why, as I’m not hurting anyone with it. Then, I started crying because it’s not the first time he’s bothered by something. He’s bothered by me eating pizza, wearing makeup at home, and going to shopping malls. I stopped wearing makeup and going to shopping malls because he would also accuse me of cheating. I spend all of my time at home now because I can’t deal with this anymore.
As I started crying, he started recording me and spoke very calmly and eloquently. He studied law so he knows how to argue and make me look crazy. I’m just confused about why he’s bothered about me doing harmless things. I already told him that it’s controlling and that I feel like I’m in a prison. He belittled me because of that. I also started packing my things because I don’t think this is normal.
He offered to drive me to the new place I will move into, but I declined. It’s almost 3 in the morning, and I don’t want to bother other people there by moving now. I’m also a little scared because he knows where I live and he flipped the script and said that I am the emotionally unstable one, and everyone knows it. He also said that I will change my mind and start harassing him, which is not true. Once I get away from him, I’ll never want to see or talk to him again. I’m not a stalker, or unstable. I’m being pushed to my limits, but no one seems to believe me.
How can I get out of this situation safely? I just want to live a peaceful life where I can do the things I do without being criticized or have someone be mad at me.
TLDR; My boyfriend (M29) repeatedly criticizes me (F24) for doing things that don’t hurt anyone, and I’ve reached my limit. I started crying so he recorded me, and I don’t feel safe because he’s calling me unstable and saying that I will harass him.
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When can you move into the new place?
Oh sweetie. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Your bf is an asshole and he is gaslighting and manipulating you. If you can change where you’re moving to to a place where he won’t know, I’d do that, then get out as soon as conceivably possible.
You are being abused. Google “the hotline” in incognito mode when he is not around. There are professionals that can help you come up with a plan to escape and give you advice and resources. You can chat just by texting. Best of luck to you.
I know he will read this because he watches my reddit account, but I don’t care anymore. I am leaving.
Run away from him and never look back. How dare he tell you and do the things he’s doing! He’s manipulating you and gaslighting you. Sounds like a narcissist to me!! Where do you live? Uk? If so you can speak to the police if he starts hassling you. Change your number and move in the morning. Don’t look back. If he knows law he will know that he can’t do half the things he’s doing. I would suggest that you speak to the police aswell as they are aware. Technically he hasn’t done anything wrong but if he’s harassing you, you can actually put in a complaint and report him . Hopefully it won’t come to that. I guarantee he doesn’t like you moving on… HES THE INSECURE ONE! walk away hunni it would be the best thing you have ever done and don’t speak to him EVER again! He sounds like a complete and utter control freak!! Your 27! Got your whole life ahead of you girl xx trust me! ❤️💐