So basically my boyfriend (M21) a bad person but he often makes me spend my money because he is broke half of the time. I understand he doesnt earn and his parents do not give him enough money but so am i. I (F20) also don’t earn and only get pocket money. My pocket money is very very little while he gets money on the daily basis but because of car petrol he gets broke easily.
2 months back i received a lot of money from somewhere and was really happy that now i wont have to live hand to mouth for some months. I wanted to save up for bad times. I even told him about how i dont want my account to get empty and wanna save up. And i was also doing good i didnt run out of money for 2 3 months entirely but last month he made me spend so much that i went completely broke. He made me pay for his meals, took me out to some cafe and made me pay there too because there was no “card payment”, even took some money from me which he still hasn’t returned. I went completely broke.
Now the thing is that he has also spent on me a lot of times, took me out on dates and gave me gifts. He loves me a lot ik that. But if he us broke (which he most of the times is) he shouldn’t put all the burden on me too right. Cuz I’m just a student and even more broke than him ðŸ˜.He didnt even respect my wish of saving up money.
Even when i want something he cant give it to me. It feels like this relationship is a big burden for both of us financially. If you cant afford a relationship kindly dont bother being in one.
TL;DR : My boyfriend makes me spend my money a lot of times which made me go broke af and now idk what to do because this thing keeps pissing me off.
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He can’t force you to spend money. You are allowed to say no.
Are you able to get a part-time job to help save up money? Also, find ways to save money. Stay home, eat in. Go to a public free space to hang out. You don’t always need money to do something.