My boyfriend (24M) of 4 months started experiencing some STI symptoms not long after we started sleeping together. He told his parents and they made an appointment (and accompanied him) to go get tested. Sure enough he tested positive for Chlamydia.
Now his parents know that I have Chlamydia too and was likely the one who gave it to him. He seems to be convinced I gave it to him even though neither of us got tested after our most recent partners. He won’t even listen when I suggest that maybe he had it first. He just keeps saying that it was me who gave it to him from sleeping around (which I never did) as a “lighthearted” joke.
Should I tell him that it makes me uncomfortable having his parents so involved in our sex life? Or is it normal for parents to be this involved? I could never imagine telling my parents something like this, let alone having them involved in making my appointments, talking to my doctors, etc. but maybe that’s just me.
btw I have an appointment to go get tested so I can start on antibiotics ASAP
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Tell him the jokes aren’t funny and his parents being that involved is crossing a line. If he can’t respect basic privacy and keeps blaming you, I’d bounce.
It is not normal for his parents to be involved in this situation . Assuming you both are around the same age, I think it may be a bit of a red flag that his parents are still making his appointments. The “lighthearted joke” he is making gives a sense of insecurity that likely will trickle into accusations, based on my experience anyways. I think it would be wise of you to be honest about how you feel like some boundaries are being crossed. Convos about boundaries are extremely important to the longevity of a relationship, and parents overstepping is certainly an issue that should be addressed ASAP.
its not normal. speak to your boyfriend immediately. if doesn’t respect your boundaries, step away.
why the fuck is your 24 year old boyfriend having his parents make doctors appointments for him? do you genuinely see someone like that being a stable partner? just block him.
Aside from the immature jokes which aren’t funny or acceptable, why exactly does a 24 year old man need to tell his parents about a (very treatable) STI and why couldn’t he make the appointment himself?
24 years old and has mom and dad involved in his sexual medical advice?
Fuckin nope. That is a boy, and will ever remain such.
Lots of advice here but also you should make sure to get tested for STIs as well.
I honestly didn’t see the ages at first, and though you guys were 17.
24 years old and he needed his parents to accompany him to a doctor’s appointment. Why on Earth at that age would you tell your parents you have an STD. Honestly I would dump his ass this is just a look into your future with him anything that goes wrong will get blamed on you. Here’s the thing too when you get an STD you’re supposed to tell your most recent partner besides when you’re currently with to get tested if your previous partner doesn’t have it then guess who gave it to you.
I can’t really judge anyone’s relationship with their parents. Good on him for being close enough to tell them that (I’d be terrified of telling m my parents — or anyone honestly — something like that but that’s just me) but it’s a major dick move to tell them that since they know you two are in a relationship. If he was a single guy and he told them he got it because he slept around or slept with someone they didn’t know, that’s one thing. But I feel real bad for you that they know it, and honestly I’d take it as real disrespect, even if he wasn’t intentionally doing that. Because if he told them, who knows who else he told or who else they told. And if (when) you break up they’ll always see you as the girl who gave their son the clap.
My 18-year-old nephew would be PISSED if his parents tried to get involved in his sex life. And he would be justified.
Find a man.
He’s apparently a big baby, not a man. I would advise OP to move on. I would never be able to look at him the same way again. Truly gross behavior!
Your BF sounds like a suckhole, and only telling his parents so they pay!
He really needs to do some research, you also. Chlamydia can be very dangerous and greatly impact fertility.
People can go on with their lives without symptoms at all(more so guys)
His behavior is one of the oddest things I’ve ever heard.
First off get tested for all STD’s and the second part is easy cut if off with him and his creepy family. This isn’t normal.
A reasonable and logical man would easily say, could have been me that got it first. The fact that he is so insistent it’s your fault makes me think he is actually the guilty party. I would be interested in doing the math on dates and symptoms. Do you have symptoms? If you don’t have symptoms how is he gonna say it’s your fault?
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Dump him. He can’t make his own doctors appointments?
So youre concerned about being embarassed and not that you transmitted an STD to someone and didnt even get tested between partners?
He’s lucky to have parents that he can be open with and that care about his health. Unlike you who put it at risk and are trying to be a victim now
Tell him its not cool! Which 24-year-old does that???
He’s a grown man and he takes his mommy and daddy to his doctor appointment.
I think that he is the one that gave chlamydia to you so he wants to blame you to mom and dad.
That alone would make me say sionara permanently.
He’s a grown man and he takes his mommy and daddy to his doctor appointment.
I think that he is the one that gave chlamydia to you so he wants to blame you to mom and dad.
That alone would make me say sionara permanently.
Girl, run……….. he is playing you. He probably knows who he got it from.
I want you to think really hard. Right now, it’s Chlamydia. What’s next? HiV. Break up with him.
He has slandered your name and given you a disease.
He doesn’t care about you, and he doesn’t respect you.
You have to break up with him.
Love yourself, have pride for yourself. It’s his loss.
Good luck
I mean, people are often close with their parents and just because you aren’t doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be telling his parents about his sexual health.
OMG what an immature little &$@%#
Id tell his parents he’s the one to give it to you , that you’ve had no symptoms and that if your ex had something that he’d tell you and I think he doesn’t plan on a forever relationship with you cause no guy would want their parents to know their future DIL gave their son a std or he’s not very smart