I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, and he simply opened down there to check if I really was a virgin. My boyfriend has always been very jealous and suspicious of me, so it took me a while to decide to lose my virginity with him, and this happened. I felt really bad, not only because of the invasion, but also because I realized that he doesn’t trust me
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Woooof that is tough sledding. If he can’t trust you to tell him the truth, he can’t be trusted to tell the truth either. Do with that information what you will. Hail yourself.
There is no way to check if you are a virgin if you have ever ridden a horse, ride a bike, etc.
That’s psychotic. Please dump that man like the piece of worthless trash that he is.
Respectfully, don’t lose your virginity with someone who doubts your virginity. I know this ship has sailed but the principle holds true regardless. If he doesn’t trust you, don’t trust him with your intimacy.
That’s not right … I would say ask him if you could check if he’s a virgin, but I feel like that would spiral into a weird, “Huh? How?” And him saying “Checking you is different.” …. The point is that he doesn’t need to check you. Too many things in life can tear your hymen. Due to that, checking is pointless.
Why would you loose your virginity to a creep like that? And why he’s still your boyfriend? How many RED flags do you need?
Wait, how does one check this?
Send him away. He’s destroyed any possibility of a decent relationship already.
So did he assume your hymen was intact? That false thinking about “intact hymen= virgin” needs to go away.
girl, dump him and go enjoy a real first time, jfc yikes
You can’t even check that way. Please dump his nasty ass.
Lmfao wtf. OP will be back here talking about her boyfriends controlling and abusive behavior
Dump him immediately.
Run. Sorry you lost your virginity to him. There is no way to check by looking. Especially with an untrained eye.
Girl, that’s a major red flag! Your body, your choice – he’s way out of line for doing that without your consent. Trust is essential in any relationship. Take care of yourself first.
Didn’t read it. Just dumb him. That’s creepy and gross.
Ew, leave him immediately
Please dump him!
This will escalate. He will become abusive. Please leave him while it’s still early. I really don’t mean to scare you but this will lead to dangerous situations.
You make your own choices, but that boy (he ain’t no man) will always be jealous and suspicious. People like that don’t change and that’s fucking crazy lol
GIRL NO! How the fuck would he know what to look for? Does he only fuck virgins? Surely you’re not HIS first. Thats gross and NONE OF HIS BUSINESS. Why would you even allow him to question you or check you. He didn’t even deserve to be your first. He’s controlling and you shouldn’t give him access to your heart or your body moving forward. I hope you learn to love yourself first and more. That guy is a POS.
The beginning of psychological abuse!
what the fuck? this seems like the type of dude who’d get mad if your gynecologist/doctor in general was a man. him checking your hymen is literally psychotic. if he has that bad of trust issues, he should really work on his damn self, don’t allow this behavior to continue, please. for your sake hun, leave, he does not seem like a safe partner.
OP, what other weird, controlling or inappropriate things has he done ?
I bet you can think of several.
Fuck that guy. Don’t sleep with him anymore don’t see him anymore. Delete him from your life and tell him to get help. Legit so sick of these fucking entitled men who think we are property to them. Nope. Run from this red flag.
Leave him, he doesn’t sound like a safe person to be around. (Also, he basically called you a liar? Why do you want to be with him anyway?)
There is nothing weirder than men who are obsessed with their partners still being virgins.
Nvm I take that back, FATHERS who are obsessed with their daughters being virgins are the weirdest.
Run. Don’t walk. Run away now. It will only get worse.
Yep.
Move on. Break up .
He’s trash. He won’t get better , only worse.
He wants to control you.
Yea, I really dont understand why you would go on with it after his own little expection