So basically my bf wants access to basically everything on my phone, and he’ll get mad as hell if I just text a guy bout anything (non sexual obviously) but I have like several brothers, he’ll be like “I want to see everyone you text” but I when I got to look at his phone he jumps up whenever I pick up his phone. I just don’t know what to do with this situation cuz I have nowhere else to go.
(Sorry if some things to make sense I’m a bit intoxicated, it’s hard to focus but I need to know)
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I mean one who suspects usually does it themselves
You gotta work this out with him
Make him your ex boyfriend
This isn’t love, it’s surveillance disguised as affection. If he trusts you so little but guards his own phone like a secret vault, he’s not your partner, he’s your warden and you need freedom, not a prison with WiFi.
He’s the one cheating and you need to break up with his controlling, abusive ass right now.
Assuming based off your other comments you live with him?
Break up. This is just going to get worse.
That’s toxic af. He’s projecting. He’s fuckin around and has convinced himself you must be to in order to justify his actions. Dump this clown.
Do you mean you have no where to go as in no one else to live with if you leave your bf? If that’s the case then you probably need to do as he wants until you can save to leave (as long as he’s not doing anything physical with you). If you mean no one else to talk to about the situation, you need to leave him asap and never look back.
run (nevermind just got better context of your circumstances sorry)
He is projecting and if he isn’t already cheating he is planning on it. Don’t give him anything, if you two didn’t agree to a open phone both ways. Leave this relationship OP.
tell him to date someone he trusts and run. you don’t want to hang around such guys because later on it gets violent
Yeaaa this is narcissistic….you need to make like a tree and leaf.
R.U.N don’t walk to your next boyfriend
Ouch
Even though I don’t have a lot of experience of this type I think you should just first communicate with him why he don’t trust you and why he tries to hide his phone.
Because what your bf is doing is totally wrong if he asks for your phone and social media he needs to show his too it’s just unfair for you if he doesn’t.
If you want you could take this advice or just don’t care what I just said
Tell him to not let the door hit his ass on the way out. You can do way better the controlling behaviour is just going to get worse. Get a burner phone and create an alternative social media presence
Am somewhat curious at how long the two of you have been dating as the sheer level of entitlement he’s showing is already a major red flag and that’s before you even add possessive causing triggers like engagement, marriage or kids to the mix. He’s currently showing you zero trust in what is supposed to be a partnership
That’s an invasion of privacy. Dump him and tell him you don’t need to be with an insecure narcissist.
Break up with him.
Only boys think that way
Probably cheating on you that’s why it’s his first reaction, get rid of him, life is too short to spend time with an untrusting person, tell your brothers after you break up so they watch out for this guy, could harm you if they are the possessive type
No. Hard pass. Hell no.
Very simple
He is seriously insecure or he is cheating on you or both – all outcomes are not acceptable for me and an instant deal break relationship over
Reddit is the worst place for advice
Run! do not walk out of this relationship, he is over controlling and you are set up to suffer the consequences
Post on your socials that you just broke up with a controlling boyfriend.
That’s the only access to your socials or you that he needs starting tomorrow.
He is mirroring.
Please save up and leave his ass.
Do it secretly.
Run!!! It’s going to get worse!🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩