Okay, so I have a kinda bad history with relationships. For instance, there have been times where people just ask me out as a joke, or it was a dare, or just because they pitied me, but recently I got a boyfriend, who we’ll call Nick, and I was so excited because I’ve liked this guy for months and he finally asked me out. I didn’t think he had ulterior motives, but a few hours ago, we were hanging out with a group of our friends and one of his longtime friends was there, who we’ll call Andy. At one point, while most people were just kinda doing their own thing, Andy asked Nick why he was still dating me and Nick shushed him really quickly and they left to talk in private. I don’t think they didn’t know I heard Andy’s question because I was talking with one of my other friends, but I did. So now I’m freaking out because I was really hoping I wasn’t just some joke or some charity case for my boyfriend, but since he got so secretive about the question from Andy, I’m really spiraling. I really hope I’m just overreacting, but I’m scared. I think I just need an outside perspective on the situation before I talk to Nick about it. Thanks for reading.
My boyfriend was asked why he was still dating me, what do I do?
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are you having sex? sounds like he wants sex and is grumpy about it.
That question wasn’t innocent, it was a gut punch dressed as small talk and your fear is valid. Talk to Nick directly if he’s real about you he’ll shut down your doubts louder than he shut down Andy.
The fact that Nick shushed him quickly could actually be a good sign like he was protecting you from Andy’s BS. But your anxiety is totally valid given your past experiences.
Just ask him. Tell him that bothered you a lot- not just the question, but the fact that the whole thing was secret. That sent the message that there’s something shady or secretive in the reasons why he’s dating you. You thought it was because he liked you, but you’re now worried there’s something else, and if there is you want to know it before you and he go any deeper.
Totally get why that shook you. It sounds like your boyfriend didn’t entertain the drama, which is a good sign. Just talk to him about how it made you feel, you deserve clarity and peace of mind ❤️
It’s okay to feel upset. Talk to Nick response you heard he should reassure you. You deserve that
Wow…shitty history. That fear and insecurity will eat you alive if you don’t broach that subject with Nick* asap. Talk to him.
Drama happens
Just talk it out