I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 7 months and have been living a boring life stuck at home, anytime I go out without him it’s a big deal. If it’s at night forget it, and sometimes I like to go out and relax I’m doing school and work both most of the time. I used to go out whenever I wanted when I lived alone, and now I have a crazy workload and have no outlet. I’ve been out without him before and nothing happened any of those times so I don’t know why it’s always a fight. I just feel depressed and like I have no networking connections or social life. We are either hanging out with his family, or literally no one. He doesn’t have many friends either, and I can’t live like this. What do I even do, what is anyone else’s opinion
My boyfriend won’t let me live life
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You deserve your own space and freedom. Talk to him honestly if he won’t respect that it’s a red flag. Your well being comes first
Sounds like you already know the answer but you need external validation to actually dump his toxic a**. Just my two cents
Excuse me? This is abuse? Why are you still with him?
I am stuck in the exact same situation with my gf of 3 years. I have never given her any reason to not trust me. She claims she feels “Lonely” but yet we live together and spend every single day off together. I went once in the past year like 2 weeks ago, a time in which I told her 2 weeks in advance and she said she was fine with it but the day of she started a big argument. She had mentioned she has separation anxiety so maybe that’s what your bf has as well. I don’t think we should be punished for that though. We deserve a life outside our relationship.
You must leave him and return to your joy as soon as possible
You need space and freedom. If he won’t respect that, it’s a problem. Your happiness matters
He should give you freedom. Relationships are about trust more than anything. Especially space.
What do you mean what do you do. Get a new boyfriend or go be single.
This is not fair to you. And it isn’t a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship you aren’t tied to the waist with your partner when you are not working or doing school.
Right now I am at home doing chores and relaxing and my fiancé is out doing his hobby. I’m doing chores but I am happy he is out doing what brings him joy! When I go out, he is the same way. We use the time to do what we need to do for ourselves.
We are our own people even when we are in a relationship. It isn’t healthy to do everything together. People tend to need their own time with themselves or with just friends.
It’s sounds like you are not ready for a committed relationship. Get your own place where you pay your own rent and go about your life. Remember this the next time you consider shaking up with a man you aren’t committed to.
You’re being controlled and manipulated.
Fuck that.
Drop him and move on
Few of my close people have been in similar situations in their early relationships. Based off how they’ve been, they are much happier without that relationship anymore. It was their most depressing period in their life. So it is up to you to end it for good. Your life is your choice.
I was in that situation and left after 5 years. Now I’m with a man who will do his own thing and I’ll do mine. We don’t ask permission, we just let each other know what’s going on and we do it. We go out together or separate or one goes and the others hangs out at home. It was a breath of fresh air. Been together 8 years now. I love that we can be our own person without each other sometimes
Felt like a caged bird, so I left. Valid reason.
Your boyfriend is like- “Ye mere bina sukoon aur khush kaise reh sakti hai? Mein isko Rehne hi nhi dunga khush…” I can feel this kind vibe. Work on ut, or it might get worse.
He’s a weak insecure man.
But if you go out at night you’ll find someone better looking and cooooooler :’’(
LEAVE. You live once and don’t deserve this kind of life
no ages provided, no advice to give
Break up w him and move out lmao