I’m genuinely so embarrassed. I was recently at my boyfriend’s house of 4 years. He’s (23m) and I’m (22f). The door was closed and whilst I was giving him the deed without realisation she barged in, her jaw dropped to the floor and she ran and closed the door. I’m pretty sure the blanket was not fully covered and she saw my head go up and down..
I haven’t spoken to her or seen her since. This has never happened before and I’m so mortified. His mom is the type of lady that is quite old school but I’m sure she knows that we have done the deed before. It’s just something that she should not have seen… I don’t know how I can go back into his house and face her after this! Please help with any advice !!
I should add that his door has NO lock! His household doesn’t really know about privacy
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Next time you see her, just say “can you knock next time please?”
She was totally in the wrong.
Did you say gobby? I’ve heard on knobby but not gobby. lol is that what the new kids are saying!?
hold your head high (much higher than it was when she last saw you) and don’t even fucking mention it. act entirely normal. she should have knocked.
How you can go into the house again? With confidence.
You did nothing wrong or shameful.
The fault, if there is any, lies with her for not knocking on the closed door of the room she knows her son is in with his partner. Hell, knocking on the closed door of someone’s room, waiting for an answer and only then coming in is just basic decency.
Might be she doesn’t want to talk about it either so appearing unaffected will help her move on herself. In case she does want to talk about it, being secure in your position of nothing you did being wrong or shameful is important so you can have a mature conversation about boundaries and what closed doors might mean as adults should and/or remain steadfast against any unwarranted opinions on what should or should not be going on between you and your partner.
Don’t mention it. If she’s normal, she will not want to talk about it and will want to forget it, acting like nothing happened. And if she’s not normal and went in the room on purpose without knocking, and will mention what you were doing with your guy, just tell her that you didn’t expect her to enter the room without knocking, simple.
She has a son so presumably she’s had sex. She’ll knock next time for sure.
She likely learned a lesson. You’re both consenting adults.
I would probably ask your boyfriend to consider getting a lock.
Who knows if she will forget to knock again.
This is so common. Humans have sex, just act like nothing happened.
Great story for your wedding speeches.
Next time you chat to her ask if she has any gobby tips.
You are both well in to adulthood. she should have knocked. she will probably learn and knock next time.
She definitely gave her husband head that night. You should feel proud.
Put a little dried frosting on your chin next time you are going to see her.
Ah it is what it is. It’s her fault for not knocking knowing that you and her son were in the room.
She is prob more embarrassed than you
Uhhh maybe lock the door next time? Lol I live with my parents because this world is too fucking expensive and we always lock the door before we do anything for this exact reason.
The first ever time I saw my father in law was a similar story.
My girlfriend lives in the house she grew up in, but it was converted into two apartments years ago. The parents live downstairs and she has the first floor.
When you enter the apartment you come into the hallway from the side, to the left the living room and to the right there’s a bedroom. It’s quite a long hallway.
So we’re in the living room on an L shaped couch with the L part agains the wall which means it (and we) faces straight down the hall.
She’s busy giving me head and all of a sudden her dad just walks through the door already telling her something, he turns his head left, sees what’s going, says oops turns away and continues saying what he had to say while swiftly leaving the apartment.
He’s never mentioned it again.
Her son is a grown man and mom clearly knows that grown folks have sex. Your boyfriend wasn’t delivered to her by some bird out the sky. Act normal because you did nothing wrong next time she will knock.
Hope this helps with the embarrassment. My ex was fully nide, and pleasuring himself in front of a full-length mirror, when his parents opened his bedroom door, with neighbors in tow! They were giving the neighbors a tour, and didn’t think to knock.
Moral: Everyone involved got over it. There was no awkwardness after the initial discovery.
Assert your dominance, the next time you see her give her a kiss on the cheeks!
I’m a mom of two sons close to your ages. I’d NEVER just walk in a room like that. Sorry, but this is the mom’s fault and she needs to learn better boundaries. Also, as a mom, I’m well aware my kids have sex. Hell we talk about it sometimes. So, if I ever were to walk in on something, I’d be ashamed for my dumb mistake. But not in the least surprised of what was happening. The mom is being obtuse.
Maybe I’m old school, but 23 and still living at home? His own place would cure any future issues.
Lock the door from now on.