Hi! As the title said, my boyfriend’s parents hate me. I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (18M) for nearly two years now. I love my boyfriend very much. We have never argued any more than the usual bickering that comes with having a partner, never had any reason not to fully trust each other, and we both have similar beliefs. He’s popular at our highschool, he runs track, head of the junior military department at our highschool, and is the single most amazing person I’ve ever met. Yes, he’s a popular athlete. But he’s also got the biggest heart in the world. Earlier today, I texted him because I was feeling sad (my dog passed recently), and he drove straight over and brought my favorite flowers in my favorite color (stopped at 2 different florists just to find them), and brought my favorite ice cream and sat with my on my couch until I felt better. He gets me in a way that nobody else ever has, and I will always be the luckiest girl in the world.
Now, the issue. His parents have told me multiple times to my face that they dislike me. They say I’m a bad influence on their son and frequently tell me that they do not welcome me into their home. I am a straight A student, I have a job at an indoor children’s play place that I adore, I cook and I clean (my boyfriend and I split that stuff 50/50), and I’m always there when he needs me or they can’t be there for him. My boyfriend’s parents do have some relationship problems between themselves, but they’ve had them for years now, long before I came along. Any advice on how to handle this is greatly appreciated. Before anyone asks, my boyfriend has zero issue defending me to his parents. He has absolutely no tolerance for them disrespecting me or my family.
My family absolutely adores my boyfriend and they’re always asking when they get to see him again. My boyfriend’s parents are very dramatic and have cut off an entire side of the family over a misunderstanding. It’s been 12 years and they still don’t talk. I don’t want my boyfriend to lose more family. Family is important to him and I don’t want to take that from him. Please help!!
TL;DR My boyfriend’s parents hate me for seemingly no reason and I need advice because it’s making my boyfriend resent his parents.