So this is a mess and I haven’t told anyone about it yet. I’ve been dating my boyfriend (we’ve been together for almost 3 years) and I’ve always had a pretty chill relationship with his family. His younger sister (she’s 29, I’m 34F) has always been super friendly and honestly I thought we just got along really well.
But last weekend, she came over to hang out while my boyfriend was working late and… I don’t know. Something felt off. She kept touching my arm, complimenting me more than usual, and then after a couple drinks, she just came out and said it. That she’s had feelings for me for a while and thinks we’d be “perfect together in another life” or something.
I just froze. I kinda laughed it off because I didn’t know what else to do and changed the topic. But now I feel weird around her and I don’t know if I should tell my boyfriend. I don’t want to make things awkward with his family or start drama, but I also feel like I’m keeping a secret that could blow up later.
She hasn’t texted me since but I can’t stop thinking about it. What do I even say? Do I bring it up with him? Or just let it go and hope it never happens again?
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You sure you don’t like the sis?
You should tell him asap. And stop hanging around her. I saw a post today where a woman said she ruined her marriage because when she was dating her husband his brother tried to sleep with her and she rejected him but never told her husband about it. Years later the brother told her husband in a fight to ask her about what happened and now he doesn’t know what to believe.
Can you please explain how you feel that this secret might blow up later on if you keep it to yourself?
The simple solution here, it seems to me, is to simply let this pass.
If it comes up again, tell this person that you are not interested in women, and that you are in a committed, monogamous and satisfying relationship with your boyfriend.
If the issue does not come up again, and you never hear from her about this again, then there’s probably no need for you to inform your boyfriend about this… but again, to make that determination, we would need to know why you think keeping this to yourself might not be a good idea.
Tell your bf exactly what she said. He will probably laugh but at least you have kept him in the loop.
Talk to your boyfriend and let him know about it and how it happened so it doesn’t bite you in the arse later but other than that, do nothing and let it go
First thing first
Step back. It is a great moment. Someone wants you and appreciates you.
She said next life. So she is not going to push you.
She had a moment and that is gone
Go on with your life. Be casual. Her not texting you first is reasonable. She is very embarrassed
You can text and be normal. She would love that normalcy back.
You don’t have to discuss all your secrets to your boyfriend.
How strong is your relationship with your boyfriend?
You may subtly want to convey to him you are not in to women casually when lgbtq topic comes up as an insurance
You have to be honest with your own feelings… if you know for sure you dont see her anything but a sister inlaw or friend then just put it down to her drinking too much. If it comes up again just say yeah in an other life time and if i was gay! If you swayed by her feelings then you have choices.
You should have shut her down IMMEDIATELY. You’re not single, she has no place whatsoever to be saying anything like that to you. She’s just setting the field for infidelity. Don’t spend any time alone with her.
That’s a terrible sister ngl
Well you have to tell your bf so it doesn’t blow up later. Hopefully he does nothing about it. It feels weird now because she made it weird. Distance is the answer now so you can’t be seen as leading her on or prolonging her pain.
Is it possible she was “testing” you? Just to see if you would bite and mess around on her brother.