So I don’t really know how to start this I truly just want advice. For a little background my brother, let’s call him Jay, has had some problems in the past few years with looking up some inappropriate things on my iPad and my dad’s phone. He has been caught multiple times and my parents do the same things everytime. Take away the device and have a serious talk with him. But somehow it keeps happening.
Me and Jay have had a close relationship his entire life and I love him dearly. He has had many jealousy issues simply because my parents praise me a lot for my grades and just how “easy it was to raise me” and I think that can get to Jay’s head sometimes. I feel horrible about it and I don’t enjoy that praise when it hurts my brother like it does.
Now I’m just gonna fast forward to what happened about an hour ago. We are currently at my grandmas and me and my brother are sleeping on two different couches in the living room. When I sleep I move around quite a lot. And while I was asleep my hands had moved above my head and over the side of the couch. I felt someone’s hand on my hand and immediately knew it was my brother.
He is a big prankster and likes to mess with me a lot so that’s kinda what I assumed it was. So I just tried to go back to sleep and let him do whatever. Next thing I know there is something in my hand. It felt weird so I jerked my hand away.
Now for further context I have had sex before with my past relationship of two years it was stupid I regret it now but we can’t go back. So I do know what a male body part feels like.
No back to earlier I had moved my hand and after a few seconds he had move it back to where it was and I felt the same thing in my hand again. IMMEDIATELY this time I realized what I was touching and tucked my head into my chest and rolled over. Obviously I was awake now but was hesitant to let my brother know this.
I noticed after this he went and sat back down on his couch and after a few minutes I decided to sit up I said nothing and immediately grabbed my phone got into my notes app and started typing about what I should say to my mother. My mother has been SA in her childhood so I knew she would understand. Now, here is where it gets difficult. I am terrified to tell her and my brother find out that I know.
I don’t wanna ruin my relationship with Jay but I also want him to get the help he needs. Jay has been known to threaten some things and idk why my mind keeps thinking of the worst possibly scenario of Jay harming himself after this due to guilt. I’m sitting here terrified and worried of what to say to my parents and how to go about my relationship with my brother. Since I’ve sat up he’s tried to make small jokes about the movie we were watching and I genuinely don’t know how to act. I don’t feel normal anymore…
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You need to tell your parents and deal with this immediately.
He’s 12, he should know better but clearly has a problem. But he needs to learn these boundaries immediately. If you ignore this, then his behaviour will only get worse and the older he gets, the more severe the consequences will be.
Sorry that this is now your issue to deal with, but please do the right thing and let your parents know. Hopefully they deal with this behaviour correctly.
u need to tell ur mother before this gets out of hand. if u don’t tell her he will never get the help he needs and it will get to a point where it’s too late and u can’t do anything anymore.
I say call him out. He’s testing you & is Trying to see if you knew what it was and what he was doing. I’d be straight up and say YO! WTF?!?
Then let him figure out how to defend his nasty behavior & what he’s trying to do. I’d lose it!
If you let him get away with it. He’ll take it as silent consent 😒🤢🥴🤮Especially if he thinks you know. He may think that you like it.
This is a horrible situation for you. Here is a different scenario; you don’t do anything and he hasn’t learned a lesson. He then goes and SAs someone else. This type of crime is taken very seriously and he’ll end up in a correction facility. Tell your parents and get him help.
Go tell your parents that behavior has to be dealt with asap! I understand you’re close with him and you don’t want him in trouble or you don’t want to lose your connection with him but if he is bold enough to do that to you! He is not afraid to do it to someone else and he probably knows you are capable of hurting him so the next person he may have some power over and he may do something really stupid to them and if you tell even though he will not be happy with you it may save some innocent young lady from being assaulted