My brother touched me while I was sleeping in my bedroom. I was just 11 years old and he was around 13. My parents were in the living room. I had no idea about these stuff but it made me feel sick. I woke up and asked him what he was doing but he left immediately. (I’m proud that I didn’t freeze) I wasn’t able to sleep for several months. I didn’t tell my parents cuz I don’t have that kinda relationship with them and they probably won’t trust me. After so many years when I thought it was over and he understood his mistake,I again caught him trying to touch me but when I opened my eyes he left the room quickly. Sometimes I notice him hovering around my room and I think he still wants the chance to touch me. I don’t understand why would he do that? He was all fine before adoloscence. We literally grew up together. It feels like he doesn’t even feel guilt abt doing these. I thought he did that mistakenly cuz we both were small at that time but he is now 18 and I’m 16. I feel so helpless cuz I can’t even share this to anyone. But how I’m even supposed to stop this. He acts completely normal around others and also around me but when he thinks I’m sleeping he acts like this 🙂 I don’t wanna ruin my family environment,my parents aren’t that understanding( if they find this out they will probably beat him to death or blame me) But I can’t even tolerate this. I think he already knows I know but this is also not making him stop. What if things get worse. I’m afraid he has porn addiction. The cycle has returned again and I feel like someone is watching me while sleeping or around me even if there’s no one. Sometimes I feel like he deserves so bad for what he has done to me and again I feel so sympathetic for him. I’m so sorry but I just can’t imagine my brother like this I really love him. But also how tf it’s ok to not do anything. How long will I pretend to be ok. It feels like I’m allowing to do this to myself 🙂 but idk what to do
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And sorry this is happening to you
If it’s possible can you order a room camera and install it?
I’m sorry that’s happening, it’s hard I had something similar happen with my dad just a one time thing and some stuff with my step brother. Honestly it’s unfortunate that we have to go through these things. Their not a lot you can do sadly if you aren’t willing to tell, unfortunately, I wasn’t either so I eventually told my stepbrother I didn’t want to anymore and we stopped. Luckily my parents were getting divorce so we kinda had to. At that time I was 17 for you I’d say you’ll have to tell someone or lock your door if you can or try and put stuff in front of the door, so you wake up if he comes in. I’m sorry it sucks and can be confusing
You should stop this , if he does it again yell at him immediately
Poop or get off the pot.
Girl u need to tell ur parents no matter what they do
If he can try touching his sister he can do worser things to other girls
U won’t just be taking a stand for yourself but saving all his future victims
I’m so sorry, this is heartbreaking but depressingly it happens to many, many, many people.Â
Please, I implore you to talk to an adult that you feel you can really trust about this – maybe a doctor or teacher, is there anyone you really think you could trust, someone you believe is a decent person ?
Is there a school counselor you can talk to or a teacher you trust? Of course they will have to tell your parents but they could be extra support for you so you wouldn’t feel so alone. You don’t deserve this, it’s wrong, it’s not your fault and it needs to stop before you are deeply traumatized. Also if your brother has been acting this way towards you in his teens he may continue to mistreat other women. He should be stopped now while he is young and sent to counseling.
I had a family member molest me when I was a child and it’s taken a long time to heal, still working on it and I’m in my 30’s. Act now. Protect yourself. What else happens is not your responsibility or fault even though I understand it can be very hard.
Record him and hit him on the face for doing it. Report it to your counselors
Talk to an adult and go to the police.
Why do people still fall for these weird ass posts?
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. This is not your fault, and you are not responsible for protecting him or keeping the peace. You deserve to feel safe in your own home. If talking to your parents isn’t an option, is there another adult you trust? A teacher, counselor, or even a friend’s parent? You don’t have to handle this alone. Please, please reach out to someone—it’s not just about what’s already happened, but making sure it doesn’t get worse. You deserve better than living in fear.
Scream at him to stop touching you , while you both are around adults
Please tell your parents, police or even your counselors.
Sorry this is happening to you. Not only is this incest, this is sexual abuse of a minor since he is 18 and you are underage. This sort of thing happened to my younger sister when we were in high school, but it involved my father. My mother was in denial about it, but I’m proud of my sister for telling her. We both talked to a guidance counselor in our school and she got us help. I’ll be honest, it did involve a social worker coming around for a bit and my parents were not happy about that. They thought we were trying to retaliate against them or something. However, we knew that we deserved to be safe. Eventually my dad stopped being weird and passed away a year or so after from cancer. Because of what he did, I really don’t miss him. When we became adults, my mom acknowledged it and apologized to my sister. All this to say that you deserve to feel safe at home. He deserves whatever may come his way. It may be tough. I remember the guilt I felt while we going through the whole ordeal. I know you care for your brother, but at the end of the day, he has no right to torture you this way. I do not regret supporting my sister and making sure she was safe from my father. Wishing you all the best. I hope you find peace.
YOU aren’t gonna ruin anything, HE did that already. You should not have to live like that. Please reach out to a teacher, friends parents, or even a rape crisis center. Anyone who you can trust you should tell. I’m sorry your parents aren’t a safe place for you to turn, I’d tell whoever you trust about that to just to ensure that y’all are at least physically safe. He knows what he’s doing, he is relaying on you staying quiet about it because he knows it’s wrong. He knows it’s a crime and the affects it will have on you, he doesn’t care. You deserve to feel safe in your own house.
Assume you don’t have a lock on your door. Jam a chair into the doorknob so he can’t get into your room
If you don’t report it to your parents, or a trusting adult he will take it further when opportunity presents itself.
This is stupidly obvious but are you able to lock your bedroom door? You should talk to an adult you trust as well. Have you told your brother to stop coming in your room at night and to stop touching you? Or has it moved into a kind of unspoken “agreement” where he knows you’re uncomfortable but you won’t say anything?
gurll beat the hell out of him.. I suggest you wait on him to do the same thing and beat the hell out of him.. and make sure you have a camera set somewhere recording everything for evidence . I’m sorry you have to go through this , especially from a brother!
OP. What you’re going through is not your fault, you didn’t ask for this, and you don’t deserve this.
I am sorry you’re experiencing this abuse, and at the hands of a family member you should trust no less.
Understand that my advice is coming from a worldview where I have only seen police and the justice system re-victimize survivors of incest and abuse, I’ve almost never seen them actually save someone from harm.
You say you can’t tell your parents because you don’t have that kind of relationship with them. But there might be other adults in your life who might have a better relationship with your parents and could speak for you.
Otherwise, I think, at 16 and in harms way, you are old enough to learn how to fight, and how to harm another human. Your brother means to do harm to you, by taking advantage of your sleeping body for his sexual gratification. So learn to harm your brother. The next time he tries to touch you, make it the last time he can use that hand. Snap his wrist. Bite his hand so hard you chomp off a finger. Make him scream in pain and terror.
If you don’t think you have the stomach to fight and hurt him then you need to leave. Move in with a friend, or family member, or pack up a tent and go rough it, but if you can’t tell someone, and you can’t fight back, then the last option is remove yourself from the situation.
Threaten him
If you can’t confront him which I can see that shit being hard frl im sorry. But if you can’t then tell your parents, and if not them then someone you trust. Don’t do this alone I know u love ur brother but this is gonna help him in the long run. Your his sister, imagine what he’s gonna be doing to random girls. Bad for both him and them. It’s not up to you to do anything but make sure your okay and safe tho. Sleeping scared is rough, I’d ask to stay with a friend well you figure out how you want to deal with this but staying silent isn’t an option ma’am. Your gonna need to be strong and I’m sorry you shouldn’t have to be strong at your age. I hope the best for you. Good luck. your strong and worth more then this, don’t let him get away with this.
Please find an adult in your life that you trust and tell them what happened. (Older relative) Then ask them to be with you to support you while you tell your parents. If you feel comfortable enough to go to a mandated reporter(teacher, doctor, guidance counselor, or other authority) they would be mandated to report it to the authorities who would do their own investigation regardless of your parents’ action or inaction.
You need to talk to your parents and get a lock on your door. This is not okay.
This is entirely your parents’ fault. They have not established a trusting relationship towards their kids. Secondly they should have explained about sexuallity to both of you at an early stage. And 3rd, your brother had access to pornnquite early, neglected child. Your brother is an ass, but it is entirely your parents’ fault. If we are supposed to grow up differently from animals, we need to be educated and disciplined. Your brother is on the path for self-destruction, and I do pity him. I am heartbroken for your situation, and I hope you will find the courage to stand up to him and face him while he is in the act. Just scream as loud as you can, create consequences for his behaviour, and he will hopefully stop.
For the love of life, please report this to somebody and save yourself and other potential casualties…
My brother and I started the same way. Everything was a game, but then we fell in love with each other. Our relationship is still ongoing.
yell at him and cause a scene next time he tries it. call him a creep if he lingers. make it clear this behavior is unacceptable and you are not okay with it. you should also lock your doors at night.