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Some background: When my daughter was born, my sister in law posted the announcement of her birth before we did on Facebook. A couple of years later she posted a family portrait that included My brother, her, their daughter and my daughter with the caption “she calls me mama now”.
Anyway recently on Mother’s Day, my sister in law created a Mother Day post with a picture of herself with her daughter and my daughter on Facebook and Instagram. The post annoyed me quite a bit and just reminded me of two other incidents that I mentioned above. In response I took that same picture, rubbed out my daughter and reposted it in the comments section with a caption that read “I’ve fixed that picture for you”.
Both my brother and my sister in law sent me really long angry messages, telling me to get therapy and proceeded to block me on social media.
Am I the Asshole?
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Can we have mor context why sil thinks your daughter belongs with her?
Also block them too. They sound horrible
Clearly no. Your sister-in-law obviously has mental problems. Take steps to protect your daughter in case she tries to kidnap her or make false accusations to social services.
Absolutely NTA.
Your SIL (and brother) needs some serious therapy. I wonder if they are having infertility issues, and that is causing this bizarre attachment.
Nevertheless, she is claiming your baby. Set some firm boundaries, especially for visits. You might want to mention what’s going on to your parents–your SIL will likely fill their ear with her twisted version of reality.
NTA. They played weird, you played petty. Fair game.
NTAH: If for no other reason photos of children should only be posted on social media by their parents or with their parents permission.
INFO – Do your brother and SIL have custody of this child?
Why are you posting this now if it happened on Mother’s Day?
NTA but it is usually better to have a conversation (pref f2f) about conflict rather than play it out in the gaze of social media.
Your Sil seems to be transferring her angst re the new baby in the family to you. I wonder what’s happening with her re this. She sounds unhappy and odd. It’s hard to deal with people like that.
Info – We need more context. Why is your SIL acting like your baby is hers? Why do they have a family portrait with the baby?
Nta. Don’t let yourself daughter near these people.
NTA because 1) she should not have announced your child’s birth and 2) that’s kinda weird.
Just a question though is your child older or younger than hers?
SIL is crazy. Honestly?, you aren’t as furious as I imagined.
She is claiming your daughter as her own. Wouldn’t that be grounds for a protective order?
Ntah. It’s hilarious that they say you need therapy yet. They are the ones that are claiming a child that’s not even theirs. If I were you, I would talk to your parents about this and say that they are not going to be able to watch your child if they’re going to allow your kid around your crazy brother and sister-in-law.
SiL is being weird. Instead of social media pettiness try talking to your brother about whatever is going on with her and set some boundaries about posting your child on social media. The important thing is to figure out if you need to limit contact between her and your daughter.
Honestly NTA- they were being weird and tic for tac bro
They deserved the petty energy
Wait until National Crazy Relatives Day and post a picture of them.
NTA. Your SIL needs therapy.
People should not post pics of anybody’s kids – nor their own- but def not other peoples kids. So, SIL’s daughter is younger-could the portrait post be when she was learning to speak so it made sense?