1 (16F) have a brother (19) who III call Jay for the rest of this post. This has been happening for a while now and i just don’t know what to do. Jay gropes me, plain and simple. He’s been doing it for a while now, and if i can recall things correctly, he has been touching me since we were little kids. For now, I’ll talk about the more recent events.
He does it when I’m asleep, usually early in the morning. He does it when our parents are out of the house or too busy to notice. I’ve been waking up to him touching my chest, and just this morning i woke up to him literally BITING my left breast. Not hard, but an open sort of bite. There was no ‘pinch’ just his mouth over my chest basically. I could feel his teeth and his breath on that area of my body, and I honestly just wanted to punch him. But i didn’t. I’m the type of person that freezes up in stressful situations. Especially waking up to getting groped. Additionally, he also does it when we rough house/tussle.
One thing to note is that we live in a one-bedroom-house. Our parents sleep on the same bed, Jay sleeps on his own bed, and i sleep on the floor in the corner of the room. I don’t wear a bra when i sleep because i personally feel uncomfortable having a bra on when i sleep, especially when I’m used to baggy and loose clothing. Consequently, Jay takes this as an invite to touch me while i sleep i guess.
I don’t even have big boobs. I’m not genetically blessed in that area at all!
I don’t knyhow frequent Jay does this because i barely wake up in the morning (I wake up at 9-10 am now a days because it’s school break) but the few days i do wake up, Jay is almost always there. Touching me. Jerking back when i twitch or move slightly. On one particular day, I was half asleep shifting to the side. I woke up even more to the sound of the air conditioner being turned on then being turned off (For context, the bedroom is the only air conditioned room at our house, and it beeps when you turn it on or off) I was on my back before rolling to the side. I just then started to notice that my left chest was warmer than my right. I’m 90% sure he was holding that boob beforehand. Additionally it was uh, well, perkier than my right boob.
Additionally, a few years ago about 2022(?), i was taking a near nap in our farmhouse, basically a small house at our parents’ plot of land near a farm. They were away, but I don’t remember why, i just remember me and my brother alone at the farmhouse together. I also say near nap because i was half asleep and half awake, if that makes sense. Jay and i were using the same (my) blanket that time, he was on his phone and i was doing off. Just when i was about to gall asleep i feel something nudging my face. It was too thick to be a finger, and too small to be his knee. I opened my eyes and yep, it was his penis. My face was out of the blanket by the way, and his lower half was under it. So when i noticed, i literally asked him wtf he was doing. This was one of the few confrontations i had with him on the rare occasions i caught him. He said he was sorry, and he didn’t know what came over him and that he wouldn’t do it again. But you already know that’s a lie. The other times i confronted him he’d act all pissy and ignore me, or get violent and just shove me.
He still touches me, he still acts like he doesn’t know what I’m talking about when i confront him, and i still live in unease because of him. I don’t know how to love forward from here, but i know I have to do something, i just don’t know what. I need your help, reddit. Please.
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Tell your parents.
tell your parents or any adult that you trust enough to take action on it.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through this. It’s incredibly important to talk about what you’re experiencing, and it’s brave of you to reach out for help. No one should have to feel uncomfortable or unsafe in their own home, especially from a family member. Have you considered talking to a trusted adult about this? It could be a parent, teacher, or counselor who can help you navigate this situation.
Tell your parents. Then tell the police. You are a minor. They have a legal obligation to protect you, brother or not. I’m so sorry for you, OP. This is wrong on so many levels. Speak up. Now.
His behavior isn’t just “creepy,” it’s assault, and his lies and violence prove he knows exactly how wrong it is. Please reach out to a teacher, counselor, or relative who can help you get out of that house; you deserve safety, not this constant violation.
Tell your parents. Tell a councilor. Tell the police.
This will escalate if not stopped now, and he will end up in prison.
Your parents should ask for proof, but they should also know both of your behavior well enough to know you’re not lying. In the very least they should take steps to kick him out to his own place so he’s not around you anymore.
The councilor, school or otherwise, should be there for your emotional support.
The police should be called because he is an adult sexually touching a minor against her will. They probably won’t be able to charge him due to lack of evidence, but the investigation itself may be frightening enough to get him scared straight, so he repents and never does anything like this again.
Parents or other trusted adults like teachers, counselors, child protective services or the police.
Tell as many as you need to in order to get help.