Right after I married my husband, his brother killed his infant son. Here to answer any questions and bring any awareness.
My brother-in-law murdered my infant nephew. AMA
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Right after I married my husband, his brother killed his infant son. Here to answer any questions and bring any awareness.
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Are you ok?
Was there any reason to it? I want to believe it was an accident
Was it an accident?
Did it make mainstream news?
I am so sorry, truly awful.
What happened to your BIL?
How has it impacted your husband’s family dynamic overall?
How has it impacted your marriage?
does your husband have a therapist?
How did you handle the news? Did it take a toll on your mental health and/or your marriage?
Oh how devastating. Were there red flags beforehand? Did he try to deny responsibility? what became of him afterward? What about his wife?
What were the couple days/weeks like after these events?
How old was your nephew? What was the cause of death?
Does your husband have contact with him today? My sibling is serving 40 years in prison. I have zero contact with them.
Using a dead infant for attention and entertainment. Insane.
Jesus H. Christ! I’m so sorry that happened to your family and to your poor nephew. Wishing you peace.
Did he plead not guilty or guilty? What was his defense during the trial?
Im so sorry for family
Why did he do it did he have a breakdown sorry for the lose i don’t even want to imagine a small casket for the young life
Do you have children?
Who called the police about the death? The mom wasn’t accused of anything? I’m very sorry for the loss!
How did the mother take it? Was she also an abuser?
First of all – that’s horrific. I hope your nephew’s soul is resting well wherever the dead happen to go.
Second – Did you know your BIL and nephew well before the incident, or were you distant with that part of the family? Would you have guessed your BIL would be capable of such a thing before it happened?
Does he plan to have any more children that you are aware of?
If you find out he is going to have more children, do you (or other family) plan to make it aware/inform his future partner of his past history?
Do you think your life is a sign that people like you would be good candidates for adopting a child?
I am so sorry for your loss, OP. I gathered from your other comments that this happened a while ago, but time does not erase the deafening silence your nephew’s absence creates.
I was a board certified death investigator for 6 years, specializing in infant/child death. I unfortunately was diagnosed with an extremely rare genetic disease and was forced to medically retire. I am legally blind now, but i learned to crochet. I make blankets that i donate to funeral homes for families that have lost a child.
May I send you a blanket to remember your sweet nephew? I can send it to you, free of charge. All i ask is that you pay it forward to a child someday.
You sound profoundly well adjusted so I am in awe of you for that. I’m not sure how I would go with such devastation. I’m so proud of you for sticking with your partner and being the rock. I have no questions, I just wanted to give you a virtual hug and a massive thank you xx
I apologize for my profile picture and name – normally I use my account for celebrity gossip🤣
Did your BIL ever show any signs of violence before this? Did he abuse animals or small children growing up?
Did he ever say why he did it? Does he remember doing it?
What made him call the police?
Has he tried anything like this since being released from prison?
Thank you for answering questions. I hope you’re able to continue moving forward in honoring your nephew 💙
Only 10 years?
Murder implies intent. Was it really intentional? Or was it more of an accidental death?
Either way, I am truly sorry for your loss.
No words, just wanted to send you (and the family) a big hug! Such a horrific tragedy!
I saw in the comments how you are honoring the little one’s memory through your work. I think that you are very strong and have such a kind heart to bring a little comfort to families dealing with their tragedies! Big hug, and I hope you will continue to live your best life for all those little ones that left us too soon 💙💙💙.
I guess this is mostly a question about your husband so it’s okay if you don’t answer, but: did he struggle with grieving his brother? The person he thought he was? I read that there’s no contact (understandably so) but I can imagine it’s a shock when you loved the victim but the perpetrator was also someone you loved.
Milk it for karma baby!
Was the baby a twin? What happened to his twin?
So why?
How can you be “never married” with a husband?…. Post history screams that you need help. Seek it ❤️
Do / did you feel guilty that you didn’t saw how much he/they were struggling?
just here to say, im so very sorryB
OP. I literally thought this post was about my family with the exception of the fact that my great nephew’s murderer Dad has still not gone to trial after 4 years. 3 months old. Mom at work and Dad in charge of 3 month old and toddler.
Huh?? Is dude in prison?? Murdered how? Hard R? Not mukduk on accident? Damn tragic either way.