My 12 year old brother is violent towards me. He constantly tackles me to the ground and chokes me until someone physically pulls him off of me. It’s gotten to the point where it happens weekly, I’m four years older than him but significantly smaller. I’m writing this because my stepdad jokingly tapped me while I was laying on the ground, and my brother ran at me and kneeled on my neck until I was audibly choking, I was thrashing around and scratched him in an effort to free myself. He eventually got off of me, while I struggled to get up he began to kick at me over and over again. My mom eventually get him to stop, but he blamed me, saying that I scratched him. My mother is afraid of him, no punishment gets through to him. I am afraid, it’s escalated in the past year and I’m scared that it will escalate to an extent where he may want to or just kill me. Anytime I speak to him about it he screams at me and basically says he’s the victim and that I’m dramatic. I want to leave my house, I hate him so much. I don’t know what to do…
My brother is insane
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Tell a trusted adult who is not related to him that you don’t feel safe at home. Teachers and healthcare workers are required by law (in the US) to report it. It may result in you being removed from your family, but if you feel like that’s what needs to happen that is how you do it.
photo the bruises and scratches. can you ca
the police next time ? or tell a teacher these incidents and that you don’t feel safe at home.
His reaction at the end is pure abuser – it’s called “DARVO” – Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. This is a red flag of massive proportions, especially in one so young. You need to talk with a trusted adult as soon as you can, preferably one who is a mandatory reporter, and if it happens again, call the police. You are not safe whilst he is in your home. CPS being in your life for a bit is infinitely better than being dead.
He gets sent to professionals. Full stop. It’s not your problem.
If your brother is physically violent to the point where you’re being choked and kicked and your own mother is scared of him, then you’re in a dangerous situation. You should not have to live in fear in your own home. Please talk to a trusted adult outside your household