He raped me over 15 years ago. Never said he was sorry, never reached out.
He died last thursday. A day before his 46th birthday.
I’m sorry for his mom and his sisters, but they don’t know, and will never know, what he did.
I shared this with you but I’ll never say this out loud, well my parents can put two and two together. They keep me safe, I’m not expected to give condolences. I wouldn’t know what to say… He’s her son, he’s their brother. I’m still angry and I wanted to do everything that Reddit suggested but would that help any of us. Would that help me.
I’m not sure if I’ll attend his service. Kinda scared I’ll lose my shit.
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Do what is best for you. Don’t go if you don’t want to. If being surrounded by people who are sad he’s gone and expect the same of you is too hard, don’t go. If you think it’ll help with closure, do go! But do it FOR YOU.
Otherwise, see a therapist. Talk through your anger (which you’re absolutely entitled to), but don’t let it consume you ❤️
Sorry for what happened to you. A dead rapist is the best type of rapist.
Don’t go if it is too triggering.
Go and you can stare at his dead face and smile. You won. He dead.
Same thing happened to me. My cousin died last month. Did it to me when I was a kid. I didn’t feel bad. Felt bad for my aunt and his sister. But I didn’t go to the service or give a shit that he’s gone.
Don’t go to the service. Fuck that guy.
I’m sorry that happened to you and I don’t think anything is wrong for still feeling hatred towards him. I personally never understood the sentiment of letting displeasure for someone go because it supposedly harms you. There are many people that I wouldn’t care if they died tomorrow and I don’t even think about them until they’re brought up.
Don’t go to his service. You don’t owe him anything. You are doing good by not dragging his grieving family into it, that’s honourable in itself. Nothing more can be expected (and not even that should be expected). Spit on his grave when you’re alone, he has deserved it. But he’s dead and it won’t bring you justice nor satisfaction when you expose him while his family is grieving
Why would you denoune him? As a father of a daughter close to 10 y.o., I’m concerned. So, there would also be a possibility that him getting away with it will do it again to another person. Don’t go to his service.