Especially those we did intimately, I (22F), he (23M). Yesterday we went out with some friends to drink, and while we played “I never ever” and from there came out several experiences that I commented that I lived with my ex (which is the only one I had), I noticed my partner uncomfortable and upset, I have been going out with him for a few months now and we have very little intimacy, and when everyone commented on his experiences I also let him go, like how he tied me up with his leash, that he did such things, experiences we had going out to nightclubs, ect. simple, am I doing wrong? Should I comment less? Should he understand that I had a relationship before him?
TL;DR Talking about past intimacies of my ex made my current partner uncomfortable.
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This is his issue to get over. You are allowed to have a history before he met you.
Playing games like ‘never have I ever’ with couples is just guaranteed awkwardness for this reason. Yes you had experiences before him but he’s not super wrong for preferring not to hear about them.
Well you are not wrong here ,he should understand you and behave like that
Of course it’s weird to talk about your previous kinky sex with an ex in front of a group, particularly if that group includes your current partner and their friends.