18F here, I have no idea what to do.
My dad picked me up from work and he mentioned he had been doing some home improvements during the day, on one of the bathrooms. I asked if it was mine, and he said no.
When I got home, the clothes on my bedroom floor had been moved to the side (I am a messy person) and when I opened my bathroom door, the towel and clothes that was on the floor had obviously moved as well, and dad had been doing some home improvements in there.
I forgot to put the toy away the day before and it was left in the shower, so he definitely saw it.
As soon as I realized I immediately confronted him about lying to me that he went in my bathroom.
He apologized and said he only wanted to surprise me with the improvements (neither of us mentioned the toy during this conversation). I got so upset and annoyed I just was walked away and went upstairs.
He knocked on my door a few minutes later and I told him to go away.
I can’t look him in the eye, I’m so embarrassed I feel like crying. My family is very religious and never ever talks about sex or masturbation, as it is strictly prohibited, and owning a toy is so much worse than not using one.
I’m so embarrassed, and very annoyed and I want to forget about the whole thing but I keep remembering.
I feel absolutely disgusting
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I feeel for you girl. I’m scared to get one for that reason but he’ll be okay it’s okay
Dude, that’s rough, no lie. But here’s the thing, it’s 2021. We’re grown-ups. You’re an adult, making adult decisions. It’s natural, don’t let the embarrassment get the best of ya. It’s cool to feel uncomfortable rn, but it’ll get better. It’s a toy, not a crime scene. We all gotta learn how to navigate the awk situations, right? Maybe time for a lock on the door? Just sayin’.
you ever think maybe he lied so you WOULDN’T get embarrassed?
I mean you’re an adult. you masturbate. it’s not a big deal. if he’s acting like he didn’t find it or see it then you act like that too. It sounds like he’s just downplaying it.
Obviously sucks, but clearly your dad isn’t making a big deal out of it and is even trying to go out of his way to reconnect with you after you left angrily
Its not that big of a deal tbh. Everyone knows there are desires and needs, even your dad. Next time hide it better if you dont want anyone to find. Maybe even locked… but srsly, you shouldnt be that embarassed even if youre religious.
You will be fine, deep inside he understand that you are a teenager and have needs. That’s why he probably didn’t mentioned anything.
Let me get this straight, your are socially punishing him for pretending he didn’t see the dildo? For using reasonable excuses +though not plausible) to avoid the potential discussion and embarrassment? Honestly, give the guy a break. Say “sorry for freaking out, idk why I did that” then turn up for dinner like usual.
religion be damned, your father seems to have been decent enough to simply not mention it. he doesn’t deserve your tantum. dont waste time being embarrassed, or thinking its bad in some way.
just dont bother mentioning it if he doesn’t, and don’t worry about it. this is part of growing up.
You’re in a very religious family, but you are the one that’s mad at your father after he found your dildo? Sucks to be you
He’s probably also embarrassed and won’t bring it up either.
It is not a big deal, he’s an adult and you are 18nyears old and can get one if you want to.
Just keep in mind, it is his house and he doesn’t need permission to do Reno’s in his house or bathroom. I would suggest to save you future embarrassment, clean and put away your toys so that it isn’t just in the open.
Good thing it wasn’t a guest using that bathroom or something.
Don’t make your dad feel bad for doing what he thought would be a surprise, and he didn’t lie to you, he tried to save you from you being embarrassed. Sounds like a nice dad!
so – your dad is playing it cool. and you are embarrassed. and you have decided the right thing to do is lash out at him?
grow. up.
move on. your mom probably has one too – and this isnt a big deal.
As long as it’s not a massive one, you’ll be fine!
Your parents would be insane to believe that, at 18, you had no sexual outlet.
I know this is awkward, but I think you’ve read a lot into, “We don’t talk about this.” Masturbating isn’t a sin, and your parents would prefer this 100,000x to you getting accidentally pregnant. If anything, this should be a welcome relief for your parents.
Your dad did not have to find anything to know that you are a sexual person. He shouldn’t have asked if it was yours, but he’s embarrassed too, and he certainly wasn’t prepared for this.
He didn’t walk in on you, he didn’t go looking for this, and he isn’t judging you. I think he’s fully received the message that you don’t want to talk about this. You can hole up for as long as you like, but there’s really no need.
In the future, you can avoid a repeat of this situation by using stealthier objects. Hairbrushes frequently have “multipurpose” handles, and many women enjoy body massagers, electric toothbrushes, and other items for off-label purposes. Regardless, I’m sure you’ll hide your toys better, and suspect your dad will be more mindful about not looking through other people’s things.
I know this is distressing, and I’m sorry. We all go through a version of this. You will recover, but I know it’s unpleasant in the meantime.
So your dad tried to spare your feelings and is not bringing up the subject or talking about it, because what you both SHOULD want here is to never mention the dildo at all… and you’re mad at him? He’s done nothing wrong. You should have put away your sex toy, but he ignored it like a gentleman. Yelling at him because you embarrassed yourself isn’t fair or helpful.
lol whatever this is totally your fault. Grow up.
That’s the religious indoctrination taking over. Know in your heart that your dad is not some kind of innocent person who has never had sex or masturbated. You’re both human beings and you both know it.
He didn’t say anything to avoid embarrassing you and that’s a good thing. The revulsion is also a good thing. That’s human evolution at its best because you’re suppose to think this stuff is gross about each other.
Lock yourself in your room for a little while longer and try to move past it. Many teenagers have some horribly awkward encounter like this with parents and they move past it. Try confidence and telling yourself that you’re entitled to a sex life and it’s okay. You’re an adult doing adult things and your privacy was accidentally stepped on but now respected.
Yo, 25M here. Ik this sitch seems cray rn, but tbh, it’s just a part of being human. We’ve all got our private stuff, some more surprising than others… It’s a hot mess that he lied but also kinda sweet that he tried to cover it up and do something nice. He probs equally mortified and just want this to blow over, tbh. Focus on the fam love here, not the awk. Easier said than done, I know, but s**t happens. Life’s too short for mortifying dad-dildo moments to take over, ya know? Stay strong, sis! 💪🙏🤷♂️
Not a big deal. We are all human and have needs and I’m certain that he understands. It’s something that should be laughed about, not get upset about.
As far as “what do I do” you tell him you’re “sorry for being immature. You were embarrassed about your “mess” next time don’t surprise me, I’m sorry dad.”
It’s okay my dad openly told me he found my anal beads under the bed after I moved out 🤷♀️ these things aren’t anything to be ashamed of
He found it. He pretended he didn’t. He now knows nothing. What are you upset about? Your dad just showed you he loves you, respects you, and doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable, so in his mind, it never happened. Do something nice for your dad soon♥
Trust me he is embarrassed as well. I’m a dad and unfortunately things like this happen. Maybe make a light hearted joke about it but trust me, he doesn’t want to talk about it either.
tbh you completely over reacted, you got mad at him in ANTICIPATION of a reaction that never came but you are still mad. i get the whole religious family bs etc (btw just bc ur family is religious doesn’t mean you have to be as hard for them to hear as that is) i’d be more careful in the future with location 😆 but if your dad didn’t say anything he’s probably thinking the same thing as you. but the way you are acting tells them that YPU KNOW you shouldn’t be doing that or have that or you wouldn’t react like that at the THOUGHT of them finding it
It’s okay to be embarrassed, i had a similar thing happen when i was in high school. My parents paid cleaners to come once every couple weeks to do the whole house and while one of the ladies was making my bed she found my dildo in my sheets 😭 She was very discrete and left a little note under my pillow letting me know she found it and would appreciate it if i could try and keep that from happening again 😖 like obviously i didn’t mean too.
Accidents happen, ik it’s embarrassing but i agree with a lot of other people here that he probably doesn’t want to embarrass you which is why he hasn’t acknowledged its existence.
I get that you’re embarrassed, but the way your father is acting is 100% correct, given the circumstances, and the way you’re acting is not. Chill!
Once, my grandad found my dildo. He told me that it was natural, and better than my sister that went off and got pregnant. I was pretty mortified but life goes on.
I think the fact that he doesn’t seem to be acting any differently towards you is a good sign. You’re an adult and he’s treating you like one. I understand the embarrassment but it really will fade.
I think he lied for YOUR sake girl. Why tf are you calling him out when it’s very clear that was a favor to you
He specifically didn’t bring it up. That was the mature thing to do, as to not embarrass you.
It’s only a big deal because you’re making it one.
You live in their home, and you clearly do not have to follow their rules (no masturbation) as he’s turning a blind eye….. Let it go.
You’re being treated like an adult, with privacy…. So be an adult and stop acting like a child by ignoring him and crying…….
Sounds like you need to relax. He found it and said nothing so as to not embarrass you. You’re reacting like he read you the riot act. He’s just as embarrassed as you and he’s handling it by letting it be. Do the same.
That’s his house and if he wants to make home improvements, he can… when and how he wants.
You’ve admitted you’re messy.. pick up after yourself and organize and this most likely won’t happen again.
As for being angry at him… stop. You did this to yourself.
Oh boy, your dad went out of his way so you wouldn’t be embarrassed and then you did that. What should you do? Apologize, say you appreciate him trying to do some improvements in your bathroom but next let you know so you can tidy up the area so he has room to work. Move on and never talk about what he saw again.
You need to apologize to him. Admit you got mad bc it was an embarrassing thing for you.
Be nice to your dad, he won’t be around forever. Just drop it and move forward.
It’s your dad he has changed your diapers and cleaned up your puke you think he’s going to disowned you for this? You learned an embarrassing lesson in the future make sure to clean up and put away if you don’t want this repeated. Don’t have to say nothing to him he knows everything! Think even if you lived on your own there could be an emergency where people you don’t know have to enter your suite! Think!
He did you a favor. Let him pretend he didn’t see it. Now you don’t have to acknowledge your sexuality with your father.
Sounds to me like your dad tried very hard not to make you feel that way. He hasn’t thrown the biboenat you and tried ronoretendbhenhadmt even been in there.
Even when you brought it up and called him out, unnecessarily so, he still refrained from mentioning it.
Your emmbareced, I get it, but if you are old enough for the toy, then you are old enough not to be an a-hole about it. Just take some time to center yourself. Realise that its your choice what you do with your body and you have no meedbto be ashamed. And that this only happened because he was trying to do something nice for you.
You got this.
He lied so he wouldn’t embarrass you. He hasn’t mentioned it. At this point you’re making yourself stressed about a subject he chose to treat respectfully by leaving you to your privacy. He’s ignoring it- you should too.
Wow I hate when my dad does home renovations on my free personal bathroom as an 18+ yo adult and then tries to save me from embarrassment in the process.
Sounds like only one person is making the dildo a big deal.
You’re being a jerk about it. If I was a dad, I wouldn’t want to talk about your dildo either. Go apologize for being rude and tell him you were embarrassed
Why are you annoyed though??? 🤔 it may be your room/bathroom and all but that’s his house and he has a right to do renovations/home improvements to his home, especially when he did it in good faith. He fixes the bathroom up for you and the first thing you feel is annoyance? Listen, I get you’re embarrassed but it’s really not that deep. If he’s not upset, why are you? For it to be prohibited, he’s clearly nice enough to ignore it. My advice is to thank him for fixing up your bathroom, apologize for doing the absolute most, and act like nothing happened. Bonus advice for general purposes, learn to clean up after yourself. Messiness doesn’t benefit anyone
Your father did the right thing.
What do you want from the poor guy????
He saw it and he didn’t bring it up as to not embarrass you like a perfectly normal adult would. He apologised for being in his own house and even tried to check on you after you lashed out on him.
What was he supposed to do?
She expected for him to bring it up during family dinner🤦🏻♂️
The entitlement is strong in this one
You’re okay. It’s okay. Dad doesn’t seem like he’s about to kick you out. Good reminder that boundaries with adult kids are different than with children.
I had my mom once, find all my condoms, some rope, and u know what ring, while digging in my backpack I was using as a couple day pack. She didn’t say anything, but I know she’d been in there. Things were moved. And later I told her to “grab” somthing from my backpack and she said “no thats your personal place and I won’t go in there” that confirmed it because she’s never had boundaries before.
If masturbation was such a bad topic your dad wouldn’t be avoiding the topic and apologizing. He either did not find your dildo, or thinks it is none of his business.
By not mentioning it your father is respecting your privacy. And it’s s not a topic he’s going to want to discuss. I know you feel he invaded your space but it is his house. He understands sexual issues and will not EVER say anything about it.
You don’t DO anything. You pretend it never happened. He will too. It will go unspoken for the rest of time. You move on with life.
In my house I go where ever i want, and my kids dont own any part of it. he can do improvements on his house as he please its your responsibility to pick up after yourself.
Hes way more embarrassed about this than you are for sure, just forget and move on.
you are fine and I’m sure your dad understand and hence why he choose to ignore it and lie so that you have a way out and wouldn’t feel embarrassed. If he had an issue with it he would have already confronted you but instead choose to not talk about it
Get off your high horse and apologize.
Entitled to say the least. You have your own bathroom and freak out when the parents who provided it for you tried to do something nice.
Get a grip!
Wtf do you do? You grow up. You’re 18. Everyone masturbates.
Tell him to get his own
I think your dad was just protecting you. He sounds like a cool guy. Of course you’re upset and embarrassed, you’re only 18. If you were older you might laugh it off, but you have the vulnerability of youth. Your feelings are very natural, try not to let them overwhelm you.
He is clearly trying to save you the embarrassment by pretending and acting like he didn’t (and who actually knows maybe he didn’t) see anything. If your parents were really that strict I’m sure he wouldn’t be trying to act like nothing happened and come knocking to check on you. Pretend like he hasn’t seen anything the way he is.
He sounds like he just wants to move on from the subject. Maybe he wasn’t ready for a sexually active daughter. I’m sure he’s prepared now .
When I was a kid, my brother chased me around the yard with my step mom’s huge purple dildo. Idk where he found it, and neither of us knew what it was.
She was absolutely horrified when she got home that afternoon and him chasing me around the front yard… everyone that had to drive on that road saw it.
As an adult, it’s embarrassing, but I think it’s so funny
It isn’t as big of a deal as you think. It’s normal for women to have them.
The only thing you can do is accept that it happened.
Put your toys away when you’re done playing with them.
Your poor dad was probably mortified that it was just sitting out in the open. You may live there but unless you pay rent it’s his space. He tried to do a nice thing for you and surprise you. You probably hurt is feelings by berating him after the fact. Maybe in the future don’t keep private things out in the open even if it is a space that he lets you use. Also show some respect to his home and clean up your shit!
Your Dad was trying to do something nice for you in his own home. He didn’t want to embarrase you or make you feel uncomfortable.
If you want to be treated like a adult then you need to start acting like one . Your parents aren’t saints or you young lady would not be here . Have some self respect and keep your room tidy . Keep your toys out of sight and go say thank to your dad for his DIY efforts in your bathroom.
If you don’t like anyone in your space , get your own space but until then respect that your parents worked hard over the years to provide you a safe , loving home to live in . Once you grow up and move out you’ll find out very quickly how hard it is to do .
Soooo he renovated your bathroom and your shunning him and being ungrateful because he “lied” to you? Be so serious
I know this isn’t r/amitheasshole but, YTA
Your dad seems exceptionally cool about this. Stop stressing. I wouldn’t bring it up at the dinner table, but otherwise everything seems fine.
God forbid a man try to ignore his daughter’s dildo that’s stuck to his shower wall
OP sounds like a dumbass. He’s trying to avoid the topic all together and you’re just bringing it to
The forefront lmao
I hope he doesn’t bring to a basketball game and tries to throw it at one the player.
he never mentioned it. forget it ypu are making it so much worse for yourself.and him as well. he obviously would be embarrassed for you so don”t dwell on it. get on over it. lol he probably has one in his shower. chill.
From the context you mention, to me it seems that your dad didn’t care, if he did, he would have confronted you. But he did not and is avoiding the subject because he probably is not confortable talking about it. I can see that you feel embarrassed and that’s normal especially religious “ moral compass” or rules have been taught to you. What for you would make it better for you? For him to tell you it’s okay ?
Probably embarrassed, my old roommate left his pocket pussy in our shower.I was grossed out but it did explain the planters wart I had
I’m so confused. You’re 18. Living in your parents home. He goes to make updates to (his) bathroom. Noticed you irresponsibly left out a sex toy. So YOU get mad at HIM for…lying?
He did the right thing and kept his mouth shut. You made it fucking weird.
Who yells at their dad also? Over something like that…?
You should be embarrassed. By your behavior.
Chill out, I’m a father…. the reason he said it wasn’t your bathroom is because he saw it and didn’t want you to feel embarrassed about it. And now you’re giving him a hard time. He’s your dad you’re a woman he knows you’re going to masturbate…. It’s really not that big of a deal no matter how religious you are… he gets it. Don’t go too hard on him he doesn’t want to have the conversation with you about it and he doesn’t want you to feel upset about it either.
Quit being a shit bird to your dad because you left your stuff out. He ignored it, and treated you with love and respect even after seeing your sex toy. Did it ever occur to you that he lied about being in your bathroom to try to put even more space between himself and your dildo? He probably didn’t think you’d notice he was moving things- youre an admitted “messy person”. Did he go about that part wrong? Sure. But he was trying to keep you from finding out that he had even been in that part of the house- lest you suspect he had seen something…unsavory for a father to see. He’s trying to protect you from embarrassment and you’re beating him down for it. It’s his house, he can go where he wants while doing home improvements, even in your messy bathroom. You’re punishing him for your mistake and its unkind and unfair. Clean your space, and grow up some.
Dude he’s clearly not bringing it up so he doesn’t make u embarrassed, u ignoring him kinda makes the situation worse honestly, just talk to him and ask him what he saw
He’s likely just as embarrassed.
What do you do? Nothing. You just both pretend nothing happened and move on with your lives.
I’m actually so confused about what you wanted him to do. This is one of those times where lying is fine. He lied to not embarrass you. Yes, you might still be embarrassed but I’m sure he is too. This is something you both just need to move on from.
If you think for 1 second that your dad doesn’t rub one out when he is horny you are very mistaken. Humans masturbate… I’m sure he would rather you do that than sleep around and be the town whore.
Pics of you and your dildo or it didn’t happen.
Ok I know not everything from the 90’s was good but do what we did in the past. It never happened and never speak of it again lol. I know you’re young and this is very embarrassing but you’re human. Everyone does it. Also, sounds like your Dad does not wanna really go there and tried to not embarrass you by not broaching the subject. As a guy in my late 30’s if I had a daughter I wouldn’t touch that with a ten foot pole. That would be a mom thing. Take a deep breath it’s all good.
Why are you getting mad at your Dad for? You left it there.
I mean the only real solution in my opinion is never discuss it. Let it fade into the recesses of your mind and hopefully the same will happen for him. Alternatively if it’s brought up by your mom or your dad a simple “well unlike a boy plastic/rubber can’t get me pregnant”. Having fun with yourself in the shower is much much better than with guys.
News flash kiddo Mom and Dad use toys or have sexual kinks. It’s embarrassing for sure getting found out but I can assure you they got caught by their parents too. So go back to enjoying yourself and remember to put your toys away.
Sounds to me he handled it pretty good considering, plenty of young women in religious homes have made posts here about batcrap crazy parents losing their shit after finding out they masturabate with or without toys.
Rather than blowing up in your face and make you feel bad about it or talking to you about it, something not even a lot of non-religious dads want to talk to their teenage daughter about, he chose to try and ignore it.
What you should do is act in a calm and mature manner, fact is it’s your parents house, if he wants to improve it then that really is his business, sure he could have asked you, good manners and all, but unless you are paying rent he is not obligated to. You should apologize for blowing up like that, thank him for trying to do something nice for you and tell him your privacy is important to you and you would appreciate it if he asked before going into your room in the future. I don’t think you need to bring up Mr. Wiggles or whatever..
Sounds like a you problem. Take the cue from your dad and be mature about it. It’s not your bathroom, it’s his and he lets you use it.
I feel bad for both of yall 🤣 he was just trying to do something nice and now you’re mad at him, but he also definitely should’ve asked to go into your space just in general. Personally I’d never mention it again and try to act like nothing happened LOL good luck!
Side note: he didn’t mention the dildo I don’t think you should be too mad at him lol
Forget about it and check yourself before you overreact like that to your father again.
I was moving out of my dad’s house when I was 19/20. I had hidden a glass dildo under the bed. My dad decided to clean out from under it when I wasn’t home to help me out. When I got there, he had put everything in a pile with the glass dildo on top.
I was MORTIFIED, but neither of us ever mentioned it. I think your dad was trying to avoid embarrassing you. He sounds like a good dad tbh. Masturbation is normal and it seems like he knows that. Give it time and you won’t even think about it anymore.
You’re 18, be an adult.
Notice that your father didn’t mention it, and I think that’s because he will do nothing about it. There is a lot of religious stuff that is forbidden in theory, reality is different. I suggest you ignore it and just act as nothing happened.
I’m not a dad but if I was and was him I would have been just as embarrassed and then never spoke of it. It’s just one of those things. Like walking in on someone in the bathroom or something. You’re both embarrassed and block it out of memory and never mention it again.
Not ” oh hey sweetheart totally found your Dildo earlier!
Why tf would u want to talk to him about ur dildo?
Just ignore it and move on. He clearly knows, just let it go and put it up next time lol
So he did something nice for you by improving your bathroom, and you’re angry with him because he might have seen a sex toy that he is going out of his way not to mention even if he did see it?
My advice is to thank your dad for making the improvements to your bathroom and apologize for being a brat.
“I was doing renovations and went in your room, im sorry”
“YOU SAW MY RUBBER SEX SHAFT DEVICE! I KNOW IT! SAY IT! SAY IT TO MA FAAACE!!!
Shorty grow tf up 😭
You’re in HIS house, be mindful where you leave your play thingies next time 💀
Mind sending your dad my way, I need some free reno world done?
At the very least I won’t be insufferable toward him and I’ll even thank him for the wonderful job he did in my bathroom.
face realilty…it is his house…and it looks obvious to me that you knew he was doing some improvments on the house…you should know better than to be so careless of your personal and private belongings.
Yo ass tweaking 😭
Who gives a shit. Stop being so over dramatic. Your Dad seems like he cares and loves you for NOT mentioning it. It’s probably not a big deal to him at all. You’re fine I promise.
He was trying to save you the embarrassment and you took it in the wrong direction.
He lied to you because he wanted to spare you from embarrassment. He’s clearly okay with it as any sensible dad would be.
Honestly, this is one of those situations where the embarrassment feels way bigger than it actually is. He probably clocked it, realized it’s not his business, and is already trying to erase it from his memory. Parents walk in on way worse, and most just pretend it didn’t happen.
Say sorry to your dad for acting the way you did, thank him for the renovations and move on. He didn’t bring it up and doesn’t want to so you don’t have to either. Just say sorry, thank you, give a big hug and figure out what tomorrow brings
You seem to be much more “unchill religious” than your dad. The bible most certainly doesn’t condemn your toy, neither does the Koran, I guess.
you seem pretty in the wrong here
Can’t handle the feelings of embarrassment so switched over to anger, classic emotional regulation deflection. OP needs to look into DBT while shes still young enough. I found it at 40yo.
>I’m so embarrassed, and very annoyed and I want to forget about the whole thing but I keep remembering. I feel absolutely disgusting
You should feel disgusting. Clothes all over your floor in your bedroom and bathroom with wet moldy towels? Nobody wants to imagine what your room smells like.
Your sex toy isn’t what you should be embarrassed about in this post. Clean up after yourself.
This seems to be a bit of a YOU problem. You are embarrassed not to be the repressed religious hymenated little girl that you portray. I think you have just liberated yourself.
You are grown enough to own and use a dildo so for heavens sake own it. You are both adults and he is your father so you are not to discuss dildos! There is literally no further discussion. He has not brought it up. He knows you use one, you know he knows, he knows you know he knows. It is what it is. It’s time to be grown. Stop the tantrum. Walk out like the orgasmic queen that you are and act like nothing happened.
Believe me, he will never walk into your room again.
Wow you are being way too hard on your poor dad, who’s obviously doing all he can to let you know that the toy is no big deal for him. If your family is as religious as you say they are, you should consider yourself lucky he’s being so chill about it.
The best thing to do is to let this go, and lay up on Dad while you’re at it. Just going by his (non) reaction, I’m pretty sure he masturbates too.
Your feeling gross about it is your own issue, not his. If you are that repulsed by your own actions, have you considered not doing it anymore? (Don’t pass the problem along to your dad, though. It doesn’t sound like he deserves it.) It’s your complex; thus, you deal with it.
OP he is being a good dad by acting like he knows nothing and saw nothing. Appreciate the fact that your dad is doing this.
It’s not easy for a dad to accept that his little girl is all grown up. Obviously he respects you enough not to bring it up, and he loves you enough to try to not make you feel bad or embarrassed. I would have done the same thing if I had a daughter and found her dildo. In my mind, she will always dad’s little girl.
As a dad with a grown daughter, I’ll tell you that I always was trying to make sure my daughter had her privacy. Her mom and I found out she had a toy because she ordered it on my Amazon account. We are a bit more open but she kept her privacy. Your dad probably is giving you the same privacy by not bringing it up. We all do it, but we understand it can be embarrassing, speaking about masturbation.
What you do is order toy cleaner and clean wash and out it away when you are done like the rest of us. Sorry
Maybe he didn’t mention it so you don’t react the way you did?!? Also, why are you giving him a hard time, he’s clearly making attempts to come near you and talk and you treat him wrong, for something that was your mistake. You even said he hasn’t mentioned anything, and you’re getting mad with him for overseeing something on purpose for your emotional and mental stability. Maybe if you were more careful and organized and knew where you left your stuff, people would not have to see them, and you would not have to get mad with others for having functioning eyes.
You’re an adult, have some accountability for your own mistakes. You’re past the phase of “I get mad with people because they realize something I don’t want them to realize”.
People that get mad at others for their fuckups most likely have a cluster B personality disorder. Look into it.
No shame in the champagne room
You have some apologizing to do. He didn’t bring it up, so why are you acting like that? So you’re embarrassed? I’m sure he is too. At least he didn’t make you feel like shit about it.
Make sure you clean up after yourself so this doesn’t happen in the future.
Yeah, you’re kind of the problem here. My mom found my porn when I was a teen and I was embarrassed but I didn’t blame her.
He saw your dildo. That sucks. If he’s not being an ass about it, then you shouldn’t either. Or just move out.
im 17 and my step mum found mine, when she went into my wardrobe, she said she found it and we never spoke of it ever again lmao, i hope your parents understand, just forget it and move on, im sure theyve masturbated before, try your best not to stress and move on
Pro tip: I’m a dad with a daughter. Should ever accidentally stumble upon a sex toy of hers I would burn it from my brain and never ever ever talk about it. I would be mortified if she ever brought it up and lie my ass off.
If he’s ig ignoring it, you should too.
Sounds like your dad is the mvp he didn’t even mention it but you made the issue and it’s still his fault? Did you want him to say “hey dear nice dildo! Fixed up your bathroom :)!”
Wait a second – your dad respected your privacy by not bringing it up, and went out of his way to not embarrass you, and basically pretended he did not see it. And now you’re being an absolute dick about it by insisting there be some big confrontational ‘moment’ about it? I think there’s actually two dildos here, and only one of them was carelessly left on the bathroom floor. Your dad respected your privacy and treated you like an adult, yet you insisted on making a big deal out of it. Shame on you.
I kinda feel bad for your dad. Dude does something nice and gets yelled at for keeping it a surprise or at least trying to minimize embarrassment for you. Fun option clean up after yourself. It’s his house after all.
my dad found mine too. he’s an atheist. didn’t say anything to me as to not embarrass me. it’s not that deep. did you want him to lecture you??
First of all, it’s not your bathroom, dumbass — It’s his. He can go in whenever he wants if you’re not in there, and do whatever home improvement projects he wants. He had the decency to not clown you about a dildo.
The audacity you have to get mad at him is insane. You need to apologize profusely for the way you’ve acted toward him. Extremely immature of you.
Your dad is awesome. You should hug him and tell him you love him, and thank you.
Sounds like it was your fault and you got mad at him for discovering your adult toy out in the open. I believe you owe him an apology as it’s obviously your fault for being forgetful to hide it.
Dad here and I have a 19 year old daughter. I’d be laughing personally and I wouldn’t say a word to my kid. Everyone has needs, it’s ok
I think you need to apologize to your dad tbh
Your dad honestly did the best thing anyone can ask for. Ignoring it. Lol. Be reasonable and don’t act so quick with your emotions. Everything will be fine OP 🙂
19F here. Honestly, it is his house. While I do believe in respect of other people spaces, he has the right to do what he wants in his own house. He does not really have to ask you. I am 100% sure my family knows that I have a toy. They don’t mention however, because it is my business. It does not seem like your father cares enough to say anything about it. I believe you are in your head about this and making into a bigger deal than what is actually going on. Calm down girl! 🙂
you must be caucasian🤣🤣telling your dad to go away?i cant relate
When I was a teenager My parents found condoms in my room one time and then proceeded to use one and my bed so we would all be embarrassed 🤷🏻♀️
He’s probably just as embarrassed as you are, which is exactly why he pretended he didn’t see it. That was him trying to save you from feeling awkward. You don’t need to punish him for handling it discreetly.
You’re 18, you’re an adult, and having a toy isn’t shameful, the only reason you feel “disgusting” is because of the heavy religious guilt you grew up with. The truth is, most parents would rather quietly pretend they never saw it than have that conversation. So do the same. Put your stuff away next time, take a breath, and let this one fade.
I have a daughter who is now 34 so I’ve been through these things as a Dad. He isn’t saying anything first of all because he loves you very much. And because of that he doesn’t want to traumatize you. And finally he understands what it’s like to be your age because your
Mom probably had a dildo, and probably still does. Just know, religious or not that he doesn’t care and probably figures it will keep you from fucking guys for a little longer. We may be Dads but we’re definitely not stupid when it comes to sex
If y’all are religious, as you say, he might not know what it was anyway. I don’t know what dimensions or color your toy is, but maybe he thought it was a sports massager or a weird shampoo bottle, or another mysterious item that women have like tampons and all those different make ups.
Don’t do anything… find a more discrete storage place for your toy because the level of privacy you thought you had doesn’t exist. But socially with your father, the moment is over. You should not feel so guilty or ashamed. Guilt is what makes you want to explain yourself completely, but it’s not necessary because no one is accusing you of anything…
babes he tried to keep you from being embarrassed. he didn’t confront you or make a big deal. my dad found mine and ran out into the kitchen to tell everyone in the house that he saw it in my room. my mom told him he shouldn’t have been in there looking around. also he might have been embarrassed too. you have to think about if you raise someone from a baby and you went into their room to find something like that. it’ll take you aback a bit. it’s okay to be upset and embarrassed. but just explain to him that you was upset that he lied to you about being in your space, and tell him next time if he’s going to do something like that. let you know so you can pick up before.
Just live your life. You are an adult and this is normal. Trust me when I say and I know from experience that he’s just as if not more so embarrassed about seeing your toy than you are.
Don’t talk about it. Matter of fact act normal. This too shall pass.
I bet with you that Dad is so cool about it and you are making a huge deal out of it lol. Girl take a breath, it’s okay!
You got a good dad mate, he wanted to surprise you with some improvements AND he is respecting that your an adult who can make their own choices.
Don’t over think this or make it awkward.
Go thank him for making the improvements and give him a hug, then forget about all the rest.
I think you’ve been an AH to your Dad here because of your own embarrassment and it’s not fair, it was an honest mistake. He didn’t have the intention of snooping did he?
He could have brought it up but didn’t. Chalk it up to one of those stupid, embarrassing things that happens & move on.