I remember noticing his gray hair around 3 years old, and I cried because I didn’t want him to die. Being Gen Z with a boomer dad is quite the experience!
It has given me a deeper understanding on life. Murder attempts, crazy relationships, witnessing the outcome of political extremists, people from back then have much cooler stories!
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Do you feel like there is an age where a person should stop thinking about becoming a parent due to their age?
God damn he’s a trooper
Im 16 and my dad’s 70 so there’s that. I actually did an AMA on here a while back too. Some people here may even remember it cause it got super popular for a couple days.
Are u an IVF baby too? And how olds ur mom? My mom’s significantly younger than my dad.
Do u ever feel like he’s selfish for having you so late? My parents are fairly young but I still wish they had me earlier lol. Maybe I’m too attached to them
I’m 43 and wanting another child, but if my wife got pregnant now, I’d be 44 when it’s born and 62 when it’s an adult. I worry I’d be too old to really do all the things with the kid a younger person could. Not really sure what I’m trying to ask as this has been on my mind for a long time, but being the child of an older parent, is there anything you can to put my mind at rest? Do you wish your dad had been a lot younger when had you?
Oh, almost close – my dad hat me at 50.
My question: Did other kids also ask you “Is that your grandpa?” when he picked you up from school? 😅
How did you, or do you deal with the knowledge your dad is going to die soon? As in the next 15 years soon..
I ask as a 49 year old with a 7 year old who is currently terrified of death and the concept of things dying.
Mine had me at 43 i know the feel
No questions really. Just a shoutout to someone else who had a much older dad. My dad was 50 when I was born and He died when I was 30. Best dad ever. Fought in WWII. Gentle, wise man always there for me. 23 years later and I still miss him and wish I could have had him longer, but that’s life I guess.
Does it upset you to think that your dad won’t be there for some of your biggest milestones in life? For example, if you want to get married and have kids, he might not meet your partner or your kids won’t have grandparents for long.
I had an old friend who had a child at 50 and he doesn’t even bat an eye at it. This is his third marriage and he finally hit it correctly. He has three children from a second marriage and they’re all teenagers now. And so they take care of the little girl like parents so it kind of all works out.
I don’t really think the age matters but I do think that the child will miss out on father child bonding things if you can’t throw the football around in the front yard or go for bike rides or put the kid on your shoulders or spin the kid around or be wild with your child. You just don’t have that energy.
cuantos años tiene tu mama?
Does he have a crazy different food taste compared to younger folks?
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I believe that older parents generally have more maturity, and more financial stability. My parents married at 23(F),22(M) and were perpetually pinching pennies, struggling to make ends meet and raise children. I had mine at 40, wife’s a little bit younger. I didn’t spoil my kids, but they didn’t want for anything and were able to pursue hobbies that my father could not afford.
I’ve spent quite a bit of time trying to educate my kids re: financial planning and management. Other than the obvious health issues already discussed, I think waiting until you can afford kids is smart planning
You’re the first person that i know of that has almost the same age gap with their father as i do with mine. My dad had me at 56. I’m 22 and he’s 78.
Me having a 3 year old daughter at the age of 37 with gray hairs. I’m wondering if my daughter also thinks that I’ll die soon.
Are you his son or daughter, and do you have relatives on either side of the family that you are able to interact with? Are you in the U.S. or another country? Do you presently attend college, and what kind of vocation/focus are you pursuing? Was your father a more emphatic regarding discipline or on the laid back side with your mother being in charge of issues related to your conduct and behavior as a child and adolescent? My mother was in my brothers’ and my lives more forthright most of the time, but Dad could also be firm and authoritarian at times if warranted. I now am a year from turning 60 myself (God has not given my wife, now 45, and me any of our own children, and I was born when my father was 43 a few years after my next of three older brothers had come along). Is your dad emotionally transparent or more reserved? My own old man was on the more stoic side (he and my mother, born 10 years later in the throes of the Great Depression, were married about 64 years before he died six years back at almost 96), but he also could be suitably expressive and was very much a gentleman as my wife also said about him for the few years that she knew him after we married 14 years ago. Are your father and your mother near one another geographically, and do they have a civilly-mature relationship and does she have more involvement in your life now or he currently? Do you consider your same-gender parent to be a good role model as you embark upon adulthood and independence? In a sense, y’know, I am definitely my father’s son because I also tend to be more reserved emotionally than my wife but I still can be exude some feelings suitably and my own way of being humorous and saying funny things is more like his mannerisms than my mother’s (she would often laugh much more audibly). Whom do you emulate more between your folks?
I find that bizarre, as someone from a family with ~20 year generations.
I’m 28, my mum is 50 and my grandmother is 70.
My father passed away when I was 32, 3 days before Christmas, he was 74, advanced Parkinson’s, I had a similar experience to you likely, growing up it was as if my parents were a generation apart from those of my peers. Like being raised by grandparents.
Did you ever feel like you had too large of a generational gap between the two of you?..for me at times I definitely did and it made it hard to relate with them at times.
My dad was 50 when I was born he lived until age 96. My mom was 17 years younger. They were great parents.
I realized that when people we love die, what reminds us that they’re gone is the most ordinary, everyday things that they used to do. Sweeping the floor, reading the paper, putting on their shoes a certain way, or humming an old song we don’t recognize.
Hope you capture these ordinary moments too. Some of us missed our chance
My gen z child also had a boomer dad. He was 65 when he died, and she was 17. I don’t think she particularly missed out with an older dad. It’s about the person not the age.
Also gen z with a dad born in 1950, so can definitely relate. Always remembered people asking if he was my grandpa as a kid, got better as I got older. He remembers watching the draft for Vietnam be announced at a local bar, and his number as well (200s so didn’t have to go). His best friend was #2 so they apparently said “good luck” and bought his drinks the rest of the night. He made it back.
His first concert was James Brown. Said that it was desegregated so there were protestors outside, or “idiots that hated a good time.”
Not a question but my dad was 39 when he adopted me and 45 when he adopted my youngest brother. Back in the 60’s and 70’s this was old. I spent most of my life thinking he’d die young and actually had a heart attack at 60 but he outlived my youngest brother and died at the ripe old age of 96.
He also had amazing stories of war and national service. His father was 55 when he was born so I had no chance of meeting grandparents though. 😂
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My grandfather was born in 1865. My Dad was born in 1935. His mom was born in 1900. Times were hard in 1935 and while my grandfather lived another 15 years, he was gone almost all the time working because of the Great Depression.
My dad didn’t really know how to be a dad because his was never present. Nevertheless, age gaps happened.
I am glad to hear that your experience with your father was wonderful. I think because of when my father was born, his being a father was a bit jaded. Can’t say my experience was the same as yours.
How do you feel being so young and him so old? I ask because I’m 34 and probably won’t try for another 4 years. So hopefully if everything goes well 40ish for my first child. I waited so long because 1. I wasn’t mature enough and understood the immense responsibility of raising a child 2. Financial stability wondering if my son or daughter will see me as old since I’ll be 60 by the time they are 20
I had my daughter at 29 and she probably noticed the gray hairs as soon as she opened her eyes. lol
No question, just wanted to say my dad was also 55 when I was born. He passed away at 68, five days before my 13th birthday. I’m in my late 30s now.
Growing up I remember being embarrassed by how old he was. Now I wish I had had more time with him.
Do you love your dad? I might end up being an “old dad”. Asking for me lol
Having the experience you had, would you rather him have had you at let’s say, 31? Or do you prefer this age gap?
was there any complications with the birth?
I am 34 and my dad is 87.
its getting worse year after year
I have no questions tbh but I just wanted to say that my dad was born in 1951 and I’m 23 so I can relate to being asked a lot of these questions from friends and I never met anyone in the same situation before so I just thought this is really cool!
Always had a belief that the offspring of a man is based off the man’s age. So, I mean, if you have kids young when the man is currently fit and has big muscle, the child may for to be similar in fit. Alternatively, when a child is born when the man is older, he may exhibit more of older man similarities. This goes on the nature rather than nurture but I can see how nurture can influence. For example, posture.
Go for it! 🤣
True about the stories. Life is different each generation with tech/industrial changes.
u/reshiramismywife do you ever think about your own mortality?