First of all i am looking for people who are left wing! If you can be kind to me you can stay but i really need left wing advice the most right now but advice in general is okay too.
My dad is in his 60s and i am 25. As i have grown older I have been able to recognise more and more of his hateful views and i push back on them. To name a few he complains about immigrants, supports Israel, says “a man is a man and a woman is a woman” (im trans non binary if that helps so its extra upsetting to me. He knows and does not support me). He also watches a lot of ‘slop’ type content. GB News (a very right wing news show in the UK), people on youtube talking about ‘wokeism’ and an extremely offputting amount of content obsessing over megan and harry (UK royalty) and how they’re terrible because of nothing really tangible usually and i have my critiques of the royal family i do not support them but the content he watches is not getting to the real issues.
All this to just give you a picture of what he’s like. Now the problems are that i will try to approach him about all this, i’ve tried so many different ways ive been calm, i’ve cried, i’ve yelled, i’ve begged, i’ve written well thought out notes etc. None of it works. His go to is that he just “believes in freedom of speech” and that im only in my 20s i don’t know anything. All my views i extensively have researched and always aim to pay attention to reputable sources and inform myself correctly. I am a very sensitive and caring about others type of person or at least i really try to be and i hope that caring about others is at the heart of who i am. I don’t know how much more of this i can take.
His mother, my grandma, is him but worse. Her mind is also going so she just says the most horrible stuff and he rarely pushes back. They watch right wing news together every sunday and i can no longer go downstairs in my own home to spend time with my own nan and dad because the things they discuss and watch are the most upsetting things. To hear people i once cared for become this way is a grief like no other. My dad never hears me out and my hope dies a little more every time i try to reach out to him on this.
What do i do…
TL;DR – My dad has fallen down the right-wing pipeline, refuses to listen to anything i say asking him to see different point of views and it is harming our relationship and my own mental wellbeing to the point of true despair and grief.
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Cutting ties may sound harsh but sometimes survival means choosing your sanity over family. When someone drowns in hate it’s not your job to pull them out if they’re dragging you under too.