My dad is the life of the party, but behind closed doors, he’s a nightmare. He’s hit me before, then acts like nothing happened. He makes uncomfortable comments about my body, and I feel disgusting. Everyone defends him, but when I try to speak up, I’m made to feel like I’m ungrateful. Is it okay to feel this way about my own dad? Should I distance myself or just keep pretending everything’s fine?
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I know the feeling, my dad was loved by everyone and feared at home. You shouldn’t feel uncomfortable about your body unless he is eyeing you every moment of the day. Good luck.
It is absolutely okay for you to feel that way. Good dads don’t hit their kids or say creepy things about their bodies. Is there an adult you trust that you could talk to about what he is doing?
If he’s hitting you and making weird comments about your body your dad is abusive and if they’re comments of sexual nature that is sexual abuse. Abusers are often well liked by everyone and turn people against the victim. The best thing you can do for yourself is document EVERYTHING in the safest way you know how or if you have a way of distancing yourself and getting away from him- run as far as you can. People defend him because he has spun a narrative about you so they doubt your credibility. Abusers do this to cover their tracks so you need to find someone outside of your family if you can. This is a terrifying situation and I’m sorry you’re going thru this