Good evening, its 1:41am here in india, im sitting in my room alone , yesterday night doctors told us the situation and has asked everyone to be prepared emotionally and mentally for whats coming next he suffered with liver failure and is currently on artificial body functioning, im feeling really numb and i dont know how to cope with this feeling how to accept everything i cant sleep what should i do? I have so many thoughts i just cant stop thinking about my dad
My dad is taking his last breaths
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Grief has no timeline. Do what feels right for you. Take care of Your Self. Sending prayers and supportive energy.
I just went through this in February. I’m sorry. But it gets easier. Stay strong
It’s part of life unfortunately
I know this feeling and nothing I will say going to comfort you, the best you can do stay with your other family members and let them know you’re here for them and my best wishes is with you and always remember this time’ll also pass.
Hugs from USA
I was sitting besides my grandfather’s bed when he took his last breaths, reading to him from his favorite book. It was peaceful. He was ready. It was time.
You’re 14, so you’re losing your father early. I’m sorry you won’t have him there going forward. Death is never easy, but its an inevitable part of life.
It’ll hurt, but it won’t forever. Remember him fondly, but don’t let the grief consume you. Spend time with the people you still have in your life, because they won’t be there forever. I hope you can come to peace with the situation 🙏
For now… Take it a moment at a time. Tell him you love him, hold his hand and let him know you are with him. Thinking of you and sending prayers for you and your dad.
Really can’t understand what you’re feeling but brother stay strong for your mom and family. I’ll pray for you
Sorry to hear about your father. 🇨🇦
It hurts my heart to read this. The feeling must be terrible. They say time heals allmost all wounds, so I wish you the force to overcome this.
I’m so sorry for you. Sending prayers. May God Bless and comfort You.
Sorry bud 🫂
Everything is going to be OK. Stay focused on your future plans. Because I’m sure that’s what everyone up there is waiting to see?
My dad passed suddenly 21 years ago when I was 20 years old. Sorry to hear. He will always be with you. Time only heals it, even though it will never heal.
Just try to think of all of the good times that you had with him.
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Sending you a strong hug from Ireland.
It sounds like at this point, the best thing is to do whatever time and circumstance allows you to do WITH your Dad while he’s still here. Say goodbye, express your love, give him thanks, whatever is appropriate for you. You don’t want regrets about things unsaid.
Death is never FINAL. He will live on thru the love you share and the memories you hold. Tell him you love him before it’s to late
Grief is a b*tch. Im sorry for ur impending loss.
All will be well in the end,and if not then it’s not the end…trust in the Lord and lean on Him on this desperate time because He’s always there with you.
I’m sorry.. I’m praying for you and your dad
I saw my mom a couple days before she died. She was in a coma. Please be with your family and support system and feel your feelings. Grief comes in waves but the waves tend to get smaller as time passes—then sometimes a big one will hit you years down the road. This year will be ten years since my mom passed and I’ll turn 22 a couple months before then. You are not alone. May the pain ease soon for you, love.
All you can do right now is wait. There isn’t anything you can do to change what is happening, it is what it is. What you can do, if you are able, is tell him a proper goodbye and that it’s okay for him to go. Losing a parent is so hard, but you will get through it one hour at a time. Right now all you can do is be, feel your feelings and try and get a little sleep, I’m sure someone will wake you when the time comes.
Sending love and light your way, and I hope your dad’s next journey is a peaceful one ♥️
Talk to him. Even if he’s not responding, tell him how mich he meant to you. I did the same while holding my father’s hand and right after his last breath, a single tear came out of his eye. Its also helps with the aftermath of dealing with his passing.
I’m sorry. Hold his hand for as long as you can. Just be with him. Let yourself feel what you feel. Cry if you need to cry. Talk to him. I want to say there is something you can do to make the pain of losing your dad easier, but there is nothing. I hope you and your family find peace and comfort however you can. Hug your mom.
“Listen, nothing I’m gonna say is going to make you feel any better. It’s just going to suck for a while and then you’ll be fine.”
Paul Bettany playing the part of Will Emerson in the 2011 movie Margin Call.
I’m so sorry my friend. This is one of the hardest things to go through in life, something we all go through.
Grief is strange. You’ll feel sadness, numbness, maybe even anger, disbelief. These feelings cycle around and there’s no right way to feel at any given moment. However you’re feeling is ok.
There’s only so much you can do to prepare yourself. When the time comes and he passes away, however you feel will be valid. You might not even cry, and that’s sometimes a normal response.
Big hugs from Canada. You will get through this, one hour at a time, one day at a time.
I’ve done this with my mum. I found just sitting with her and talking was the best. Mum was in a comatose state at the end but I was able to sit, hold her hand and talk to her. I thanked her, told her how much I loved her and related stories from the past. It brought all of us great comfort.
I wish you the best man I’m so sorry…
Im so glad you guys showed up sharing your stories wishes prayers hugs and your words im reading everything over and over again im so sorry for everyone who has already gone through this god bless them they have raised beautiful children who shared this feeling with me at this time of my life they all will be very proud looking down at all of you because my heart feels warm reading it all im gonna stay strong i really appreciate you guys taking time for this thank you so much 🙏🏻
Sending you my prayers and emotional support its always difficult when someone is at the end of there journey
Think of all the good times you had with your dad. There’ll be many. God bless x
Sounds like you and your dad had a pretty strong relationship, I’m actually getting a little teard up right now. I’ll tell you what a friend who lost both his mom and dad in his teens, not at the same time either, first his dad then his mom. This may sound a little crude, but it’s reality. Everyone dies, as simple as that. Everyone dies, and one of these days you’re going to die to. Like I said, it’s not a very consoling statement, but it’s the truth