I am 15F, and my dad (44M) keeps making comments about my chest area. The first comment I recall him making is when I was in my parents’ room talking to my mom, and he mentioned that I should consider getting a breast reduction when I am older. I didn’t think much of it because I have talked about it in the past with my sisters, so I brushed it off as just a harmless comment. Then they started to get more frequent. One day I was in the kitchen with my siblings, and I was complaining about my lower back hurting, and he said, “It’s bc of your big ole boobs that you get from your mom,” so I turned it into a joke and said, “No, I get them from you,” and he just laughed it off. A few days pass, and he makes another comment about my chest. I don’t remember what it was, but after he made that comment, I went to my mom and told her that the comments he makes about my chest make me uncomfortable, and she didn’t do anything about it. It’s now been a couple months since I told her, and a few days ago he made a comment about my chest area again. I don’t remember what I and my sister were talking about, but he came in and interrupted me and said, “You have big boobs like your mom” and “You get them from your aunt,” and I went completely silent after he made those comments because I was severely uncomfortable with the comments, and my mom was standing right next to him, and she said nothing. What should I do about this?
My dad keeps making comments about my chest
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Have you talked to your mom about this? Has she said anything when your dad has made these comments?
Tell your dad to stop body shaming you!
Tell him that his comments are hurtful
Next time he says something, tell him it makes you uncomfortable when he talks about your boobs. It’ll make him realize how awkward he’s being.
Jesus that’s super weird. If your mom didn’t do anything is there another trusted adult you could go to? If all else fails maybe tell your dad how uncomfortable it makes you feel
the main point here is that it makes you uncomfortable, so he should stop – you don’t need the approval of strangers on the internet to make this true. just confront him directly (if you have the strength to) and be as honest and direct as it comes to you. just once, when i was about your age, both my mom and dad joked together in front of/with me about how i had (and have) small boobs just like her. i cried there and then and told them to not ever talk about my tits again – they never did
“Dad why do you keep talking about my breasts? I don’t like it, it makes me very uncomfortable. A father shouldn’t be paying that much attention to his daughter’s boobs. Please stop.”
Make sure to say it in front of everyone. If that doesn’t work, I suggest talking to someone at school. Enough is enough. He shouldn’t be talking about your breasts and making comments.
Waiting a baby and I wish to be a girl. Nothing will stop me as a parent to joke with mu child. I would have done the same. What is wrong with you?
Instead of going through your mom or cracking a joke just tell your dad that his comments about your body make you feel uncomfortable. I don’t think he is meaning to come off creepy or as a jerk.
Have a conversation with him.
I am a parent and I’m about your dad’s age and I wouldn’t make comments like this to my child. My folks never did that to me either. Maybe he thinks it’s funny, but I don’t know how comfortable you would feel about telling him that you don’t like those comments. If he does it again then that’s a problem.
Very weird not sure what else to say tbh
My daughter is 14 and has big boobs. I don’t comment about them.
Only thing i bring to her attention is how she carries herself and to keep her eyes open for creeps. Which she appreciates because her maturity and body don’t match yet.
Your dad needs to stop and it sounds like you need to set a boundary with him, in front of your mom. “Shit aint funny anymore, Im tired of it. Is this the behavior I should be ok with from males. You’re suppose to be setting the bar for me but instead you’re dropping it. “Be dead serious.
If your breast are big, what’s the big deal? If it bothers you tell your dad to stop. I think it goes both ways. We should be more open with each other but try not to be hurtful. Plus nowadays many people take offense at things but won’t speak up for themselves. Tell him you understand your breasts are big but you don’t like him commenting about it. Then pick on something the same way he does it. He’ll get the point or he won’t. Some people just don’t understand both sides. It sounds like you’re sensitive to what he says and it sounds like he doesn’t understand why you would be and it has not crossed his mind. So you have to find a common ground. However they may not be one.
How can either of your parents not know this isn’t ok? Nobody should be commenting on a 14 year old girl’s breasts. You can tell them exactly this.
Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. Maybe he thinks it I’d not weird. If he continues to make comments after you tell him how they make you feel then take it seriously
It sounds like he’s worried and doesn’t know how to handle it. He might not realise how uncomfortable it makes you. Definitely tell him.
It can be hard to tell your parents things, so maybe send him an email or text. Say something like:
Dear Dad, I am feeling really uncomfortable when you mention my boobs. Can you please just not comment on them at all? I already feel very self conscious and I really don’t like having them commented on, especially by a man, even though you’re my Dad. Thanks. Love, OP
Say something direct & polite for the first time & then it’s gloves off can’t pick our family
I am so sorry. First off, this is completely inappropriate for your dad to be commenting on your body like this.
Second off, your mom should be appalled that dad is making these comments and that you are being uncomfortable because of him.
Gosh it is disgusting that he says these things to you. I am so sorry.
You should (if you feel comfortable) tell another trusted adult. Maybe an aunt?
Then, you and the trusted adult sit down with mom and dad and just explain how these comments make you feel.
ANY parent on this planet (and ANY adult) would gladly correct themselves, apologize, and NEVER make those comments again.
“Hey dad and mom, can we talk? Aunt Becky is here and theres something I wanted to talk about that’s been bugging me.”
“Dad, you make comments such as “You have big old boobs like your mom and aunt” it makes me feel like you are body shaming me (If that is how you feel) and uncomfortable. I am a young lady, with female parts, and I do not appreciate these remarks. It is not funny. Please stop commenting on my boobs or any part of my body for that matter. and Mom, it hurts me deeply that I came to you, a woman, to explain how I felt. and that you didn’t speak up for me. I am still a child, and I don’t like anyone speaking about my body; not a man, not a woman, not my father, and not my mother.”
I cannot explain how infuriating this is. I want you to know that your body, under no circumstance, should ever be discussed in this manner; not a “joke” not by your parents, another man, boys, girls, friends, doctors, anyone. ever.
I am sending you love.
He’s your dad, next time or hell right now, just say “Dad, the comments about my breast size make me uncomfortable”. The last thing any decent dad is going to want is for his little girl to be uncomfortable around him.
I am so glad my kids were never afraid to stand up to me, they were always respectful about it and always stood up for themselves.
Say it in front of your mom and sister. Say “why do you keep talking about your 15 year old daughter’s breasts?”
If the comments make you uncomfortable you have to tell him to stop, if he doesn’t stop then tell your mom to set him right, if it doesn’t stop at that point confront them both when they’re together. If you’re already uncomfortable then addressing it puts you in charge of the situation. It’s a good life lesson. Good luck.
My daughter would likely disown me if I talked to her like that. And the response would
Be immediate, swift and harsh.
Put your phone down and confront him politely and directly and you mom should support this.
Good luck