She says they need some time alone to focus on the baby and bond as a family. That it’s better for the baby not to have too many people around it. She hasn’t told my dad yet and neither have I. I’m worried he’ll take her side.
If they send me away I’ll never forgive him and I’ll never come back.
How do I kick her out before she ruins my life more?
Edit: I’m not gonna stay here. I wanted to go talk to him about it but you know what? F*ck him. If he cared about me he would know what his gf is telling me. And I can’t help thinking, maybe he knows.
I called my uncle and told him everything. He is so angry at my dad. He is gonna pick me up in about 30 mins or so without telling my dad. They don’t get along at all so convincing him wasn’t really difficult. He would love to fight with my dad.
I don’t care what my dad wants to do anymore. I’m blocking him from everywhere. My uncle said he will handle it if my dad wanted to talk to me.
Either he is gonna fix it and take me home or I’m staying with my uncle from now on. I already spend about a fourth of my life with my uncle whenever my dad is on a work trip so I know him and I know he means it when he says I can live with him.
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You can’t kick her out.
You can tell your Dad how excited you are about the baby and to have a sibling. Gush enthusiastically about onesies and nursery decorations.
Make it so he would feel to guilty about kicking you out.
You need to tell your Dad. You are right that if he takes her side, your relationship is over, but if he would do thar, your relationship is already over, and you just dont know it yet. However, he could realize she’s not a good partner and put her in her place. Its the only way forward either way
How old are you? Are you studying or working?
There’s not enough information here. How old are you? Where does your mom live? Judging from what little is here, she’s having his child. Your family dynamics are going to change, regardless, and you need to prepare for that. Your dad is starting a new family, and I dont think the girlfriend is going anywhere. Perhaps now is the time to think of ways you can help with the new baby. They both will need it. I know this stinks.
You won’t get her kicked out, she’s here to stay. However it’s clear you’re not to be part of her new family bond. Tell your dad she’s trying to get rid of you.
Saying that, new babies are very noisy and disruptive and you’ll probably want to stay away for a few weeks anyway. Ask your dad to visit and do stuff with you, minus GF and baby.
You are his family too.
It’s time to tell him she’s been saying this to you and that you’re afraid he doesn’t see you as family anymore. Tell him you don’t want be made to move out.
How he reacts will tell you what you need to know.
It’s very manipulative of her to be talking to you like this. A healthy adult would not be trying to unhouse a kid/teen from a prior relationship or be discussing adult things with you.
She’s pure evil.
“Dad, I’m scared. I’ve been worried about Cindy having this baby. She told me that I’m getting kicked out and it’s exactly what I was afraid of. She’s trying to take me away from my home and my family.”
Be honest about your feelings, and if you feel like crying don’t stop yourself. Stop playing tough and ask your dad to be your parent because he is. Tell him he is your home.
Get her to bring up again & this time record it.
Because at the moment it’s your word versus her words. & you don’t know what conversations she’s having with him while they are in bed together.
You need to have this conversation with your father soon. I would say before the end of the month.
Your father may not kick her out but she certainly needs to be told & understand you are family as well.
She sounds like a right piece of work.
Talk to your dad, its his choice whether he sends you away and its your choice if you stay in his life! If you end up going then at least you know where you stand with him!
You need to talk to your Dad. Her having a child does not make you any less a part of your family and its disgusting that she thinks it will. Don’t come out in attack mode, just tell him how uncomfortable and frightening it is to hear her make comments about throwing you out of your home.
There is a reason she is saying it to you and not him.
I don’t think you can kick her out, but you should have an open and honest conversation with your dad.
Do you pay bills in the house? If not then you have no say on whether she stays or goes. I would tell him what she said to you. Sounds like she’s trying to make it sound like it’s your choice to leave so your dad wouldn’t suspect anything
Suggest family therapy to your dad. It sounds like you and the GF have a terrible relationship and you honestly are not excited about the baby. It is your home and you should feel welcome and it will also be the baby’s home and they need to be surrounded by loving people.
Yes it would feel like betrayal since you are your Dads Son and she thinks she can pretend you don’t exist by having a baby of her own and pushing you out.
She sounds horrible to be honest, anyway do tye opposite of what she thinks you’ll do and that is have a big tantrum to make yourself look bad and give your Dad an excuse to think you aren’t good to be living there. Like other said, say you think it will be great to have a sibling around. She won’t like that and that’s good.
Then treat the kid as your sibling, it’s not that kids fault.
If your Dad asks you to move out then do what you said and never speak to him again, stick to it, he needs to know his actions have consequences
Why do you think you can kick a pregnant wife out of her husband’s home? I’m guessing there’s more to your story and she wants quiet and peace for her new baby.
You and his girlfriend need the same advice.
I’m pretty sure neither you or her contribute to any major bills right now nor do you two own or rent that space so it’s wild that yall are trying to kick each other out. It’s childish. That decision should be left to the dad.
From reading your comments and last post, I think both of you need to grow up and figure out how to get along or be cordial at least. All this drama is unnecessary. Theres no reason for the cattiness. Absolutely none.
You need to have a conversation with your dad and explain that you will never forgive him.
Tell her you’re a minor too and it’s not your fault you’re parents got divorced and would she want her baby sent off because he got a new baby mama that doesn’t want it there? I would peacefully call her out in front of your dad and tell him she’s telling you this and you don’t want to leave and you’re offended, if you can’t do it in front of her get him aside. Until you’re 18 he’s responsible for you just as much as a newborn.
Don’t try to get your dad’s girlfriend kicked out. Do go to your father and tell him you are confused at her assertion that you should move out after the baby is born, even temporarily. Ask him to clarify what is going on.
If he backs her up and believes you should move to your mother’s home, then it would be perfectly understandable to simply move out permanently. Your father will be creating a rift in your relationship that will be difficult to heal. Give him a chance though. He might not be backing this plan.
Why do you want to kick out your dad’s baby and girlfriend?
I’m sorry you’re in this position. The gf sounds like a crazy bitch. Your dad should be talking to you, a lot, about the changes coming and how important you still are to him. He might not know what to say. But the posters above who suggest talking to him are right. And you are too young to leave. Don’t do that, try to stay until you are an adult and out of school.
Tell your Dad. He needs to know this.
You can’t kick an adult out of their own home. Only your Dad can has the power and authority to do that.
If he takes her side, tell him you’ll never forgive him and your relationship is permanently over.
I can totally understand from your posts and from your replies to others why your father’s gf doesn’t want you around her newborn. The sort of negative energy your’re spreading and tension you’re creating is harmful for everyone, and even more so for new born babies.
You’re acting like a 2-year old in the no-phase, instead of like a 16-year old. You can’t even treat this woman with a basic level of respect.
Your father and her having a baby is their mutual decision. Your father allowing her to move in to his house is his decision. Yet you choose to resent her for all that, and treat her like shit in what is now her home too.
If they ask you to move in with your mother, that’s a response to your behavior. If you want to prevent that from happening, you’ll have to clean up your act and do so quickly. You’re way too old to blame others for the consequences of your own behavior.
As others have said you should tell your dad, but firstly it would help if you could get proof she is saying that (maybe get her to repeat it over text?) – She might claim you’re lying or acting out because of the new baby.
Tell your dad – or ask him
Why HE did tell you to move away ! He prob knows nothing about it – gf wants it to be just her – she forgets That’s Your Sibling
Getting her kicked out isn’t an option. Being difficult isn’t an option as it will push your dad away because it will play into her hands.
Take your dad out and have a heart to heart about what your stepmum has said. She’s out of line. If he’s any sort of man and a decent father he will have your back. This was your dad long before she was anything to him, and your home long before this baby was made.
She wants you out so she has her perfect little vision of a family. But if she couldn’t handle you being there is should never have got involved with your dad. She’s totally in the wrong here. I imagine she’s pushing you to go without saying so to your dad so that if you go your dad will think it’s your idea. Make sure your dad knows it isn’t like that. She most likely won’t get into any trouble though. She’s going to tell your dad you imagined it or you misunderstood. Even if she gets caught out she’ll claim it because of hormones. You can’t win. Just communicate with your dad and don’t trust her.
Besides just wait until she needs a babysitter for dates with your dad or when she needs a break. You will suddenly be expected to help out then. Figure out how much YOU want to be involved when the tables turn onto that subject. You might want to point out to her if she expects you to leave who will be her support when she’s overwhelmed and tired with a new baby.
Something to think about hon. You clearly don’t like her and maybe it’s mutual but you have a choice to make. Accept a new sibling and your dad’s girlfriend mend fences and have a baby sibling that you’ll learn to love or lose your dad forever. I’m sure it’s hard to share your dad and you feel scared of being replaced and you e probably spent X amount of time not getting close to GF but your best bet is to concede and be apart of this growing family.
You’re wanting to “kick her out”? Well, thats not gonna happen. Suspish post, for sure.
Is there a reason why you don’t want to live with your mom?
“Dad I need to have a serious and private conversation with you.
Your girlfriend came to me and basically kicked me out. She said that you two need the house rid of me to bond with the baby. Is that true? Are you just going to kick me out for a new baby?
If you force me to move back to my mom’s, leave my friends and what we have. Know that I will never forgive you. Our relationship will never recover from this and you can forget me ever having a relationship with my sibling. I already feel like I have bad feelings towards them know that GF told me I was being replaced by them and they needed you more than I do.”
Why don’t you live with mom in the first place?
Ask her how she explains families with multiple kids? Do they just kick out the older kids? I’d record the conversation, then call a ‘family’ meeting and play it back for your dad. If your dad is any kind of a man, he’ll call her BS out.
But tbh, I doubt you’ll get her kicked out…she’s having his baby…
How old are you? Because under age minor vs grown adult is very different.
All you can do is talk to your dad and tell him what she’s saying and doing, and most importantly how she’s making you feel. You have to be honest with him about your feelings.
If he chooses her, it’s going to hurt like hell, but best you know that he’ll choose her over you and you can talk to your mom and other family about getting therapy to heal, and move on after cutting him off.
They had a kid? She isn’t going anywhere… I’m so sorry
Apparently they already had some alone time. After the kid is here I’m curious if she needs a live in babysitter. Move out, don’t look back.
What’s it like at mom’s. Do you ever stay there?
You have to make sure your dad knows what she is telling you.
What an entitled little kid OP sounds like in all his comments. No wonder she doesn’t want him there. 🙄
When your uncle shows up, tell your dad “I’m leaving like gf wanted. Have fun!” And leave
Oh and don’t fall for any bullshit apology a year down the road, they just want to use you as a free babysitter. Happens AAALLLLL the time
The more family a baby has the richer they are. I hope you get to be a full on big sister. The baby will be lucky to have you.
How old are you? I’m guessing a teen?
You are creating unnecessary drama. Look it’s hard on you I get that. The best you can do is try to work on your self and acceptance is the key here or just up and leave. It doesn’t have to be like this. Fast forward you could be cut out of any future inheritance.
She pussy whipped him. That woman is going after your inheritance. You have to act nice and sweet. Guys don’t think with their brains