A couple of weeks ago my daughter kicked her friend while they were arguing in the bathroom at school. There were several friends around. OF course they started arguing about some small issues. My daughter is easy to cry when she gets upset/angry…
So the girl started making fun of her, calling her a baby, embarrassing her. My daughter asked her to stop multiple times and then said if you dont stop, I’ll kick you in the head. The other responded with more taunting.
So my daughter kicked her. In the leg. And grabbed her by the sweatshirt to push her to the door to leave. Now this girls is saying she kicked her in the head. At court the mother read a whole thing about how her daughter just came in the bathroom and mine called her a homophobic slur and kicked her in the head.
The school is giving my daughter concquences at school. No prom, no sports for a period, in school suspension. They weren’t going to have her cited, but the other parents insisted. And the dads a lawyer.
I don’t blame the mom for being so upset. But now they are claiming headaches, they need a MRI or cat scan, she’s having speech issues. Here’s where I know they are full of crap. The girl went to the prom with her boyfriend 10 days after the incident.
Yes boyfriend. So who’s calling her a homophobic slur? She can’t go to school bc of her head. but she can go to the prom? And I’ve not seen 1 picture of this damage to her head, face, whatever.
I’m so sick over this. Should she have kicked, no. But she made a mistake and now all of this. She could end up with a felony.
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Get. A. Lawyer.
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So they are seniors in high school? Fights have consequences and your daughter has to learn that she can’t put her hands on people when she’s upset, BUT that seems like an overreaction. What is listed in the code of conduct as a consequence to physical altercation? Can they prove there were slurs said? For a first time offense, it’s usually in school suspension or even a couple days of home suspension. All that seems excessive. I’d get my own attorney. If you don’t have the resources, try to get a consultation.
You are in no position to start claiming what symptoms the girl is having, and that going to prom means she’s fine. You should be focusing on the fact that your child is kicking people. No matter who started the fight or said what, your child is in the wrong for using physical violence. I understand you want to defend your child, but minimizing her actions and claiming the victim is lying isn’t gonna achieve anything. It’s absolutely right your child is punished in school. You are not the victim here.
I am empathetic that your daughter was being bullied. I would immediately get a lawyer.
I will however highlight a few things. Your daughter cannot hit and put her hands on other people, and more to the point instead of pushing this other young woman out, why did she not leave?
This is hard. Everyone here is young and behaving badly. There could have been consequences for bullying, have your daughter taken the route of sharing with administration like this other young woman did. However, just as it was a bad choice to bully, your daughter made the bad choice of being physical.
Regardless of the reason actions have the consequences. And I do feel it’s a little bit reductive to imply she’s allowed to physically assault people and is there is a boundary where the accountability she takes is too much. More to the point, what are the other witnesses saying? Is there anybody substantiating that your daughter did not kick this other young woman in the head?