Hi redditors
I’m in my early teen years and going through something really stressful. My parents have been divorced for over a decade but recently there seems to be a big fight coming up.
I reconnected with my mom about 6 months ago behind my dad’s back and made the decision to move in with her (another state) this summer. Until I was around 9 I lived with my mom then during the pandemic some things happened (she got sick and other stuff I don’t fully remember) and I ended up living with my dad. Dad is barely home and busy with his own life so he didn’t put up much resistance about me talking to or moving in with my mom so I was thrilled about him being cool but that fooled me.
Suddenly, he’s picking fights with her and dragging me into the middle of it. Out of no where he remembered some pricey gallery piece he claims he bought over a decade ago that she has. He wants it back but instead of contacting her directly he’s demanding that I tell her and get it for him.
I told my mom what he wanted. She said that I shouldn’t be in the middle of any of this and that he can easily contact her himself. Then I told him I really don’t want to be involved but he snapped. He started saying things like: “You don’t see because you started to sleep cuddled up next to her every night. She’s manipulating you. She’s toxic. She’s controlling you. You don’t want this kind of person in your life”
I didn’t know what else to do so I begged my mom to just give him what he wants so he’ll leave me alone but she got upset again saying this isn’t something I should be handling and that it’s between the two of them.
He decided to text her and now he’s sending me screenshots. She’s been ignoring his messages (and honestly I can’t blame her he’s being super rude and talking like he’s giving commands). He’s losing his mind and telling me to warn her!
I don’t know what to do anymore. Mom doesn’t want to talk about this with me at all. I tried to but she got angry and shushed me. What should I do?
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You have to vocalize to your dad that you don’t want to be put in the middle. Period. It’s not right to use you as a pawn in his game.
You absolutely should not be dragged into the middle of this. Do you have any other family members who might be able to talk sense to your father?
If you’re living with your mum, tell your dad that you won’t be passing on messages and will be ignoring all rudeness, screenshots etc.