My ex and I were perfectly fine before he left for a trip to Texas to visit family. The moment he got there he became distant and uncommunicative. I tried texting and calling him, asking him what was wrong but he ignored my calls and brushed my messages aside and told me I’m “being paranoid” and he’s just really busy and has no time to text. It then accumulates to him throwing all sorts of false accusations at me and dumping me by text. I was completely blindsided as he was constantly telling me we were fine.
Fast forward to once he’s back home, he’s been texting, calling and pushing me to meet him because he loves me, misses me and wants me back. He then drops a huge bomb on me and told me he started sleeping around in Texas after dumping me but “I need to hear the details and I cannot jump to conclusions”
I don’t know how to process this. He dumps me by texts, sleeps around, and now that he’s back he wants to get back with me because “we’re meant to be” I don’t know what to do with this situation and could someone give me an objective view of what’s going on and what to do?
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You do not know what to do?
Have some self respect and block this arsehole. He just wants to pick you up and use you when it suits him. He’ll dump you again when he has another opportunity
There are no details to justify his actions. He likely started sleeping around before he actually dumped you by text
He just dumped you to be able to sleep around. It was always his intention to try to get you without “technically” cheating. But if he always intended to try to get you back, it is just cheating.
It seems he’s alright with taking that risk, so you know how important you are to him. So I wouldn’t give him another chance. The next time he thinks he has a chance at some fun, he’ll do it again. Especially if you have taken him back before. You are worth more than that.
He can want all he likes… thats at him.
Daming lalake te, di nadadala?
Nah, you are the second option, and whatever happened in Texas didn’t unfold like he expected, so now he is back k.
I also have a feeling he slept around before he broke up with you.
This man ain’t it and you can never trust he wont do this again. He showed his true colours
Leave him he is a POS who doesn’t respect you he is going to keep doing this because he has issues. Don’t want what doesn’t want you it’s a battle you will never win
Is this a case of “You don’t know what you got until it’s gone” ?
all kidding aside. Since we don’t know all context, it could very well be he was tempted and decided to break up with you to pursue this temptation or he broke up with you after he pursued the temptation.
But for me it wouldn’t matter what happened first. If you break up, it’s done.
Do not entertain his sorry ass. Cut him off. Don’t give your energy to him anymore.
You’ll never be able to trust him again. I think you should end it.
Girl the STI rate in Texas is crazy. DO NOT get back with that human Petri dish 😭
There’s a saying “when the universe sends a man back it’s testing to see if you are still stupid”.
If I were you and was told he wanted me back after all that crap he did to you I’d be like “no you made your choice and you don’t get to have me back” and then I’d block him immediately. Just yesterday I told a friend of mine about another friend who cut me off for a dumb reason and I told her that if someone is willing to let me go so easily then they aren’t worth my time.
Do not take him back unless you want to continue to be disrespected. Move on. He’s not a good boyfriend.
Sounds like he may have had a mental health crisis, or he’s a cunt – listen to your intuition ✅ if you go back you do need to fully forgive for both your sakes ok 😊