I loved this guy, he pretended to love me. I always assumed I’m unattractive, then he showed up and made me feel so happy. I was in love with him, I did everything to make him feel loved but he only wanted me for my body. I’m devastated, I did not expect him to say that. Yesterday night he called saying “you’re ugly, I never found you pretty, I only wanted your body”. Then declined the call and blocked me. I’m feeling so worthless, I hate myself. This shows that I’m actually ugly, I’m not worthy of love.
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Oof. I’m sorry he said that to you, he was rude and cruel. As someone who has been called ugly, a butterface, and was once told that I would only be hot with a bag over my head, I can assure you, beauty is entirely subjective, and you WILL find someone who loves you and thinks you’re beautiful in their eyes. You are not worthless, and you are absolutely worthy of love. Please don’t let one asshole ruin your self-esteem.
You are not ugly just because someone decided to be cruel to you. His opinion is not a verdict of your worth or beauty.
It was just a way to hurt, humiliate and control you.
His words are powerless until you give power to them.
You are not what he said, you are who you know yourself to be.
No matter what you look like, he is definitely way uglier than you. What a cruel piece of shit. I’m sorry that happened to you.
It only shows how ugly he is, not you. Thank goodness he’s out of your life. You can do a whole lot better than this person.
Moving forward, love yourself. When this guy comes back knocking on your door, wanting to rekindle the relationship don’t bother.
Seriously be done with him. Have no further contact with him. Make sure you block him.
You are not ugly. He was an immature pos. Don’t let the thought of him bring you down. Put yourself back together and find someone who deserves you.
God men in their early 20s are insufferable. I’m so sorry this happened to you, you deserve better.
Why would anyone’s opinion of you affect how you feel about yourself?
This is a “him” problem, not a “you” problem.
The only way anyone’s opinion can hurt you is if you believe.
He’s a crumb bum. The karma fairy if coming for him.
He said that to hurt you.
No one enters a relationship (and it was a relationship if he had to break up with you) with someone they aren’t attracted to.
Furthermore, his insult doesn’t even make sense. If he wanted your body it means you have a nice body.
Ugly people are worthy of love! A person’s worth is judged by their character, not their looks.
Regardless if you’re ugly or not, you deserve love. It took me a while to figure it out, but you *deserve* love.
I am so sorry you had to experience that! Be confident in our own sight! I’m sure you’re beautiful inside & out! 💕
He is talking shit and projecting his own insecurities- as theworldisonfire8377 said – beauty is subjective- I bet you are gorgeous!
I was once told that I had a face like a Rottweilers arse.
But I constantly get random marriage proposals on TikTok.. I know it sounds cheesy but beauty really IS in the eye of the beholder.
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Personality has a massive effect on external beauty. Twats always look ugly to me. Whereas a man with a good heart, and a great personality can suddenly become an absolute hotty.
He’s just a jerk. Don’t let him get to you. Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where a guy Elaine was dating always found a mean insult when he broke up, and he called her “big head.” He is the problem not you.
i’m so sorry love 🙁
That proves nothing.
Clearly he wanted to hurt you and knows that you already felt that way about yourself, so he said the one thing he knew for sure would cut deep and leave an open wound. So you will believe he is somehow above you and that you won’t get anyone better than him. If he didn’t intend it to hurt you he’d never have said it. That’s not something decent people say to other people, especially someone they’ve been in a relationship with. Even if it was true, that’s something people just don’t say in polite society. If it should show you anything it should be that he is obviously threatened by the prospect of your life improving after him and his declining, and clearly sees that as a good possibility.
he said that cause he knew it would hurt you deeply.
it’s sad now? yes it is, but keep your head up, don’t listen to people that want to hurt you.
Why are you placing your value in another’s person hands
Guess you learned the lesson that guys can definitely fake the entire relationship.
Don’t say you aren’t worthy of love! 😠😤
You just aren’t his taste, you will find the one that will acquire you and want your taste. Keep your head up and ignore him!
Of course you’re worthy of love
He just faked his love for you and what you experienced
It doesn’t show anything of the sort.
What it does show is that your ex is a petty, spiteful, mean AH that will use your deepest insecurities and fears to try and cause as much mental anguish as possible.
Whilst I understand you are hurt and hurting right now, please believe me when I say he is absolutely not the one for you.
he only wanted your body, yet didn’t find it attractive? he’s either lying, or admitting that he can’t find someone to sleep with that he finds pretty, which is embarrassing for him (not you). why would he embarrass himself like that? (he wouldn’t) this makes the second option way less likely. he prob just feels insecure about himself around you and was lashing out to make himself feel more superior. that’s just what bullies do because they don’t respect themselves. you’re likely out of his league
Only assholes like him are truly ugly, hon. You’ll meet more people that see you for the radiant, lovely person you are inside AND out.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I’m no looker and, yes, I was bullied for it, and yet I found someone who thinks I’m the most gorgeous being they’ve ever seen. Those people who bullied you are not your friends.
Don’t count yourself out yet. You’re only 21. There is a whole big world out there. Whether you find that person right now or later in life will be up to you. Don’t give up. And learn to be kind to yourself. I know that’s easier said than done but confidence does make a huge difference in how people see you.
I’m sending you all the best vibes and warmest hugs, OP. Take care.
Be reminded, he is one man. Only one. And you are 21. The world is a big place, my love. And beauty begins with loving yourself. I am 25F, with enough experience for twice the lifetime. Heal your heart, protect your peace. There are millions of types of people who all love billions of different things. Have different hobbies, goals, humours, love languages. This one man was not your person. But they will come.
I also thought I was not worth anything due to cruelty. I found love in myself. And my partner now has restored my faith doubly than anyone else ever could. Even when I am hurt now, he cares for me and I truly believe his words. I wish you all the happiness in the world ❤️🩹