So I (22M) went to high school with this guy (currently 22/23M) who was always very loud about his attraction to women and how much he wanted to fuck them. We were teenagers at the time so I assumed it was either some stupid joke or if he was serious that he’d at least grow out of it. One of the people these comments were directed at were my other schoolmate’s younger sister (currently 20F), who I would later get together with. I always saw him do it in front of either her brother or me, assuming he was just trying to make stupid teenager statements to piss us off. He also only talked that way about women behind their backs, so he didn’t even stand behind his gross statements. Acting all brave and manly (he is conventionally attractive and works out and shit) but really just a weird wimp.
Fast forward to now, 4 years later, I hadn’t really talked to the guy much in a while, we only ran into each other a couple of times on the train, and he often just ignored me in public for no apparent reason. I didn’t hear about more of his weird behaviour so I assumed that maybe he’d finally grown up a bit. However, a few days ago, my girlfriend (still the same one, we’ve been together for 4 years and a half now) ran into him and some of his friends, all drunk. She didn’t know his friends so they kind of introduced each other and then one of them said the following when he realised who she was (translated from my language):
“Oh, he’s always talking about how much he wants to fuck [insert my gf’s brother’s name]’s little sister!”
That was said as a funny little joke and it confirms that he talks about her even when me or her brother are not around. Now I’m legitimately mad and feel stupid for letting him talk shit all those years ago. Such a little manchild and then he wonders why no woman actually wants him. I wish harm upon him. Am I overreacting? My gf is saying that they were drunk so maybe they were just saying shit but I’m not buying that. Idk where I’m going with this, I just needed to put this down somewhere. Thanks for reading.
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Oh well seems like you have a complete different levels of humour and kink sexting LOL and in between you two bums is the funny goofy badass GF as a mediator for you 😀
I can already see what kind of character he is. You are not over reacting, people should keep those comments to themselves. As Jesus stated “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” The frequency that you state just shows us how disrespectful he can be. Idk if I read it right but making those comments right in front of the person you’re talking about or has relations to is crazy. However just for that I do not think that he is a horrible person we should go after. I think that this is a matter of you having to cut relations with him or talk it out to set boundaries. Anyways, I’ll be praying for you and you friend🙏. Have a blessed day.
The guy is really weird, if I found out a guy was still talking about my girlfriend years later then I’d invest in a firearm in case they try something.
Cuz if he’s still thinking about her 4 years later, what’s stopping him from thinking of her for a few more years.
I recommend getting a firearm or any form of defense, and keep it at home or on you. Maybe hand one to your girlfriend as well. If you guys are really that worried then a restraining order could help.
This is all assuming that firearms are allowed where you live.
He’s just a little benefits street case study on a buried time capsule left in the same way, same clothes and same odor from school days LOL either you take your next chance on seeing him on train when he’s billy no mates and put him straight but not like a little boy LOL or
You’re not overreacting. There’s something deeply violating about someone reducing the person you love to a joke or a target. That kind of disrespect sticks. You didn’t let it slide, you survived it, and now you see it clearly. That clarity is your strength now.
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He already did…
You’re “normally reacting”. You’re pissed off because he’s talking that way about your girlfriend. The guy is probably just an immature idiot from what you tell, and most likely not dangerous. If he’s dangerous, well that’s a way bigger problem. You need to think about that calmly. Did he only talk this way about your girlfriend in particular? Or the same with others? If he talks the same about others and never acts, he’s probably just a harmless idiot. Either way, just stay (you and your girlfriend) away from him.
DO NOT act violently (unless it’s physical self-defense), it will only cause trouble for you and will solve nothing. Remember he’s an immature idiot and you are a mature man.
Please DO NOT get any firearms or other weapons as another comment suggests. Use of firearms requires training and an objective and “unemotional” state of mind, which clearly (and reasonably) is not yours, as you are saying you’re angry. Use of firearms and other weapons is a big responsibility.