My ex husband is a moron

r/

We are 2.5 years into our separation. He has stalled every step of the way, cancelled mediation, ignored solicitors, lied, denied everything and made up new, weird stories, cost me around 50k.
We have FINALLY signed consent orders for our financial settlement after i had to re-sign THREE times because he didn’t sign a page, didn’t check the spelling of his own name, and another reason I can’t remember.
The parenting plan took 6 months for him to sign.
We are now doing “parenting co-ordination” to help us co-parent and get past some issues. I thought he was just emotionally abusive, but now know he is truly a moron.
He didn’t even read our financial agreement and had a meltdown when I told him what it said his responsibilities were (because he hadn’t fulfilled his part, and was ignoring correspondence from my solicitor).
He threatened to steal my car if I didn’t pay out the loan (which I can’t do until he signs paperwork that has been sitting in his inbox for weeks).
He said I co-erced him into signing our parenting plan that he took 6 months to sign and made insane requests that I agreed to.
He said his lawyer “misled” him because he never read his own financial agreement.
He lost his shit and thought I was threatening to take him to court when I said that if he didn’t follow our orders then the court can sign on his behalf.
He thinks our very young children are lying and trying to turn us against eachother.
He thinks I’m making up that they’re having nightmares about him.
And somehow he works as an EN looking after people’s health.
It just never ends.
There is zero accountability, no sense of reality, and so much stupidity.
I feel so bad for his girlfriend, but I can’t say anything to her or tell her anything for obvious “crazy ex wife” reasons.
It’s all just so mental and so draining, and is only happening because he is trying to punish me for leaving him and because he’s a moron..

Comments

  1. cowandspoon Avatar

    Yeah, he doesn’t sound the sharpest tool in the box. If he has ignored correspondence and refuses to read what he’s signing for, then he deserves everything he gets.

  2. Fun_Concentrate_7844 Avatar

    Well, you married him…. but most of the stuff you have written sounds like he intentionally does these things to aggravate you and just claims ignorance. Like he is weaponizing incompetence.