Hiya so me (23m) and my ex (20f) were together for 18 months. We have an upstairs neighbour (31m) that was in the building before me. My ex moved into my flat for the last year of the relationship and obviously knew my upstairs neighbour. I had his number has he used to look after my cats. Anyway, they friended each other on Facebook and then swapped numbers and started talking. I thought nothing of it at first. Eventually I started feeling weird about and she said don’t worry about it we’re just friends. But her replies to him started getting longer and more flirty than her replies were to me. We always used to joke about calling a goblin and stuff and she’d always say horrid stuff about him. And was really mean towards him. Anyway. We split up a month ago after she kept getting mad at me for nothing. Such as me bringing in the drying rack from outside and folding away our clothes. I then placed the rack against the wall as she came home. And she got really mad at me when she bumped into it.
So. I’ve found out yesterday she’s now seeing my upstairs neighbour. Tonight is the first night she’s staying there. Which is obviously right above me
Am I wrong to think that this is disgusting? Like the way she said don’t worry about him. And the fact he’s my neighbour. I feel so upset and not sure what to do
AITAH for thinking she’s a b****. Excuse my language
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Just be happy you that you dodged a bullet
You ever seen the film High Fidelity?
When you run into him just laugh and when he says what , just say she is not to loud with you . When we were together she was so loud
Yta. She is your ex. Move on with your own life.
What she does or who she does, doesn’t matter or change anything in your life at all.
Move on.
NTA, sounds like she was cheating before you broke up for sure. bullet dodged. and she’s really in for it when she realizes that no normal 31 year old wants a 20 year old gf💀
Sounds like a perfect time to find a new apartment.
NTA. She’s a bitch for doing what she done. Texting him flirty messages when you was together was foul. Fuck the both of them, you will find someone else and be happy soon enough.
Time to find a new place. You definitely do not want to live below that Fucking Apartment.
NTA. She is doing that on purpose, I bet you. You sure dodged a bullet. You don’t need that kind of woman.
When you see him, say “you didn’t kiss her did you?” And make a weird face
She was already cheating. It may hurt now, but trust me you will be grateful you dodged a bullet. Also, I have a feeling he will dump her soon.
NTA
Well rest easy knowing shes with a creep. That age gap doesn’t bode well for her.
The trash took itself out. Leave it there. You’ll be fine.
No, you have done nothing wrong. Her getting mad for little/no apparent reason isn’t normal. But even 20f and 31m relationship is crazy. They’re both adults, but that age gap is wildin.
She’s your ex. You have no right or say in who she dates. YTA. You are the ex. Not a PI. Not someone she owes something to and is using it on him. She is your ex.
Find a new partner or FWB rather than moving out. No matter how fake or cheater she has been she will burn when she sees a new girl with u. Why waste that opportunity and let her burn.
I would just let it run its course. Do your best to not let it affect you until it inevitably crashes and burns. A 31yo only shags a 20yo because he needs her to have a power deficit. She thinks he has his life together, but, if he had his life together, he’d be dating someone his own age. They’re using each other and that rarely ends well. I say enjoy the show.
You asked your neighbor to look after your pussy when you were out. He misunderstood. But he must have done too good a job…
You dumped her so lol
Just wait till they have an argument, and she shows up wanting to cry on your shoulder. (I can almost guarantee that this will occur the first time you bring a new girl home!)
Buy a paintball gun
She’s a B for sure for doing that and you’re not wrong for thinking that but I want you to think about the bigger picture. She’s letting a middle aged goblin in her. Like she probably thinks she’s hurting you, if she ever addresses you while being with the Goblin, I’d tell her, “Dang you had to go to a middle aged- what did we call him Goblin- because men your age don’t want you, but good luck with the impending balding and Erectile dysfunction. We know that he’ll deal with that way before I do.”
shes a hoe straight up bitch
Tbh why does it matter yo aren’t together anymore and if you are feeling angry or whatever it sounds like you have unresolved feelings…
Either way your relationship is over and you should move on she’s free to shag whoever she wants even if that means it’s someone you know.
Sorry to say it.
I would just move apartments if you need to put distance between you and her, and then at this point.
For the love of God do not bring this up to her or him, don’t get mad or anything, don’t talk to them. Just be indifferent and kill them with kindness by being polite if you cross paths in the building. Best thing you can do is act as if you don’t care and you are happy you dodge a bullet, which is a actually the truth.
Won’t be long and she will jump to the next nest…. Good riddance!
She’s a cheater so better rid of her. As she said, don’t worry about him move on. I would suggest moving out so you don’t have to see/hear them together. Block her on everything
If they’re disrespectful get some 10/10 brass hired to come over, let them know the assignment. She’ll crack.
Sounds like she needs a new step-dad. OP, have fun 😎
Good for him
Grey rock miss for the streets she asks you for anything or to do anything the answer is no
There was something going on before the beotch split with you.
You are not the AH but have to suck it up. Anything you do will drive them further together as though they are romantic rebels and you become the angry, dangerous, jealous stalker.
But you can enjoy yourself long term by saying things in passing to her, with a sincere air, like “Glad you and the goblin are finding happiness.” If they marry, you can give her the drying rack.
Long term, if they stay together, you might consider moving out just to avoid thinking about them. As many are saying, it is a blessing you found out that she is not a good person before wasting more time on her.
When she leaves just say, oh I knew you were cheating with him. Let him know that you’ll be holding him financially liable for all of her expenses that you covered while she was with you. He has 30 days to pay or to get you out of your lease.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet and because she’s your ex now is not your problem. Keep your head up and just avoid any unnecessary interactions
Lol brother, you dodged a bullet. NTA. Seriously don’t pay any mind to them. Honestly, I feel like with how shady she is, she may have not only been emotionally cheating but also physically cheating. You’re in your prime. She’s now yesterdays news. Go live a little. Do not take her back if she tries. Time to put your extra time and attention into yourself.
Dude, she’s been banging him since the time she started being overly critical of you.