My ex is threatening to sue me unless I drop charges pressed against him.

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This is an alt account because I don’t want it on my main in case he’s following my socials

Context: I live in Indiana. My ex is currently facing charges for battery due to an altercation he had with my current partner about a year ago. A few weeks ago I received a very out of nowhere text from my ex insinuating that I stole/pawned a family heirloom engagement ring and that he wanted it back. I didn’t respond because I thought he was just trying to get a reaction out of me. Skip forward to today, I received a very long text at work from my ex stating that he was considering pressing charges for theft and fraud and he said in the texts that if I dropped the charges against him then he wouldn’t pursue any sort of court case. I took screenshots of everything and I called my partner and he thinks this is a very cut and dry case for intimidation. Especially since my ex’s current charges and court case is still active and pending. I was just looking for some outside opinions of whether or not me pressing charges would/could possibly hold up in court or if it’s even really possible. Thanks for your time!!

Comments

  1. firstWithMost Avatar

    Take it to a lawyer or the police. You need an expert opinion on the legal status of what he is doing.

  2. eyad_ayman55 Avatar

    “Silence now, screenshots later win.”

    It sounds simple, but here’s the layered meaning:
    • Silence now: Don’t engage. Don’t reply.
    • Screenshots later: Gather and organize all evidence.
    • Win: Leverage his texts legally.

    This approach protects you, builds your case, and keeps you clean while his messages dig his own hole. Let his words work against him.

  3. Novel_Helicopter_212 Avatar

    It totally depends.

    I suspect this guy would not be organized enough to go through with this threat and that it would not be worth pursuing by LE but I can’t promise that. 

  4. Tokugawa Avatar

    Give them to the DA so they can add the bribery charges to his current ones.

  5. CatMom8787 Avatar

    Don’t respond. Take any screenshots to the DA immediately. It definitely sounds like intimidation and bribery to me. Good luck

  6. RamblingswithInoki Avatar

    This is a clean case of intimidating and potentially intimidating a witness if it goes to trial and you are supposed to testify against him. I would also request a protective order for you both if you don’t already have one, which it sounds like you don’t since he contacted you. If he does try and sue you, take all of your evidence and show the court it was to intimidate you and your partner and it may be thrown out!

    Edited to add to give your evidence to the District Attorney’s office and if you have a lawyer, give it to them too. Make sure you save any and all communications from him and don’t respond to him at all.

  7. visitor987 Avatar

    Did you not return the engagement ring?