Long story short I (F22) was in a relationship with a freshly divorced man (M35) who was married to his ex wife of 15+ years. I feel ridiculous for thinking he had truly loved me.
Today we ended things over the phone. The relationship was long distance and we visited one another twice a month. The entire relationship he treated me so wonderfully. Not one thing I can complain about. Very sweet down to earth guy. Anyway. He dropped his kids off to the ex wife and he said he saw a look on her he hadn’t seen In years, so he decided to go see her and talk things out. I feel a bit confused , and lost. He was good to me and it feels like one day to the next things were over just like that. On the phone call he gave me closure, and reassured me I wasn’t the issue. Stated he needed to work on himself and bawled his eyes out the entire time. What’s the best advice I can get from an experience like this? Do you think he will regret his decision? (by the way his ex wife slept with other men while being married to him still and would fall back on him when things didn’t go her way with men outside of the marriage)
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Yeah, no offense but you are ridiculous.
New rule going forward: no dating unless dude has been divorced for over a year.
If this dude was divorced for over a year that means he got married when he was under 20 – that in and of itself is a red flag.
As for what his wife did – you’re young, remember you’re getting only his side of the story.
I suspect he is an unreliable narrator – no one is a saint.
As for you, hard as it is – I suggest you root for a family to at least try.
This is going to sound like a cliche but most cliches have a truthful Foundation. You are going to meet someone one day and realize why it didn’t work out with this person. It didn’t work out with this person because this person was not your person. I know it sounds confusing. But you will meet somebody one day and you’ll realize why it didn’t work out with anyone else. And when you do, you will have so much exhilarating Joy. I promise you. And plus, you are too young to take on that much baggage no matter how nice someone is to you. Good luck