My Ex left me a month before engagement for « the girl I shouldnt worry about » now she stalks me

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A few years ago, I met a guy who became my first boyfriend, and I was his first girlfriend. We were both 18 and it all started on my birthday. It was a long-distance relationship, but we managed it well. We genuinely loved each other, discovered life together, and tried to do things right.
After a year of being together and seeing each other often, he asked me to marry him. We met each other’s families and were planning our engagement.

He was sweet, caring, and clumsy, but truly loved me—and I loved him back just as deeply.
Then, one month before our engagement—on our 2-year anniversary (also my birthday)—he broke up with me. No explanation. Just gone.

Two months later, I found out he was with another girl. The infamous “you don’t need to worry about her” girl. She was my complete opposite in every way—physically and mentally. Through my best friend (who was the one who originally introduced us), I learned he was already thinking about marrying this new girl—but she wasn’t “interested yet” (which I dont believe seeing how much she loves him).

A few months passed and that same best friend ended up ditching me to become friends with her. I saw them all—my ex, her, and my ex-best friend—posting happy moments together on social media like I had never existed.

That whole experience, being my first love and first heartbreak, hit me hard. I ended up hospitalized, diagnosed with severe issues—partially because of this whole situation.
I tried reaching out to my ex to talk, to at least confront the way things ended, but he didn’t hate me—he simply didn’t care. Total indifference. Like I had never been part of his life.

The girl? She knew everything about us, yet that didn’t stop her from flirting with a guy who was nearly engaged. He gave her everything.
It’s been nearly two years now. I’ve healed, surrounded by my real friends and my family. I’ve cut off all contact with everyone from that part of my life.

But here’s the thing that bugs me: she still stalks me. She watches my stories—sometimes from her real account, sometimes obviously fake ones she even Sends friends of her when she blocks me out of nowhere ..It’s been like that since the beginning of their relationship.

I know he doesn’t care about me, so why does she? Is it just curiosity? Is she trying to show me she “won”? Is it a weird flex to make sure I see her “happy” with him—like purposely ending up in my viewers, with a profile picture of them doing something romantic?”
I’m not upset anymore. I just… don’t get it.

Comments

  1. kimmysharma Avatar

    He cares. And she cares. Don’t let it bother you live your best life that’s the real revenge

  2. ApocolypseJoe Avatar

    Next time you realize she’s watched your story, message her this : pathetic that after all this time, I’m still living rent-free in your head.

  3. RemoteChildhood1 Avatar

    Block her. But if you have truly moved on, you shouldnt care, like at all? She is the one with the obsession, it should not bother you.

  4. moonahmoonah Avatar

    Make all your social media private.
    Don’t add people you don’t know.
    Do a deep cleanse of your current friend lists.
    Stop looking at all your views/likes.

    You are living rent-free in her head.
    Stop letting them live rent-free in yours.

  5. kavalejava Avatar

    Don’t engage in any way, unless professionally if you work the same fields. Be polite if they engage, but grey rock them as much as you can, and live your life.

  6. batman_thedead Avatar

    Maybe dont plan to get married to the first guy you meet fresh out of high school 💀 but that’s passed so dont plan to marry the next guy you meet either

  7. Intervert_0413 Avatar

    You’re too good for them! Start hanging around better people

  8. LittleCats_3 Avatar

    If they will cheat with you they will cheat on you: she knows that she got him through nefarious means and she will loose him the same way. You will live rent free in her head forever.

  9. Tough_Recording5179 Avatar

    She sounds insecure. I know you said he doesn’t care about you, but there has to be a reason for her insecurity.

    But it does not concern you, OP. You’ve already suffered enough because of them. Ignore her.

  10. wobblegobble84 Avatar

    I recommend having all your accounts as private because that means they can’t see. Why give them that access?

  11. Ok-Party5118 Avatar

    Another fake story.

  12. tmink0220 Avatar

    I am not so sure she is always watching you, I think he may be indulging in this too. Which is why new accounts. Also make everything private, and sort through it every few months. Move on and develop new things in your life . He still is interested in you. Just not enough to be a faithful husband.

  13. AlienRosie75 Avatar

    She may think she “won,” but really, she ended up with a dude who isn’t loyal. She’ll always be wondering if she can trust him.
    Block them all on all social media, protect your peace, and live your best life.

  14. TheBestHater Avatar

    The elongated and unnecessary dashes are always such a huge giveaway that this was written up by Ai.

  15. QuizBabe8 Avatar

    Maybe she stalks you because he still talks about you… There’s obviously some issues there.

  16. ThatSmallBear Avatar

    I guess this is why we don’t get engaged when we’re still teenagers, folks.

  17. Burntoastedbutter Avatar

    They’re the ones who are concerned with you and about you for some reason. Think about it this way. You mostly moved on with your life, and you’re still living rent free in THEIR heads.

    So just continue living your own life.

    You won in a different way. Stop seeing who’s viewing your stories too. Just don’t care about them.