She just called me and she said she’s at the clinic because she’s experiencing stomach and back pain for a few days now, and the doc told her to get a pregnancy test because there is a chance she might be pregnant. Now i have no clue what to do.
For context, we were in relationship for about 2 years and we had intercourse regularly but always with protection and always taking birth control. But as it happens, after we broke up, (we were still talking since she has attachment issues and couldn’t accept the fact that I left her and would constantly call me and act like we’re still in a relationship but I’m a horrible boyfriend for not behaving like one) she told me that she was pregnant and she took a pill to abort the baby. This was during a work trip i was on that we broke up and she said she was pregnant (which kind of also made me suspicious that she might be faking it for attention, I knoe I’m a horrible person for thinking this way but her story just doesn’t line up). And once I got back from the trip a few months later, we started to hangout together since we have the same friend group and started to get closer again and get the feelings back slightly. But I was going to quit my job and move to a different city and we knew that long distance isn’t going to work out and hence we did not take it any further. UNTIL one night where it was just the two of us in the office, things got heated up and she wanted to desperately have sex and although i wanted to get condoms from my car, she did not allow me to and we had unprotected intercourse. And she took the morning pill the next day.
And now the situation is that I’m waiting for her to call me and tell me if she’s pregnant or not. And I have no clue what to do
Update: she just called and informed me that she is infact pregnant. And there are complications in the pregnancy, she didn’t talk much since she was at the clinic still so I don’t know what exactly it is but she said something about the featus not being in the tube and it being dangerous for her.
What can i do? what should I say that can even make the situation a bit better??? I’m so clueless right now that reddit is the only place i can possibly ask for help
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Sounds like an ectopic pregnancy which isn’t viable. There won’t be a baby at the end of this. But she will have to have a procedure done to remove the fetus. I’m not expert on it but I’m sure a quick google of ectopic pregnancy would inform you better.
If you care about her and are nearby go to her to support her you don’t have to say anything but you could support her as a friend even.
Sometimes ectopic pregnancies destroy your chance of ever conceiving naturally which is a pretty big blow to any woman regardless of whether you wanted kids in the future or not.