3 years ago I fled the country and remarred. I was a coward and ran because my abusive ex husband couldn’t take the fact that I finally left him and broke into the house I was staying at twice. The first time he forced himself on me and the second my little brother was home and called the cops as my ex beat me bloody. He left before the cops came and my brother and I kinda just never talked about it. I made a report but my brother who was only 12 at the time was understandably shaken to the point he didn’t speak so nothing came of it.
In the end it didn’t matter why I left. Love or a pure coward but I left. My ex husband already had full custody of the kids because he used my teen records of VOLINTATILY checking myself into a mental hospital for suicidal thoughts. I have a record of being depressed, anxious, and bi polar. But I love my kids with everything I have. I worked on myself and started taking medication, even started gentle parenting and never raised a hand to my kids ever.
When I left my MIL sat with me and admitted she knew the abuse was going on and to leave while I had a chance. She would take care of the kids but I needed to go. She gave me money and support, she has secretly been working with me to gather paperwork and money to bring my kids with me. I had weekly talks on video with them without my ex knowing.
My MIL and I had been on constant contact and now she hasn’t spoken to me in two months. Legally I have a right to see my children at least once a week, but I’m scared that he found out. He never hurt his mom or kids before but it’s driving me crazy. I called my dad and he said he visits the kids every month and that they are happy and thriving, and is confused as to why the conversation stopped because my ex husband has apparently skipped town for a few months and only recently came home.
I know it’s only two months but they have been agonizing on me. Every day I send little messages asking how the kids are and saying how much I love them. I wait by the phone during normal scheduled video times and have frequently tried to call. My dad swore to update me when he visits next week but a week feels like years to me right now.
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I really hope your ex mil didn’t change her mind. Do you have the paperwork or?
All of this should have been formalized in court such that you could turn to them now. Suggest you contact your divorce attorney or find one to fight the fight for you
Would your father be comfortable asking your ex-MIL on your behalf? I’m guessing she went radio silent about the time your ex returned.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. You were strong enough to get away from him, and you’re strong enough to continue pursuing your children. Good luck!