I (45F) and my ex-wife (33F) have been broken up for a year, divorced for about 5ish months. We were together for 10 years. She got pregnant while we were together and we welcomed our son who is soon to be 3. I raised that boy for the first 2.5 years of his life as my ex had a more demanding job and I was able to stay at home and take care of things more with my schedule.
Long story short, our son is not biologically mine and she has been keeping him from me for the past 2 months because I had a schedule change with work and it no longer suits her so I’m no longer allowed to see my son. I’ve tried emailing, calling, texting. You name it, I’ve tried it. She now has me blocked on everything and continues to pretend I don’t exist. I have gotten word from some people who are close to her that she is hardly home between work and her new girlfriend. So there are other people essentially raising this boy but again refuses to let me do or help with anything. Bio dad is mildly involved but only sees him once or twice a week.
I feel like I’ve hit a massive road block and don’t know what to do, really need some advice. Should I keep fighting for this or throw in the towel? I’m not sure how far I would be able to get legally as the child is not biologically mine and she coerced me into telling the court there were no children involved during the divorce process. She is narcissistic and constantly trying to control the narrative. I live alone so money is pretty tight so can’t really afford a lawyer at the moment.
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You can’t get any actionable advice here that isn’t going to involve getting a lawyer. There is no way you can move forward with an issue this complex without professional, legal guidance.
Try looking in your area for someone who does family law and probono cases.
Your best bet is to speak with an attorney.
Way above reddit pay grade dude
It’s not your kid, move on and count your blessings…
Contact a Fathers rights org near you for a lawyer. There are over 1000 of them in the US
You should post under the family law or legal advice subs. I’m not giving you legal advice. Get a legal opinion from a family law attorney.
I’m assuming you did not legally adopt the son before the divorce was finalized and that there is no court order granting you any formal custody, right? If so, that’s gonna be rough legally. Legally, that’s probably not “your son” despite any emotional connection or moral reasoning. How much money can you invest in this legal dispute? This could easily be $10s of thousands of dollars for you to get an unsatisfying result. I would spend that money on therapy instead. Sorry for your loss.
Technically that’s not your baby and mom can get a restraining order against you if she feels like you’re stalking her.. walk away have kids with someone that truly loves and respects you. Going to court involves paternity testing and bio dad is sees the kid from time to time hell he might sigh o er his rights so you could adopt.. just let it go