Okay so confession time cause I just cannot!
So long story short yah I was curious, it’s been three years and I wanted to know if my ex became a sergeant so I sent an email through the departments (questions) email just saying “hey I’m curious if someone I used to know ever became a sergeant “ they go
“ who are you looking for ?” I go
“ insert his name”
They ghost me so I’m like wtf okay.
2 DAYS LATER MY EXES DAD TEXTS ME ASKING IF I HAVE TIME TO TALK.
I’m like wtf I havnt heard from you since I left your kid.
Anyway so he calls me and is acting all friendly then fucking asks me if “ have you been contacting _____ ‘s work?”
I’m like how tf “ um okay so yes and no..”
Here’s the thing again, I contacted like the offices or whatever not like his supervisor or whatever. Anyway his dad goes on to tell me that he thinks I’m a great girl but that I can’t be doing that, that those messages go out to all of admin and that when that happens people start “asking questions” and that “_____ won’t get in trouble but you could get in trouble”
Hold tf up
So not only are we paying tax dollars to fund these people ( that I respect) but they be ghosting us and then ratting us out? wtf hahaha so yah I was so embarrassed. Like cool so now not only does my ex know I’m wanting to know how he is but his dad does too 😆
Pretty sure my ex was scared I was gonna rat on him to his workplace, for being a cheater and so he called his dad to scare me out of it ( even tho I had no intention ) lol cause like how’s asking if he got a promotion gonna get me in trouble?
ANYWAY… what do you guys think, am I a crazy ex, please say no 😂
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Backup of the post’s body: Okay so confession time cause I just cannot!
So long story short yah I was curious, it’s been three years and I wanted to know if my ex became a sergeant so I sent an email through the departments (questions) email just saying “hey I’m curious if someone I used to know ever became a sergeant “ they go
“ who are you looking for ?” I go
“ insert his name”
They ghost me so I’m like wtf okay.
2 DAYS LATER MY EXES DAD TEXTS ME ASKING IF I HAVE TIME TO TALK.
I’m like wtf I havnt heard from you since I left your kid.
Anyway so he calls me and is acting all friendly then fucking asks me if “ have you been contacting _____ ‘s work?”
I’m like how tf “ um okay so yes and no..”
Here’s the thing again, I contacted like the offices or whatever not like his supervisor or whatever. Anyway his dad goes on to tell me that he thinks I’m a great girl but that I can’t be doing that, that those messages go out to all of admin and that when that happens people start “asking questions” and that “_____ won’t get in trouble but you could get in trouble”
Hold tf up
So not only are we paying tax dollars to fund these people ( that I respect) but they be ghosting us and then ratting us out? wtf hahaha so yah I was so embarrassed. Like cool so now not only does my ex know I’m wanting to know how he is but his dad does too 😆
Pretty sure my ex was scared I was gonna rat on him to his workplace, for being a cheater and so he called his dad to scare me out of it ( even tho I had no intention ) lol cause like how’s asking if he got a promotion gonna get me in trouble?
ANYWAY… what do you guys think, am I a crazy ex, please say no 😂
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This is absolutely, 100%, unhinged crazy ex behavior.
Yes. That’s objectively unhinged of you
You could have stalked your ex in a number of different ways that did not have you contacting his work. You being curious as to how his life turned out should not put him under scrutiny like that. Learn from the embarrassment and move on with your life.
How old are you? How the fuck did you think this was an appropraite thing to do? The questions email is to ask a question about a service or how to enlist .. not to stalk your ex.
Ummm… this is completely unhinged crazy ex behavior. You contacted his work? That is not normal.
This shouldn’t be in AITA… it should be in Am I crazy? And yes, yes you are.
So someone there told your ex and your ex told his dad and his dad contacted you?
Clearly there’s no information security for people asking questions. However as others have pointed out no you should not have done this.
It’s better for you if you move on from him completely and stop thinking about him
Is he your ex-husband and did he commit adultery or something? Do you have kids? So many questions but if the answer to these questions is yes then that makes sense. If the answer is no then why do you need to know that information? They can’t just give you information on someone that works there.
Yes. You are a crazy ex. But the first step is recognizing that, so you can be better in the future.
3 years later, I’m sorry. Yeah. IMO (gently)
You ratting on him for cheating 3 years later wouldn’t really do anything at all. So, he’slikely not worried about that.
Good exes or bad, I got word someone was calling around asking questions about me, years later, I’d feel weird and think they were crazy for sure.
It’d weird my coworkers out. It’d weird my family out.
Honestly if anyone saw that ex after, they’d warn them to go away and leave me alone, that my life inst their business, just like theirs isnt mine, too.