we are in college, he works the bar and i am a waitress across town in a restaurant. The main issue here is a month into dating I found out he was flirting with a girl who had come in with her friends three days in a row.
She followed him on instagram and he messaged her asking to “link”… he said he just wanted the attention and had no interest in fucking, which I believe, because he blocked her after like ten messages, before I ever found out.
I only found out because she complained to a good friend of hers, who she didn’t know was a mutual friend of mine, (she didn’t know he had a girlfriend), that he suddenly blocked her after expressing interest.
My issue now Is that we are returning to our college town and our jobs, and I’m worried he will cheat again. We have been together four months now, and this will be his first bartending shift since I found out. How do I cope with this anxiety?
He is extremely good to me, has never given excuses, and takes responsibility. I have all of his passwords with out asking, can look through his phone whenever I want, has unfollowed all girls on his own, and does his best to reassure me that he was just being stupid. His statement is that he wasn’t ready to not be single, but that he really liked me and didn’t want to lose his chance with me, so he asked me to be his girlfriend although he wasn’t ready.
I broke up with him when I found out, for like a week, he says he loves me deeply and wants me to be his wife, that he knows longterm and commited is what he wants with me. He says he KNOWS he will never cheat again, that after almost losing me completely what an idiot he was, and that he will never put himself in a position to lose me again.
Any advice or input? How can I feel more secure. After trust is broken all you can have in a person is hope/faith. He offered to quit his job and find another, but it is the final semester of college for him so I said there was really no point of going through training pay for two weeks out of the three month final semester TL;DR