My (F21) guy best friend (M22) drunk kissed me and I can’t stop thinking about it.

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Update posted on my profile

Last night, I went to a small house party for a close friend’s birthday. It was a typical night drinking, smoking, and hanging out. My best guy friend was there too. We’ve been close since middle school, completely platonic, and nothing has ever happened between us.

He’s very likeable ..not a player, but he’s kinda popular with girls even girls in my friend group. Let’s just say he has a lot of options.

At some point, he got really drunk. I was drinking too, but not as much. I saw him stumble, so I helped him up and tried to guide him to the couch. Before we got there, he suddenly turned to me, cupped my cheek, and kissed me out of nowhere. I was shocked because that’s never been our dynamic but in the moment, I just went with it and kissed him back and I liked it. He started getting more into it, but I pulled away because I didn’t want to do something we’d both regret and I was more sober than him.

Before I could say anything, he looked at me and said, “You know I love you so much, right?” I was too stunned to respond, so I just nodded, pushed him onto the couch out of panic, and moments later, he passed out. And I was still processing what just happened.

After that I went home. It’s the next day now and I’ve been thinking about the kiss and what he said. I know it shouldn’t have happened, he was pissed drunk.

But it felt…nice. And I’m still thinking about it. I know I shouldn’t. I don’t know if he meant his words. I’m trying to tell my mind not to entertain it.

He’s my best friend I ruled him out years ago. He has plenty of girls around him to choose from.

I’m in a weird place and wanted this off my chest. I am meeting him tomorrow I think I might pretend it never happened, I don’t want to risk our friendship if I do tell him.

I don’t want to get my hopes up for nothing. I feel like I’m over thinking I don’t know

Throwaway because my friends know my account.

EDIT: after reading everyone’s comments, I have a newfound confidence, and I will see him tomorrow and talk to him about what happened. And I will actually tell him that I liked the kiss and see what happens.

If he doesn’t remember or denies that it happened then I’m not going to bring it up haha.

Comments

  1. unusedjellyfish Avatar

    This is your love story, GO FOR IT

  2. tw201708 Avatar
  3. ncjr591 Avatar

    Yes go for it! And in 30 years you can tell your grandchild how you met their grandfather.

  4. My_2Cents_666 Avatar

    Drinking lowers your inhibitions. He’s probably wanted to tell you that for a long time but never had the nerve. He meant it.

  5. igraceeeeeeei Avatar

    you only live once.. this might be your love story op 🤷‍♀️

  6. redfa7con Avatar

    Drunk words are often sober thoughts

  7. igottogotobed Avatar

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained… Go for it. He was probably being pretty honest about his feelings.

  8. FreeUse506 Avatar

    Personally, I wouldn’t bring it up to him unless He brings it up. There should be total honesty on both sides. Communication, communication communication.

  9. NRpuffinstuff Avatar

    Oh I really hope there’s an update to this in the next few day….

  10. tallpaulmass Avatar

    He knows he loves you
    Tell him to not fuck it up

    Have 6 kids and lots of fun

  11. Own-Tart-6785 Avatar

    Awww update me!!!!

  12. TigerTime1996 Avatar

    Oooooh that boy LIKE LIKES you

  13. Delicious-Painting34 Avatar

    Because it tasted like peanut butter?

  14. UncouthBarbarian Avatar

    Drunk thoughts are sober feelings…. or however that goes… bro lost all his inhibitions and said the quiet part out loud. Side note… your person should always be your "best friend". Your confidant. The person you’ll tell things you WOULDNT tell people you don’t want to be buried next to. Food for thought.

  15. RagingAubergine Avatar

    You can tell him that he kissed you and you kissed back but stopped it because he was drunk and it was not right to do that when he was vulnerable, but the kiss was nice.

  16. buffalo_Fart Avatar

    Oh silly girl you want to marry your best friend not Chachi from the bar.

  17. CoolDude1981 Avatar

    And this kids, is how I met your mother.

  18. darksideofthesuburbs Avatar

    I need an update after you see him tomorrow!

  19. sitlo Avatar

    Drunk actions are usually sober thoughts. If you liked it I’m 90% sure he meant it. Life’s short. Go for it

  20. detached200704 Avatar

    As a way older guy who had been through your scenario countless times, let me give you the truth… The truth is no guys wanna be a chick’s best friend, we all wanna stick our dogs in your dip if you get what I mean..

  21. Deathdong Avatar

    I’d say maybe just talk to him ab his feelings without bringing up the kiss first

  22. Hot_Client_2828 Avatar

    Someone remind me about this please I can’t remember how to use the remind me bot

  23. MuffDiver12698u Avatar

    Same thing happened to me, we ended up HS sweethearts.
    I thought she was way out of my league and never made a move on her.
    One of the best days of my life was when she told me to kiss her.
    💋🎆🎇🧨🥰❤️❤️❤️💯

  24. New-Stable-8212 Avatar

    Go for it while you’re young. When you get old, it’s much harder to let something happen spontaneously.

  25. SocietyOk1173 Avatar

    You can trade BJs or jerk eachother off . It not gay unless you kiss. Wiskers and beards are nasty. Don’t overthink it. Everybody does it . Usually when they are young.

  26. SocietyOk1173 Avatar

    He remembers the kiss. He is acting like he doesn’t to Guage your reaction. It’s right there if you want it . You will regret passing it up.

  27. adictusbenedictus Avatar

    You should try and go for it. You know. No regrets

  28. lostacoshermanos Avatar

    Your obviously a lesbian op

  29. shahbh79 Avatar
  30. Elegant_Activity_841 Avatar

    Look imma be realistic here.. U said he is popular w girls so he is obviously good with them.. If he actually had a thing for u wouldn’t he hve done something bout it?.. He was drunk nd probably didn’t know wht he was doing.. So I m not saying don’t go for it.. But do it subtly.. Like oh u were so drunk last night lol u kissed me nd even said weird stuff.. If he acts all weird he might have a thing for u.. But if he is like whatever I was drunk it happens.. He isn’t.. Rest is upto u.. U wouldn’t wanna ruin ur friendship of yrs over this..

  31. Almym Avatar

    Get in there!

  32. n8wish Avatar

    Drunks and kids are telling the truth (because lying is too mich braun effort).

  33. jaidau Avatar

    Sounds like you friend zoned him and he’s been trying ever since that’s why you have male friends either they want you your friends or both no other reasons

  34. CelticDK Avatar

    How about you just talk to him? “Hey do you remember what you said to me last night?” And then go from there

  35. Aaphexttwin Avatar

    I hope there is an update. I understand why you’re feeling what you are, but you’re overthinking this, he told you the truth because his inhibitions were lower and it made you feel SO GO FOR IT!! and update us all once you have! 🙂

  36. over_kill71 Avatar

    In the future you will meet another man to marry and he will meet another woman. when this happens, you will talk to each other less and less until you never speak again. That’s what often happens in older age busy life with kids, pets, house, job, etc. his wife or your husband will be jealous of your friendship to a degree as well, further killing the last of what you have with him. So, go for it now. You have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain. One thing is for sure. if you let this alone, you will wonder the rest of your life what would have happened.

  37. Empty_Bowler_3907 Avatar

    Go for it, either gain something you really want or you don’t.

  38. JFiney Avatar

    He could pretend he doesn’t remember bc he’s nervous and embarrassed af and wants an excuse to not make you don’t want to be his friend anymore, don’t rule out telling him just bc of that

  39. Stunning-Type-9110 Avatar

    omg i love this please update us when you talk to him!!

  40. ZenMoonstone Avatar

    You could just say, “Hey, next time you kiss me (long pause) you better be sober.” Say with a sly grin.

    Updateme!

  41. Ill_Restaurant5081 Avatar

    Even if you’re just friends, the fact that you are cis, would make it kinda normal to kiss. He has a lot of gf so he must kiss alot. It may mean something or it may mean nothing.

  42. YeahTinyRuck Avatar

    You’re a walking Wattpad/AO3 story! 😭 GO FOR IT!!!

  43. Frinkos Avatar

    !remindme 72 hours

  44. jmlozan Avatar

    The best relationships start out as friends

  45. AgentOfJoy Avatar

    That’s sweet! Even if it was just in the moment, you can definitely bring it up and lightly tell him you liked it, and see what he says. That won’t damage your relationship. I think you’re totally safe to talk about it in a positive way without any negatives. If he seems like he’s not actually interested, you can just drop it, but I bet he is!

  46. GioPeyo Avatar

    Maybe the reason why he has not chosen anyone else is because he is waiting for you

  47. realgoodmind Avatar

    Just go for it. He was drunk and normally that brings out the truth. Even if he doesn’t remember, if you want it to happen tell him you do and make the move.

  48. hereforpopcornru Avatar

    This is the shit you tell your grandkids.

    If you don’t at least entertain this you will regret it for the rest of your life

    My vet is he has had that bottled up for years