Throwaway account because he follows me on reddit, but it’s currently almost 5am and he’s sleeping right next to me and i’m honestly at a loss. Me and my partner have been together since 2022 and overall have had a very healthy relationship. I don’t go through his phone but I know his password and tonight insomnia and boredom got the best of me and i decided to have a peek. not because i was suspicious i just wanted to see what he was watching on youtube. but when i went to his watch history ALL of his recent videos were of very young girls no older than 13 dancing, stretching, you get the picture. i’ve never felt like anything was off the past 3 years. Im just really scared right now and it completely changed my view on him. i know i shouldn’t jump to conclusions but how do i approach this??
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Yeah…..lets wait and see what excuse he comes up with as to why he needs to be watching young teens on youtube doing stuff like that…..sometimes you can call a spade. a spade…..this is one of those times.
Just be straight up. First, apologize for looking through his phone without permission. That being said, he needs to explain why he is watching those videos because you ain’t gonna date no motherfuckin’ pederast.
Are you fat?
Ok so he is definitely a PDF
I always want to hear both sides of the story, but I admittedly have a hard time imagining what the other side could be in this situation other than THAT.
Sometimes, not jumping to very obvious conclusions gives you room to gaslight yourself. He most certainly will.
You actually should be jumping to conclusions. This is a pretty clear cut situation. He is watching videos of children online where they are stretching and dancing. There isn’t really any sort of excuse he can come up with, he is watching videos of children online. These videos aren’t illegal, that’s why he is watching these ones, he can’t get caught up the legality of it. However… this is only his YouTube searches. I have to bet if you did a deep dive into his phone or computer you will find more concerning content.
Edit to add: do NOT tell him what you found. That will more than likely cause him to hide/delete evidence.
Not only get out, but call the police and report him. Let the professionals sort all this out.