Hi, I just want to share what happened today. He only has class on Saturdays, and he mentioned that they have a new substitute teacher who looks like someone he knows. He also said the teacher is “sexy.” At first I didn’t really mind, but later in our server chat he shared a photo of her and said again, “She is so sexy,” while pointing out that she looks like the same person he had complimented before.
That made me feel really hurt. When I saw the picture, I felt like I was the opposite of her, and remembering that he had called the other person beautiful before made it hurt even more. It even made me cry.
He tried to apologize and hug me, but I didn’t respond. I explained why the word “sexy” hurts me, but he only said, “I’ll never say it again,” which makes me feel like he’ll just hide it from me instead of really understanding.
Now I don’t know how to talk to him about it or what to say when he wakes up.
Do I need to leave it be once he wakes up so that there will be no more arguements?
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He apologized to you and won’t say it again. He will think other people are sexy from time to time, this is guaranteed, and so long as he’s not a biscuit who thinks everybody needs to know about his boner (esp. his gf) then that’s the best that you can expect. You’ve already made your feelings clear. He was a biscuit and he apologized and said he would stop the behavior. Do you need to keep talking about it with him? Are there other things lacking in your relationship, ie, is your sex life good (if you two have sex), does he compliment you, as well?
So.. You don’t want him to hide it from you, but you also don’t want him to say it to you?
So you want him to simply stop thinking other people are sexy?
Good luck with that