I feel like I’m acting so insecure and I need other people’s perspective on this. My boyfriend sometimes posts gym pictures. It’s nothing revealing. His muscles just look really good. He asked me if I was okay with posting it. I said he looks too attractive but obviously I didn’t say no. Is it wrong it makes me feel some type of way? I don’t want other girls lusting over his body. Like I’d rather have him not doing it but I don’t want to come off as a jealous controlling girlfriend.
TL;DR My boyfriend posts gym pictures and I’m not sure if I’m being too insecure about this
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I guess it also makes me feel some type of way because he’s protective of what I wear in the gym. He asked me to cover my ass and that’s what I agreed on to make him feel better
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I wonder if you would think that he was being too controlling if the roles were reversed.
U don’t wanna live in the feeling of jealousy. We are protective over what’s ours if it’s a boundary and you know it’ll bother you moving forward talk about it and let them know. They don’t have to post it unless they are trying to start a fitness program. Or make it a career. Otherwise it’s disrespectful to you. Also ask how they’d feel if u posted ur body online.
It’s his body. His choice. His dedication and hard work to show off. I’d be proud. If he’s gorgeous it doesn’t matter if he’s dressed or not. Plus, it’s social media. I’d try and focus on the fact he loves you. If there’s pics of you guys together, then absolutely no issues.
I think this has much more to do with your own insecurities. And this is not at all meant to make you feel bad, or that you’re a bad person. But I think it does have to be acknowledged. Now, if your bf is someone who has shown that he can’t be trusted, or has given you reasons to be suspect, that’s one thing. But, if none of the above apply, then I believe it’s entirely about your insecurities. I would start paying attention to how it makes you feel, why you feel that way, where does it come from, etc. insecurity can destroy relationships, and it would be best for you to get to the bottom of it.
i feel like when most men post gym pics its for the guys especially in your case since he has a gf
Everybody has different attitudes to social media use and what they’re happy putting online. Personally, I don’t post any photos of myself publicly because I’m a private person and I don’t see the appeal of showing myself to random strangers. My preference in a partner is someone who’s the same. I definitely would never post any gym / posing type photos, and I would not want my partner to either. It would really put me off someone if they did. It’s ok to have preferences like that – the key is finding someone with the same view as you.
Because at the same time, if somebody does like posting those kind of photos, that’s ok too. There’s nothing objectively wrong with it, and everybody’s entitled to live their life in their own way.
So in your situation, in my view there’s nothing wrong with either of your views on this, except that they don’t seem to match up. I’d suggest explaining how you feel to your partner. Emphasise that you understand that there’s nothing wrong with what he’s doing, but explain why it makes you feel uncomfortable, and ask if he’d be willing to stop posting them (but make it a question, not a demand). He might stop doing it because it’s not a big deal to him and he doesn’t want to upset you.
If it is important to him though and he doesn’t want to stop, then you have to decide how big a deal it is for you.
Nothing wrong with your feelings, but your reasoning needs a little work. If women are lusting over him on instagram, they are lusting over him irl, and there’s nothing you can do to stop that. Posting/not posting pictures doesnt change a thing.
But why does that matter to you? It’s probably just in your head and nobody’s even interested in him, but if they are, let them. He’s with you.