Couldn’t think of the a good title for this.
My partner and I have been together for 7 years and recently my partner has begun hiding my iPhone charger when I leave it plugged in to the wall behind the couch after using it. I get it, he’s frustrated that I (nine times out of ten) leave it plugged into the wall and the couch has to be pushed out from the wall because we all know how blocky and huge the wall plugs are for Apple so it could be annoying to him.
Yesterday, he hid my charger and flat out refused to give it back to me when I asked where he put it. He just watched me search for it and when I asked he told me I’m not getting it back. The last two times he hid it, he told me where it was after a few minutes, but was adamant he wasn’t giving it back to me on Saturday because I left it plugged into the wall and didn’t plug it out after using it. Last time I checked, I got into a relationship to have a partner, not a father..
I’ll admit, I totally went the toxic route when he refused after the third time of asking and wouldn’t budge, and clapped back that then he needs to give me back the loan I recently gave him of a couple hundred euro – my thinking in the moment was “if you’re going to take my possessions then I’m going to take all of my possessions back”.
Given the fact that I shouldn’t have snapped at him to give back the money loan, am I unreasonable to be angry that my boyfriend is essentially punishing me for behaviours he doesn’t agree with by withholding my possessions?
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Tell him to pay you back asap. Then find a new place to change your phone. Tell him to give your charger back or you will take something of his. Like carkeys.
Please let him be an ex asap. This guy is aweful
what’s the problem with leaving it plugged in?
refuse sex until this stops… I say that as a man. It’ll get his attention.
WTH is wrong with people. He needs to leave your things alone. What a micromanaging little control freak.
Yeah this is super gross. Not what you want. This is the universe showing you, in new ways that this relationship has served you. To get out of it in a patient and amicable way would be best.
He’s a child, tell him to stop or leave. Cos I bet there is other shit he does that you passover. I’d take a good look at EVERYTHING…that’s just me.
He needs to be an ex pronto.
Hiding and not giving back stuff is controlling behaviour that can easily escalate. Next time he’s frustrated he could get physical.
The couch being out a little bit is not that big a deal, although maybe you could have found somewhere else to charge it that’s not the point.
Boy bye. The couch is a little away from the wall. The horror! *clutches pearls and faints
He’s a controlling AH. He doesn’t get to control you using your charger.
Can you move the couch away from the wall enough to use your charger cord? The other option is a power strip so you don’t have to keep moving the couch. Do this after you dump him.