My famous husband keeps posting me as if we are together

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We’re separating. He knows this. I’ve emotionally checked out. I’ve been done. And yet today, he posts this smiling, adoring tribute to me like we’re the perfect couple.
Because that’s what he does, he curates. He’s a musician with just the right amount of edge and just enough “family man” sprinkled in to keep his audience swooning. He’s the hot bad boy who loves his wife and kid.
Except… in private, he’s cheated on me more times than I can count. Emotionally. Physically. Repeatedly. He’s disappeared on weekends. Lied straight to my face. Made me feel invisible. Undesirable. Crazy.
But sure, throw up a heart emoji and make it look like love. I didn’t comment. I didn’t like it. Because I’m not here to play along anymore.
He’s still performing the love story. That’s it about the fakeness of internet couples. You cannot get out easily and without the drama.

Comments

  1. CocoaAlmondsRock Avatar

    Comment on the post. Ask why he would post such a thing now that you’re separated. Make your posts about being free and happy.

  2. Tiny-Grocery9886 Avatar

    I know a guy like this, famous musician who wrote almost an entire album about his wife who he cheated on multiple times with women and sex workers. I saw it as an act of aggression not romance. He made her feel crazy too.

    I’ve met a few famous men who do things like this. It’s part of the industry / music culture – the sad groupies and hangers on. The women are expected to turn a blind eye, it’s to be expected. What do their wives and girlfriends expect etc..

    “He curates.” Exactly.

    I wish you all the best and it’s good you’re not willing to play along with his facade anymore. You deserve genuine love not a curated facsimile of love for the sake of his fans and followers. You deserve better.

  3. Time-Palpitation-945 Avatar

    Sounds like a form of narcissism. A need for the world and his fans to think he’s this great guy. It would probably cripple him for the truth to be known and his carefully curated image to be damaged. How he appears to others is more important than the reality of how he treats others.

  4. RaquelMencke Avatar

    Unfollow him and block him on your own social. People seem to notice these things

  5. WrestleswithPastry Avatar

    Oh my god, I lived this. Taking about how amazing you are from the stage just to insult you all the way home. Every event turns into a chance for them to perform, even our child’s birthday parties. Waxing poetically during concerts about how “the grace of a good woman and our babies saved me!” just to ignore said woman and child at every other moment.

    I am so so sorry. It is devastating to learn that while you were building a family and a life with someone, they were always simply performing. I wish you peace.

  6. SteveImNot Avatar

    Comment on the post “we are getting a divorce”

  7. jnuts9 Avatar

    Divorce him

  8. Electrical-Cap-6449 Avatar

    Not gonna lie I wish I knew who you were talking about. 🤣 Gotta give you lots of credit for showing such grace. ❤️

  9. ItsYaBoyBrakecheck Avatar

    Can you at least say what genre they’re in? I’m probably gonna get downvoted for asking (and I’ll completely understand), but the curiosity is killing me.

  10. bcgambrell Avatar

    This is the kind of story a gossip column/magazine would love. Why don’t you rat him out?

  11. brightlilstar Avatar

    I’m so sorry. That is really awful. SO many men do this but you have to have it in your face to a more widespread audience and that really sucks

  12. catattackkick Avatar

    Good luck Ms Class🌟

  13. Lucky_wildflower Avatar

    You have a lot of self control. LMK if you want me to comment on his post, “You told my friend you were single when you fucked her.”

    May you clean up in the divorce and rebound with someone hotter 🙏

  14. z-eldapin Avatar

    If he is going to post you publicly, comment publicly.

    ‘Why are you posting this while we’re dovorcing’.

    ‘Why don’t you post pics of the tons of woman you’ve cheated on me with’.

    Turn about is fair play

  15. Poo_Poo_La_Foo Avatar

    Performer’s going to perform.

  16. Antique_Radish758 Avatar

    Have friends comment things like:

    • “Were you looking at this photo when you were cheating on her?”
    • “Not sure what the goal is in posting this, seeing as you’re already separated?”
    • “Do you think this one photo is going to make her forget how horribly you treated her?”
    • “It’s obvious, more than ever, that you only care about yourself/your image considering that you’re already separating from her.”
  17. Osidestarfish Avatar

    Even the ones we think are the “good ones” advocating family and their happy life in public are shady af… yeah I’m looking at you Dave Grohl.

  18. ScienceOk3342 Avatar

    Is there a way you can hire someone to help your image for when/if he tries to spin this? Do you care about any PR fallout?

  19. ThrowawayQueen_52 Avatar

    The divorce filing will speak for itself. It will also reveal how disingenuous he is to his fans when they put the timeline together.

    Sorry for all you’ve been through. There are better days ahead.

  20. Onautopilotsendhelp Avatar

    Oh girl throw an anonymous tip to /Fauxmoi they will eat that up and throw his ass under a bus

  21. DarlingShan Avatar

    Ohhhh I’d love to know if you’re talking about that douche from the foo fighters lol

  22. Fun-Yellow-6576 Avatar

    If he’s famous, contact the tabloids and sell your story

  23. Kjaeve Avatar

    Hailey… is that you?

  24. finethanksandyou Avatar

    I also was married to a covert narcissist – run, the faster the better

  25. HiSamiSan Avatar

    HAYLIE BALDWIN WYD HERE LOCA 😝

  26. catslay_4 Avatar

    Staying completely silent and not saying a word will make it look outwardly like you peaced out on his ass! Then there will be no public toxicity on your part which interests other people and gets them talking. Just “he was posting photos of them last week and now she’s filed for divorce” and no one will know why 🙂

  27. -StapleYourTongue- Avatar

    I’d ask if you’re Paula Patton but that ship’s already sailed.

  28. Bobzeub Avatar

    My ex (boyfriend not husband). Who also cheated on me pulled some shit like this .

    Then when eventually I found someone else he told everyone I had cheated on him and a LOT of people believed him because as far as they knew due to his fake bullshit we were still together . It was fucking awful .

    Your ex husband is psychotic, but I agree with the other comments, block him . Out of sight out of mind .

    He might want people to come down on you like a ton of bricks if you move on .

  29. oooortclouuud Avatar
  30. chrissy9013 Avatar

    Fully respect you wanting to keep this mess quiet. No one wants an audience when their life falls apart. Can’t even imagine how infuriating it was to see him make that post. Did you ask him about it?? I’m curious what he would say to you about why he made it??

  31. UmbrellasRCool Avatar

    Reminds me of my dad. He always presented himself as the best guy, but behind closed doors he was an alcoholic who beat me and my mom. Everyone loved how he was always willing to help everyone. A lesson he taught me as a kid was, “Never do something for nothing. Everything you do for someone can always be cashed in don’t be an idiot and help people for nothing” he just liked being owed favors and being seen as the ideal man. My mom left him shortly after I moved out and she is so much better now. My sisters still idolize him but there’s nothing I can do about that

  32. TillyMint54 Avatar

    Block him & Refer all comments to his PR company or a prominent divorce attorney.

  33. ron_the_blackie Avatar

    why can’t this be aaron taylor-johnson??

  34. AlchemysDawta Avatar

    Do what everyone else does and go live to share your truth. If not, simply block him and avoid looking at his posts at all. Or do what another commenter said and comment the contrary and say something like “why are you posting me like we are still together? Please take this down.” I bet he will stop then.

  35. Vjeshtica Avatar

    Had a similar situation. I‘ve moved out of the house, and moved to another country after almost 13 years of being blindsided and cheated on. Cheaters are all the same. They are living in their own bubble and they destroy everything and everyone good in their life. My ex-husband’s assistant knew about his affairs all along. Trips. Dinner „meetings“. Constantly being late on everything. Never told a word about it. I was home alone with toddler and newborn not being able to walk properly, but there he was, party after party and not a single changed diaper for his daughter. He is in showbiz and even now he does the same. Kids are not even missing him. They do talk with him. But they are aware that he is everything but present dad. I had to contact him few times because of the kids. But even now all of the contact is strictly between our lawyers. Partly messy divorce. The best thing about that marriage are my kids. My son is now 17 years old and my daughter is 14. thank God i have really supportive kids and really well behaved. They are my world and my happiness. I needed years to get back up from that. But made it. and i protected my kids from all of the mess and turmoil between us as adults. So i am happy about it. My advice for you: Block and delete him. And close the book.

  36. SummerWinters00 Avatar

    His PR team wants to portray him as a good family man.

  37. JakobWulfkind Avatar

    Don’t block him, keep a log and screenshots of all of this and note the ways in which he’s lying. This isn’t legally actionable by itself, but if he starts using this as an avenue of harassment you’ll be able to document his dishonesty

  38. Peanut89 Avatar

    Dye your hair or something and post that publicly and repeatedly… make it clear they aren’t recent pics?

  39. 6poundpuppy Avatar

    That would just be truthful. Why would you be wary of commenting about the hypocrisy of this man? I’d be all over his socials with bits of truth saying here and there. Taking him down with a thousand cuts. Not all cap rants or such…just subtle little truth tells in response to his blatantly false facade.

  40. ShowMeWhatYouMean Avatar

    Show biz is ugly. Out him, comment on his posts.

  41. jvan666 Avatar

    it says just enough that you neither liked nor commented on his post.

  42. Prestigious_Smile579 Avatar

    Comment “why would you post this?” Every time lol

  43. i_kill_plants2 Avatar

    It would be so unfortunate if someone accidentally spilled to the tabloids that he’s a lying cheating dirt bag and is getting divorced…

  44. BoAtsNpRos Avatar

    That sucks… But Def Leppard is sick thou!

  45. Selene_92 Avatar

    Behati is that you?

  46. buffythebudslayer Avatar

    I’d comment and be like “… I don’t even know you”

  47. QHAM6T46 Avatar

    OP, I’m so sorry that your marriage turned to shit because this guy thinks he’s god on a stick. But you are handling things so incredibly. Stay the classy person you are. There’s nothing worse to people like your soon to be ex husband than giving no drama and zero fucks! 💐

  48. DryConclusion5260 Avatar

    Obviously, you’re not compatible anymore. Might wanna start thinking about divorce then

  49. intthemainvoid Avatar

    Really hoping this isn’t about Dave Grohl… But please don’t tell me if it is. Sorry you’re being put through this. Hope you find your peace.

  50. Either_Coconut Avatar

    If it’s FB, I think there are ways to untag yourself in others’ posts, and possibly ways to block others from tagging you. THAT, he might notice.

  51. wannaplayspace Avatar

    Your behavior is enabling it. Look at this post as an example; you did not mention who it was because you’re still protecting them. That’s the kind of thing a partner does. If you are splitting with them, stop protecting them. Respond to their posts and set the record straight. Your silence is consent.

  52. DramaticLeafLover Avatar

    Okay Hailey Bieber we know that it’s you!

  53. Perfectly-FUBAR Avatar

    This has to be Cody Johnson.

  54. Otherwise_Ostrich_83 Avatar

    Who’s your husband?

  55. RevolutionaryHat8988 Avatar

    Sister, my wife is friends with a Hollywood actress that’s won multiple Oscar’s …. I can assure the world that from what I’ve been told sooooo much of what we read about famous people is fake!

  56. riding_bones Avatar

    Narcissist. Go check the subreddits. Run!

    There is no sincere communication with the insincere. Nothing to fix, nothing to change.

    They are a spoiled/angry 12 year old in an adult body.

  57. queenieemua Avatar

    I’ll come back to this post I need to know who this asshole is

  58. South_Cupcake2315 Avatar

    Wow, I’m honestly blown away by how this blew up. When I posted this, I just needed to get it off my chest, exactly what this subreddit is for. I can’t talk to anyone in my real life about it yet. Not even close friends. And yeah, I’m still protecting him. If you’ve read my older post, you know this isn’t just some short relationship—it’s years, a marriage, and we have a teen. I’m protecting them too. That’s what a parent does. I want them to hold on to their peace, and their image of their dad, for now at least. That’s why I’m not naming names or going public. I want to keep it low profile.
    As for why I mentioned that he’s famous—it wasn’t for attention or clout. I just wanted to shed light on how fake these curated “couple goals” relationships can be. Maybe we’re seen as one of those, I don’t know. I don’t feel famous, but I guess some people might think of us that way. The point was to show how much goes on behind the scenes, years of lying, heartbreak, distance and still, people believe the fairy tale. They eat it up without knowing the truth.
    And to the person who said I married a rockstar and it was inevitable. yeah, maybe you’re not wrong. But when you’re in it, you don’t think that way. You’re drawn in, you fall hard, and you really want to believe that love can change someone. That you’re different. That it’ll work.
    Anyway, I’ve read every single comment, even if I’m not replying to everyone directly. I’ll leave this as my one big reply. Thanks for the support, the tough truths, the kindness, everything. It means a lot. 🤍

  59. Grace_Lannister Avatar

    Michael Buble confirmed.

  60. invah Avatar

    Once you’re in their inner circle, you’re no longer someone to impress, you’re someone to sacrifice.

  61. Canadaian1546 Avatar

    Replies to the post: ‘Sooo, is the divorce gonna be a secret or what?’ 

    But I’m petty.

  62. lsummerfae Avatar

    For your safety you should probably make it public knowledge ASAP, and refrain from going on hikes alone with him until it’s settled.

  63. slutheartdoll Avatar

    is this dave grohls wife hahaha

  64. katjoy63 Avatar

    so much of the internet is such a curtain shadowing all the rough behind it.

    I’m glad you are walking away and are advocating for yourself. Never let a man dictate who you are. Take care of you and your child.

  65. wildweeds Avatar

    the guy im working on separating from treated me like utter shit when i was there for him during his “emergency” aka panic attack he had during tooth surgery. and then online treated me like the best thing ever. it’s tiring. i can’t wait to be free. in my case, it’s easier to just toe his line temporarily bc it means i don’t spend every night fighting.

  66. flossiepanda Avatar

    I know it’s says musician but I’m twisting it to actor and going with Walton.

  67. Bionic_Push Avatar

    Social media is not real life. Just ignore it and move on. Eventually he will stop posting once you are divorced. Stay strong.

  68. RompoTotito Avatar

    Such an interesting perspective. Everybody wants to be famous but as a father now I’d rather this “boring” life than the one the man lives.

  69. littleray35 Avatar

    DM me who it is and I’ll gladly comment “aren’t you cheating on her?” Lmaooooo

  70. Eyes_Snakes_Art Avatar

    Unfollow him. Someone will notice.

    Or post it anonymously on dlisted here