I’m 21. My father passed 13 years ago. A relative has brought an old jacket of his from overseas and it’s one of the few things I have left of him. Grief has returned and I’m just reprocessing the fact I’m growing without him and will never see him again. I’ve always kept my head up high and stayed positive but it’s difficult. If you have any simple teachings, lessons, ideas, anecdotes, considerations. Quite literally anything I can think about, understand, and keep in mind moving forward I would sincerely appreciate it. Thank you.
My father is gone. What are some of the best teachings you can pass down to me?
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I’m 21. My father passed 13 years ago. A relative has brought an old jacket of his from overseas and it’s one of the few things I have left of him. Grief has returned and I’m just reprocessing the fact I’m growing without him and will never see him again. I’ve always kept my head up high and stayed positive but it’s difficult. If you have any simple teachings, lessons, ideas, anecdotes, considerations. Quite literally anything I can think about, understand, and keep in mind moving forward I would sincerely appreciate it. Thank you.
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Treat people the way you would want other people to treat you.
Work hard, don’t get into too much debt buying stuff you don’t need, and think with the head on your shoulders, not the one between your legs.
Also, eat properly and exercise. It pays dividends later on. Good luck.
always split aces and eights.
rub her feet.
keep your beer in a cool, dry place.
2 big things I learned from the gents in my life, that have been borne out by experience.
Make a habit of being your own biggest fan and supporter. Talk to yourself and fill your mind with encouraging words about who you are, what you can achieve, and what you can withstand. I know it sounds silly but the alternative (for me at least) can be that the negative thoughts win by default.
Be honest and true to your word. Sometimes it’s better to say nothing.
Always stand when you shake someone’s hand.
Never be the last to leave a party.
Put some money away for later, even if it’s only 10% of what you make.
Learn a new skill every year, 15 minutes a day is over 30 hours.
Do that thing you’re scared of.
When faced with a difficult situation, ask yourself “what will me ten years from now wish I did?”
I tell my daughters all the time, don’t worry about something until there is something to worry about. Don’t pre worry.
You are young. I failed to prepare for being 60 years old… financially and mentally. Save some money. Learn to do handyman stuff so you can care for the property you will one day own. Keep negativity away from you. If you enjoy music, pick up an instrument…it will give you hours of joy and keep you out of trouble. Watch biographies and documentary things on YouTube instead of stupid mind sucking stuff…learn something and enjoy.
Breath. Relax. Life has a way of working itself out. Mentally visualize what you want. I loved radio. I was a poor kid from Alabama that ended up being an on air DJ for 5 years…the pay sucked so I left LOL.
Help others if you can. Something as simple as taking the little old ladies garbage to the curb for her weekly.
You will be great because you are asking the right questions and seek advice. I was a cocky shit and thought I had all the answers….NOPE.
Good luck in this journey of life.
You only get harpooned when you spout.
Sometimes the bad decision turns out to be the best thing to happen to you, embrace the fear.
Don’t run away from yourself and try to be your own friend. It’s the only person you will have for your entire life.
Everything you do is a result of what you believe to be true. Always question what you think is true and why. The best gift you can give yourself is positivity from a place of strength, and that strength comes from knowing who you truly are and letting that shine.
Everyone has their time. Don’t be sad and compare yourself with others; you dont know how their lifes are like. Some people got married at 23 but separated at 35, yet some started dating at 30 but met the love of their lives. Some started going to college at 30 and got a job right after they finished studies, while some graduated at 22 yet cant find a job.
Keep moving forward. Dont let others and their stories discourage you from living your life.
What is grief, but love thriving.
Road rage is pointless. Also, drive predictably to avoid accidents. Nobody really expects someone to come flying through doing 30+ over and they’ll pull out in front of you.
Start investing now even if you don’t have much. Compounding interest will make you bank over the years.
Try to avoid a labor-intensive career or workplaces with lots of fumes. Your body will likely be totally worn out and full of issues by 50.
Do not ride a motorcycle!
Don’t ever get into a fight unless you or a loved one is attacked.
Use a daily moisturizer and sunscreen on your face. You’ll look far younger than your peers when you get older.
Perhaps this is a duh but most small vehicle repairs are easy enough to do with some basic tools and a youtube video.
When urinating on the side of the road, have all members of the group point in the same general direction.
Have you heard of the YouTube channel “dad how do I”. It’s really wholesome channel with content as the title suggests presented in a really wholesome dad way.
Being a man is based on your actions not your age
Youtube teaches you almost everything